You may never feel guilty about manifesting anything you enjoy.
Can you see a clear manifestation path, an obvious course of events from now until your desire comes true? If you can’t, create one!
Today, I want to talk about knowing and loving who you are.
What happens when you think your manifestation might arrive at a specific moment yet it doesn’t? You might have gotten signs or feedback that lead you to believe it was happening only to discover that it wasn’t what you hoped for, at least not just yet.
The more I look, the more I notice the amount of emotional guilt many have grown up with and feel to this day, effectively preventing themselves from manifesting the life they want to live.
Has anyone ever tried to make you feel that you should make them happy instead of yourself? Do you agree to the things you don’t want in life just to make others happy? Do you feel undeserving of the things you want or feel that you’re asking for too much? You don’t have to feel any of these things but emotional guilt connected to them might still bother you.
Emotional guilt goes together with inadequacy, fear of letting others down and fear of greediness instead of enjoying the abundance of life.
HOW LOVE CAN HELP
Many don’t realize the magnitude of their emotional guilt until they find something or someone they love with their entire heart. Then, they suddenly see the difference between love and need, realizing that loving someone means accepting them for everything they are. If you don’t fully accept someone, you cannot love them. This is when it dawns on them just how much many people in their lives tried to project their neediness on them while masking it as love (or worse, believing it truly was love).
Love doesn’t make you feel bad. Love makes you feel great! One cannot be treating themselves and others in a way that makes them feel poorly and call it love because it is not.
When you know what love is, you can use LoA effectively. You can attract the life you want because love makes you realize what it is you want.
HAVE YOU RECOVERED?
Do you feel that getting hurt prevents you from feeling love?
Whatever you went through in life, don’t let it make you feel damaged. Don’t tell yourself that you are worthless because everyone goes through something. However, your sense of self worth decides on your life therefore allowing yourself to create your own environment should include the people you want to spend time with and love for the right reasons.
What we give emotion to, we manifest – good or bad.
Start putting positive emotion into the idea of experiencing what you want! Focusing on what you don’t want to experience will keep you stuck.
It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it – this phrase is LoA.
Two people could do the same thing, one with confidence and one without. One could feel good and the other could feel poorly. Which do you think would succeed?
One could do more than the other but their actions would mean nothing unless they felt right. The other could take much less action but feel like they got what they wanted already and manifest accordingly.
See what I mean?
“Class is in you. Either everything you do is classy or nothing at all, no matter what you do. You can’t teach that,” a friend of mine once said.
Some do whatever they want and they are tolerated or praised. Even when their actions are something that could evoke judgement, it usually doesn’t. When it does, they are understood, their behavior justified or daring nature secretly admired. Others do what is “right” because they fear life going wrong. They are so focused on the right and wrong that they forget their own happiness. They put everything else before their own happiness because of some sort of guilt. They feel insufficient and hope they might be deserving of their desires if they were “a good person.”
A happy person is a good person.
Class, grace, magnetism or anything similar always starts with you! Often, projecting these qualities means being able to deal with yourself, your life and your decisions. Often, this also means self love and self comfort. Make your own decisions and stand by them; allow the ultimate you to shine.
This often happens with relationships but can also be experienced with any desire one considers to be a gigantic life change or the answer to all their problems, the ultimate escape from their current reality.
Some simply see their desire as a big deal that would make them happy beyond their wildest dreams and change their life forever. Even though positive in its core, this particular way of looking at your desire can cause resistance in you instead of allowing for a smooth manifestation process.
If you think your desired manifestation will be the answer to all your problems or somehow add value to your person and life, remember that you are the one who has to provide their own life with value. Someone can be an addition to you but you must hold your own value. You could have more money, your dream career or a bigger home but you still must provide value to your own life.
See what I mean?
You might think that you will be validated when your specific person asks you to marry them or when you get that perfect job. However, you must validate yourself now. You are the only person who has to recognize your own value before anyone else does. If you know your value, you will know your power. You will know what you deserve and that is everything you want.
If you want your desired manifestation to make you valuable, think about it again. If you don’t feel valuable, why should your desired manifestation happen in the first place?
When we feel poorly about ourselves, nothing happens but when we feel good, we make everything happen for ourselves with our thoughts and feelings.
When you feel valuable, you are happy to contribute to the world, your relationships and choose the life you want simply because you deserve it. When you realize you are valuable and beautiful, your desired manifestation seems like the natural next step for you instead of some goal that will forever be out of reach.
Don’t be afraid to feel and think well of yourself – you deserve it.
Do you feel guilty about wanting what you want? Do you feel that you’re asking for too much?
If you don’t want to manifest your desire for the reasons you deem noble yet you are unhappy and would only be happy living your desire, remove the guilt and only accept what you truly desire.
If you love it, it’s worth having in your life. No matter what you manifest, someone will (or, might) always criticize you so you might as well manifest your true heart’s desires. When you know that, guilt simply no longer has a place in your world.
Do you ever feel guilty about living in a beautiful home, being born into wealth, owning beautiful clothes, driving the car of your choice, the admiration you receive, working very little for great money, ending a relationship to great protest from your (former) partner, being in a relationship with someone who was desired by others but fell in love with you or quitting a job because you knew there was something better out there while your boss objected?
Do you feel guilty because of all the praise you receive, thinking you should be doing even more or fix the problems of every person in the world?
Do you ever feel guilty for having your pick of potential friends and romantic partners because people seem to be magnetically drawn to you?
Do you ever feel guilty for putting your own happiness first?
Do you feel guilty for being able to manifest everything you want instantly while others struggle?
