Tuning Out Expected Fears and Negativity – How to Ignore Those Who Say “That’s just how it is!”

Earlier this week, I intentionally manifested something I had been told that “No one ever gets.” So what if they don’t? I was going to be the first. 

I wasn’t actually the first and I’m sure of it. The thing about manifestations is that someone has always done it before you. Whichever goal that seems to be impossible, someone has attracted it at some point in time. Rarely do we actually do something no one has ever done but when manifesting, our situation always seems unique, something that has never been done before. 

Where does that even come from, the never before seen and done? It comes from other people’s impressions and their stories. It comes from something they heard and experienced. It comes from them – not you – but it makes you feel like you will never get there if you listen to them. 

Tuning out those whose experience is the opposite of your goals is just good sense. Their life went the way it did because of their own attitude but where your life goes will depend of yours. 

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There are no universal rules of how and where one’s life will go except for what they expect. The fact that your expectations create your fate is the only universal rule there is. This is the essence of the Law of Attraction – what you expect to receive, be that your desire or the opposite, is what will end up happening. 

So, how can you tune out the voices from the outside and in your head telling you that you can’t manifest because it’s simply “not the way it goes?” Why should the way it was for them be the way it goes for you? 

It shouldn’t. But what we must be aware of is that if we believe them, the words of those around us will impact our manifestation. If we give them enough meaning to allow them to block our beliefs, we allow those blocks to actually become our own beliefs and keep us from living our dreams. 

At the same time, if the words of others are the only distraction we have, we’re lucky. It’s much more difficult to escape thoughts of the past in one’s mind and it is even easier to fear them. 

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The way to keep these voices out is to repeat to yourself what you want; then, immediately switch it with “It is what I must receive.” Do you want it? Does it make you happy? Then go for it! Acknowledging it as the only thing you must receive puts your focus on living your dreams and not someone else’s failed goals. 

The truth is, life doesn’t exist without belief. Sometimes, we manifest what we want and then want something better, faster and more profound. Other times, we manifest what we want but as it unfolds, we decide that we want an aspect of it to move faster (I’ve done this recently as well!) so we make that happen. And other times, we decide that the way we lived life until now was great and happy but we want and are ready for more so we step up our game. 

However you put it, life is beautiful and full of opportunities. All that matters is what we choose. And every time you manifest something you have never had before, it gets easier next time.

Think about this – if you got used to manifesting new things and experiencing the unconventional, you would never be afraid of attracting anything you’ve never done. So, practice. Attract something new every day. Attract a gift from someone. Let someone buy you flowers. Manifest some money from an unexpected source. Start small and soon, you will be changing your life entirely. 

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THOUGHT OF THE DAY

Adapt the manifestation process to yourself. If you’re a go-getter, say to yourself that it’s yours and once you’ve convinced yourself of it, make the moves to make it happen.

If you prefer the things you love to just come to you, be sure that what you want is coming, then sit back and relax. Visualize it coming in the way that makes you feel so grateful and more love for life and the world than you can imagine.

If you’re a combination of both, mix and match.

You don’t have to be anyone other than yourself to make your dreams come true.

You deserve to have what you want.

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Letting anybody get to you is a waste of time.

Plenty of people will love and admire you if you believe it to be possible.

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All Life’s Challenges Are Blessings in Disguise

Let’s be honest – we do not truly enjoy too many challenges life throws at us. At one time or another, we all felt that the permanent state of bliss was out of our reach. Just when we thought we might have reached an optimism nirvana, a challenge may have come along to derail our level of enthusiasm and force us to acknowledge we have not truly achieved inner bliss.

After the fact, we may be grateful for the challenges that helped us learn and turned us into better people but for the duration, we sometimes allow ourselves to be destroyed by them.

Having faith in your dreams coming true is often difficult when you have been exhausted by life’s excruciating circumstances. All of these circumstances are or have been challenges in their own right. Challenges exist to help us grow – this is my firm belief. Embracing this notion and accepting them when they appear will make getting through them a lot easier. There is no challenge that appears for no reason and there is none we do not learn at least one new thing from. Having said that, we truly need to accept them when they appear; if we resist them, they will remain. Changing our outlook on life’s challenges will stop us from trying to prevent them and will make them wash away.

After all, doesn’t everything we give no feeling to simply fade away?

Let’s go over the benefits challenges can bring if approached in the right way.

Your connection with your inner self becomes your only guide.

Look back on your life and you will find one or several regrets you harbour to this very day.

How many times did you make a specific choice in your life simply because you were expected to? It was not what you truly wanted but you succumbed to external pressure. We all did it at least once now, it is time to stop. If you already have regrets at this point in your life, what makes you think you will not have them in the future? You will unless you change and the time to make that change is now.

The pressures of the world can be painful to deal with but only our own thoughts are responsible for our lives. When faced with pressure coming from anyone (or yourself), focus on what your heart is saying to you. Focus on what you want and what makes you happy. You only live your life for yourself and those that try to tell you what to do are free to go ahead and live their own lives. Even when it comes from a good place, a piece of advice your heart is advising you against has to be ignored. Otherwise, you are not following your bliss and you will only have yourself to blame for the results of that.

When you are able to power through a challenge relying on your own beliefs, your self confidence will increase even more than you might realize. You will be happier and others will surely follow your example.

You are no longer easily shocked and the magnitude of any challenge is eventually minimized.

When accepted calmly, challenges are minimized in many ways. When you see them as opportunities, their effect begins to change. Challenges lose a lot of their power to rattle your thoughts and life while you only have yourself to thank for it. Imagine owning your inner power in the way that you never feel insecure about making a decision again. Imagine having the trust in your choices to be the only ones that could ever make you happy and feeling secure enough to make them.

You can.

