The Expression of You

The Expression of You

Even when it involves others, everything one creates in life is an expression of themselves.

Two people can harbor a friendship while seeing it with completely different (pairs of) eyes. One of these friends may feel they have a friend who will always be there while the other might feel they sacrifice much of their time for a friend while getting less in return. This banal example means that each of these two individuals holds a different self-perception/awareness than the other, resulting in different events manifesting in their lives.

These two individuals think differently of themselves and therefore perceive their lives to be writing two different stories. The second friend might be less and less motivated to give to the first because something we are missing in life (a version of unconditional support, in this case) makes us unhappy. The second friend may also decide to improve the friendship or move on – also a sign of self-perception, one’s desires and everything they believe to have deserved.

Look around you – you have created everything you have. Your job, your house, your salary, the relationships you have with those you love – how you feel about them reflects how you feel about yourself. You may have taken what you have for granted at times while all of it would have meant the world to someone else.

On the other hand, someone else may have everything you do but feel differently about it. They might live in an apartment of equal square footage but consider it too small while deeming themselves incapable of owning one they truly want. They might hold the same kind of job as you but feel differently about it. They might see themselves owning something you want but are unsure you can have. They might not see themselves as someone who can have many friends while you do.

What do you value? What are you missing, if anything? Is there anything you desire but feel unworthy of? Is there something you know you will soon receive? I am asking because a change in your self-perception will result in a change in your life.

Just like you have created everything in your life, you can intentionally create what you want and for that to happen, you have to become someone who is convinced they’ve got it all. When you believe you’ve got it all, you will indeed. Abundance perceived is abundance obtained.

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In order to be a happy one, your life has to be a true expression of you.

Is your job a true expression of who you are? In what way are you expressing yourself throughout your job? Are there aspects of yourself you feel the need to mask at work?

Is your lifestyle a true expression of you? Do you live just as you wanted or do you compromise in order to satisfy the needs of your family, friends or partner?

Is your relationship a true expression of who you are? Are you living it just as you want to or have you compromised on its crucial aspects because you felt insecure to seek out what you truly wanted?

Are you receiving desired reactions from others? Do they see you as you see yourself?

Our lives are genuine expressions of ourselves if they are what we wanted them to be. It doesn’t matter when any of us realized what we truly wanted, just that we did. It doesn’t matter if throughout life, some of us have changed our minds about what we wanted, as long as we realized where our hearts were.

On the other hand, if one knows they’re not living the life they truly want, they have forgotten themselves. My question is, is it really worth it?

It’s never too late to start being yourself.

Is Worrying a Way of Keeping Yourself Busy?

Is Worrying a Way of Keeping Yourself Busy?

Often, when you want to attract something you desire more than anything else in life, you don’t feel like doing anything in your current reality anymore until it comes. However, when you only think about one thing, that one thing, you are bound to run out of positive thoughts at some point and switch to negative ones.

Positive beliefs stick but a variety of positive thoughts comes and goes throughout the day. In the moments they go, it is important to switch your thoughts to something else that makes you happy instead of continuing to think about your desired manifestation. This is how the mind works so when you try to force yourself to keep the positive thoughts going, the forcing makes you switch to negative thoughts soon enough. Forcing yourself is unnatural, tension-creating energy that will ultimately rattle your brainwaves and produce negative thoughts.

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Girl Talk: How Positive Feelings Lead to Specific Positive Experiences in Dating and Relationships

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Spring awakening.

The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.

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The Law of Attraction and Weekend Lessons, Part II

The Law of Attraction and Weekend Lessons, Part II

I went out with my elementary school friends on Saturday night. Unlike our class reunion two weekends ago, this was a smaller group of just a few people who have had several nights out together since December. Those nights started spontaneously – two of us found ourselves in the workplace of the third when the fourth suddenly showed up. After that, the four of us planned a night out, two planned the reunion and two days ago, we had a fun night out enjoying drinks and live music. I loved it when we started shooting pool later on, though I believe I will never be any good at it.

The four of us have known each other for twenty five years on average. I turned thirty two in January, two others followed last week and the youngest group member will next month. Having known each other for so long and being the exact same age, there is great understanding among us.

It’s amazing to see the extent to which my oldest friends have grown up to be fascinating individuals, simply by being themselves. One of them became an online sensation last year after he declined to charge a book blogger client for a cab ride – instead of the money, he asked for recommendations on some new reads. Continue reading “The Law of Attraction and Weekend Lessons, Part II”

Manifesting Relationships – Does it Matter What Kind?

Manifesting Relationships – Does it Matter What Kind?

When I say relationships, I mean friendships, love, family relationships, professional relationships and any other you can think of. Let’s discuss manifesting them!

I believe we all have something we absolutely love to manifest and manifesting specific people is what really turns me on. Attracting friendships, relationships and specific people I want professional opportunities from makes all of us happy simply because I have decided that I bring happiness.

Manifesting specific relationships brings love into our lives while making them everything we wanted them to be.

When manifesting relationships with specific people, I aim for the both of us to be happy, if not happier than ever.

Manifesting professional opportunities means just as much to me in terms of making people happy.

Some people get a rush from manifesting money. Others, career opportunities. They get a rush from feeling powerful and manifesting even more power into their lives. I love to manifest both those things and maintain my professional and financial lifestyle with ease but the purpose of my work is to inspire other people. I love it when my work offers me an opportunity to create my best work to date and when I motivate myself to create it. I love being financially compensated for my work because it achieved the expected result. I love feeling deserving of the compensation I wish to receive and enjoy it.