Personally, I was never fond of the search process in life. Job search, searching for a Master’s thesis topic or searching for perfect clothes were all filled with ups and downs which nearly made me want to give up.

I reached my goal every single time. That was the only thing I knew I would do. The search process was my challenge. The waiting part and the sometimes necessary patience caused fewer problems for me than the search process, which with job hunting in particular was painful for me. Everything changed when one day, I decided to lighten (it) up because I knew there had to be an easier way to reach my goals since I knew with such conviction I would reach them every time. I decided I was going to appreciate the search process and learn everything there was to learn from it. Suddenly, I was able to draw into it anything I wanted with pure feelings, love and belief. This took a little practice but it was worth it.

Life may be giving us challenges in order to give us even more choices. This might sound odd but think about it – every time you were given a challenge you did not know what to do with at first, there were always several choices attached to it. Every challenge ultimately serves a single purpose – to allow you to confirm what it is you truly want. Challenges help us learn about ourselves and they appear to help us grow. Some have discovered what they wanted as a direct result of the challenge thrown their way and if this has happened to you, say ‘thank you.’

Say ‘thank you’ for any challenge you have ever been given, as it helped shape you into the amazing individual you are today.

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Thought of the Day

I find the majority of love advice to be encouraging of one’s constant focus on the relationship.

However, I personally find the perfect formula to be a mix of focus on the relationship and giving it the space it also needs by engaging in your own beloved life interests – they make us happier and then, we bring that happiness into the relationship.

How To Put Our Goal Preventing Issues Behind Us

We often forget that relationship focus and coaching exist beyond simply manifesting the relationship you want. Once it’s manifested, you must keep it, and you will do so by dealing with your deepest issues which every one of your relationship problems came from in the past. If you deal with those, Law of Attraction will draw even more love into your romance than you had before because resolving your issues results in feeling good about yourself, finally attracting your dreams as a result. 

That is how the process goes.

An existing couple is no different – they might get over a fight but the same issues will keep causing new ones in the future unless they are resolved. It’s not about the fight itself but about what causes it, and unless that issue causing a fight is addressed, it will keep coming back in different forms.

Some prefer to believe that the cause of a single fight was their partner’s reaction to our words, their words or specific actions; however, the cause of a fight lies in one’s (or both parties’) issues that have existed long before they even met their partner. When a fight happens, we don’t react to something we don’t care about. We actually react because our partner’s words or actions reminded us of an unpleasant feeling we’ve been holding onto for a while before we met them. We then project their words onto those feelings and end up upset, disregarding the notion they never meant to upset us and were just expressing themselves while we took it the way we did.

Fights can take over a relationship and we shouldn’t let them. Actually facing and dealing with those issues leading to them by causing us to be upset at someone’s words are what we should actually be facing. We have to be honest with ourselves about those issues if we want them to disappear and stop making us miserable, and we can make LoA work for us by doing so.

Issues can be dealt with in two ways – by thinking positive about ourselves and everything in our lives which leads us to easily resolving them by realizing we have outgrown them, or by facing them and realizing why they don’t matter anymore. Either way, it is by devaluing them because negative thoughts can cause misery if we choose to give them meaning.

We are much better off knowing our true self is stronger than any negative thoughts we may be holding on to. What hurts you doesn’t deserve you, and it certainly doesn’t deserve your attention.

Think well of yourself and think about those you love and admire. Focus on the people whose company you adore, and imagine spending time with them. All these things will shift your focus to personal happiness which leads to confidence in yourself and seeing yourself having what you want.

I have always had a very specific trigger to negative feelings in a relationship. I value feeling special and seeing myself as such, and when a boyfriend makes me feel anything but, my taste for the relationship starts to wane. In a relationship, I always give what I wish to receive by expressing how much my partner means to me yet my patience for being with someone who doesn’t express himself well enough has left me over the years. I want someone who dares to say what he means, has the courage to dive into love, be romantic and show me how much I mean to him.

In the past, I would summon enough love to see beyond hearing what I didn’t like but today, I want someone who sees and realizes that I want to be put first, because I put my  partner first. Those who have no interest in doing this can move along.

Sometimes, it is easier for us to say that we “feel like this is happening, that’s how it’s gonna play out” and let the Law of Attraction work – this particular mindset can be an easy way out when it comes to manifesting relationships, as we sometimes feel more natural thinking that the outcome is our of our control. However, even when we “can feel the relationship will go this way,” we are choosing this outcome for our lives!

Every “feeling” you think may have come from somewhere else was also your choice to acknowledge and embrace, and with that, give meaning to and decide that it was to be the outcome of your manifestation; now, since you know that, choose the outcome you want and decide that that one was meant to be! 

We choose the outcome of every situation, even when we don’t think we do. 

And at times, I focused on what I didn’t like to the extend that I had to decide if whether I wanted to stay or leave the relationship.

If the situation doesn’t suit you and you don’t want to fix it, walk away. Time is much better spent thinking about having what you want than disliking what you have. Some issues in a relationship we don’t care to fix.

If you want to fix your own issues on the other hand, preventing them from interfering with your future relationship with the right person, face them and realize that they’re probably outdated. Chances are you already spent a sufficient amount of time dealing with them and it is time to put them behind you – this very notion is often enough to stop thinking about a problem.

If you want closure, visualizing a positive scenario in which your issue has been resolved. Visualize injustice corrected and a chance to tell someone what you wish to tell them. Imagine this playing out in your perfect but positive scenario because visualizing it in a negative and upset way will not make it go away.

Then, you will automatically put it behind you for good. 

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You Must Focus on Your Ultimate Goal…Now!

Have you ever, for any reason, forgotten this very simple idea?

You must not obsess about the “how” or any other details of your manifestation but only keep your eye on your ultimate goal!

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