Feeling deserving of living the life I want and nurturing my interests and goals makes me feel even more convinced that I am bringing happiness, excitement and value into the lives of the people I manifest relationships with. Everything I do and everything I choose to do makes me a happier person.

When it comes to feeling deserving of desires manifested, I always push for self-confidence as the answer. You already know that. However, self-confidence doesn’t mean having to be someone you are not; self-confidence means being comfortable being the person you wish to be, being comfortable doing the things you wish to do.

Self-confidence means feeling deserving of living the life you want.

When it comes to friendships, for example, self-confidence means avoiding being affected by negative opinions of others while choosing friends according to their appreciation of you and your friendship. Truly loving friends will love you and be happy for you while also loving and being happy for themselves.

When it comes you, self-confidence and love mean refusing to engage in negative self-perception, fears and negative life anticipations.

Self-confidence means expecting to receive the happiness you truly deserve. By default, self-confidence also means sending love out into the world with your actions, words, feelings and your honest approach to people.

When it comes to manifesting relationships, self-confidence means believing that you are succeeding because your goal is to make the person you want in your life happy! They already make you happy and you have decided to make them feel the same way. That’s how I see it.

Are You Surrounded with True Friends?

Are You Surrounded with True Friends?

Some of the recent events around me as well as many comments and emails prompted me to address the following:

Are your friends, family and other people close to you genuinely happy for your success in life, your positive personality and all the love, magic and gratitude you are attracting into your life?

Let’s be clear on something – they should be!

No matter what goes on in your life, you are a great friend if you’re unconditionally happy for your own friends and their success. Those who support your goals and desires are good friends and those who don’t are only expressing their limiting beliefs, making themselves less-than-exceptional friends in the process.

If someone’s constant negativity hurts your happiness and life, you can remove yourself from that person and seek out positive company instead. There is no reason not to.

Or, if this is a relationship you want to repair, you can do so as well. It’s up to you but either way, here’s what to do.  Continue reading “Are You Surrounded with True Friends?”

Do You Like Your Friends?

Do You Like Your Friends?

It is often said that our friends say a great deal about who we are.

What you must know is that our friends may serve as mirrors in various ways. They could be critics, support, a getaway filled with love and relaxation or warning voices that remind us of the important things we may have forgotten over time.

 

Different individuals in your circle of friends could remind you of the different things you either love or struggle with – just observe your reactions to their words and you’ll understand what I mean. On the other hand, you might have one or several friends who seem to bring out the best in you.

You might also wonder where these differences come from.

Our friends do not decide who we are – they simply reflect the aspects of already existing self image back to us.

Your friends who feel good about themselves and/or your mutual friendship are probably the ones who make you feel hopeful, happy and seem to bring out the best in you. At the same time, you might have a friend who always makes you appreciate your life simply because they don’t appreciate theirs, focusing on everything that’s wrong with it. This person might make you appreciate your life but also makes you want to keep your distance due to their morose outlook.

Most importantly, what kind of people do you want to surround yourself with from now on? What specifically do you want to have in common with them? Do you want these individuals to be upbeat, creative or intellectual above everything else?

How do you see the time you want to spend together? What do you want to be doing and discussing?

As you can see, your friends can impact you in many ways. LoA states that those we meet mirror our true selves back to us but it doesn’t always explain the ways in which this might happen. Now that you know, you can examine the company you keep and why.

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So, what do you value in the company you keep and why? What have you learned from the people you choose to surround yourself with or are currently surrounded with due to your current circumstances?

Share your personal findings in the comment section below!

 

 

When One Doesn’t Need a Relationship…

When One Doesn’t Need a Relationship…

The more I think about it, the more I’m convinced that self-confidence and the ability to let go share a deep connection.

I was given permission to share this story. Recently, a friend of mine got out of a long-term relationship and while wanting to relax before hitting the dating scene, they became a target of some very interested individuals instead. My friend’s lack of interest in anything serious removed the internal need for a relationship which resulted in becoming magnetic to the opposite sex. However, these individuals who are targeting my friend overdo it to say the least, reciprocating every iota of interest with a snowball of excessive attention. With my friend’s breakup still fresh in their mind, causing some conflicted personal values, they have come to fear refusing these individuals’ advances and hurting their feelings.

There is no doubt that my friend needs to regain their confidence and values before entering a new relationship but the behavior of these two individuals who have their eye on this friend of mine shows attachment instead of confidence.

How do I know?

Let me explain.

My friend doesn’t feel that either of these two individuals is quite captivating. They feel that both individuals are sweet but overplaying their hand, possibly insecure and coming on strongly instead of respecting the need for space my friend (verbally) expressed. Instead of receiving the space requested, my friend is being chased which is a primal reaction on an energetic level but a poor choice on their admirers’ side.

I have said before that one can make moves only when certain that what he/she wants belongs to them already. On the other hand, making moves in order to “get” something one doesn’t have yet is generally a bad idea. Simple as that.

What my friend does have in this case is fulfillment in their single life – having come out of a relationship, they feel the need for a new one and attract admirers as a result. My friend feels good on their own right now which is a requirement for anyone wishing to attract new people.

At the same time, my friend is attracting the people they are not interested in having long term (or, any kind of) involvements with. This is because they are putting the pieces of their personal happiness back together yet none of the individuals pursuing my friend are convinced that they can make the relationship happen.

There are plenty of LoA lessons in this example. If one of my friend’s admirers decided that they wanted a relationship and had unconditional faith, that relationship could happen.

If one of my friend’s admirers loved themselves as much as they keep asking my friend to “love” them, my friend would feel much stronger attraction for them.

To sum up,

Those who love themselves and are confident in their abilities can let go of their desire to manifest. They already have much love in their lives…because they give it to themselves.