Or, do you know that you should just enjoy and feel grateful for everything you have, loving it immensely, loving your life and knowing that the way to keep the blessings flowing is to be grateful for them?
In order to keep anything in your life, you must love and appreciate it. In order to keep another person in your life, you must love and appreciate them.
I can tell you that attempted guilt trips from some people in the past have made me want to distance myself from them. Once, a friend told me I was wrong to want to spend time with people other than her, as she wanted to do everything together. I felt suffocated and distanced myself from her until she eventually ended our friendship. I was grateful for it.
Another time, I quit a job after only four months. I knew it wasn’t right and leaving as soon as I realized it was the right thing to do. My then boss protested, making me even more convinced that I had made the right decision; however, someone close to me told me I should have stuck it out since “this man did hire you, after all.”
So what? It was his choice to do so, just like it was my choice to stay in this job or leave. I disliked the job and working with him profoundly, especially his sudden expectation of my working full time for a part time salary. It was an unhealthy environment for me to be in and things would have only gotten worse had I stayed. By the end, I wanted to distance myself from him as well as the person who had protested my choice of quitting together with him. Days later, I packed up and flew across the continent to visit some friends and remind myself I deserved to be happy.
Many fail to see the difference between choice and attachment. Every job, collaboration, friendship and a relationship is a choice! Someone who disagrees with your choices and tries to guilt you into making their choice is not giving love to you even though they think so – instead, they are trying to force their attachment on you, thinking you should want the same thing they do. They believe you don’t want to be with them as much as they want to be with you and condemn you for it in one way or another because they allow your freedom to upset them. When someone thinks that you should want to attend to their needs, they are projecting their (negative) feelings of inadequacy on you.
On the other hand, if they loved themselves and gave love and freedom to you instead of depending on you for their (temporary) happiness (because happiness based on external factors such as another person never lasts – only inner happiness does), you would have changed your mind. In that case, they would have offered you happiness and quality to come to.
It can be difficult to keep something in your life if you don’t appreciate it. What you feel negatively about in any way tends to leave or never appear, depending on whether or not you have it already. This is why you should never feel guilty for anything you love about your life.
You choose your experiences, career, love life, financial wealth and happiness.
You choose the people you want in your life.
People choose to talk to you, be with you, not be with you or create any type of connections with you – just like you do with them. If you want someone in your life, you are to influence them with love, positive energy and feeling wonderfully about yourself so that you could allow them to feel just as wonderfully about you. You are to respect their freedom and send loving/positive energy to them if you want them in your life. This energy will attract them. Out of that freedom, others choose to come to you which is how couples and friends come together.
So many are unhappy because the world tells them what they should want and they listen, as if they hold obligations to anyone but themselves. Their guilt dictates their reality.
You must be sure that what you want is yours and feel grateful for it, without guilt. Feeling guilty about wanting to live an abundant life keeps that life away from you.
I never feel guilty about anything I desire – I deserve it. If I take some time to figure out what I want, that’s fine, too. Life isn’t going anywhere and there’s plenty of time for everything. As soon as I decide and change my inner energy, life catches up.
When consciously manifesting, many start to fear the negative. They fear losing their desire instead of bringing it to life.
Some continuously battle their negative thoughts which can be deeply upsetting. These thoughts lower one’s vibration by saddening and exhausting them, creating massive fear.
Fear tends to be the most draining negative emotion of all. Sadness goes away when we focus on the generators of happiness in our lives; I truly believe that sadness can pass faster than one realizes, as one of the great human tendencies is to seek out happiness.
Fear is an empty, false emotion which enables us to scare ourselves to the point of mental paralysis based on the thoughts we’ve produced ourselves.
Fear tends to go away when one feels that external proof of their desire manifesting is present… But only short-term. Unless resolved, disabled and eliminated, fear will continue to return until removed.
The trick is to give your negative thoughts a positive meaning. Do you feel capable of doing this? That part has to do with your self-confidence.
When thinking about your relationship, you may be consumed by many fears connected to it instead of enjoying the happiness it brings. These fears did not appear to prevent your relationship from coming to you but for the purpose of resolving them. Don’t feel guilty for having these fears either – everyone has experienced them.
Often, there is a specific set of circumstances one tends to dread, causing the fear to keep coming back. The phrase of “nothing to fear but fear itself” applies perfectly, as being terrified of a “what if” scenario prevents the manifestation of your desires.
Not to mention that negative thoughts mean one doesn’t believe of having their desire yet; negative thoughts are just another way of expressing one’s disbelief in living their dream.
Let’s be clear – a literal scenario one may fear rarely manifests, if ever. However, one might become so paralyzed by the idea of this fear, lowering their vibration horribly and manifesting unrelated but also undesirable circumstances in life.
What is there to do when a scenario such as this one occurs?
Feel gratitude for your negative thoughts and consider why they appeared. The truth is, they are here to give you the chance for a permanent freedom from their prison.
When negative thoughts appear, say, “Thank you for these negative thoughts, as they point out my limiting beliefs. What do I believe about myself? Let’s resolve it. Why do I fear this-and-that? Because of my past? Because of how I feel about myself? Do I feel inadequate in this-or-that area of my life, my personality or because of my looks?”
The answers will keep coming to you. Face them without resentment or resistance. Be honest with yourself; don’t be embarrassed of your self-perception, as it can be changed to better. Nobody has to know you are thinking about these things; you can do it quietly.
Once you are capable of feeling gratitude for the good and the bad, the positive and the negative, the empowering and the weakening thoughts, you will be transforming all of them into positive thoughts. The negative will disappear after you’ve learned your lesson from them – you will realize why you attracted some positive and some negative things in the past. Once you start to focus on the positive sides of yourself and your life, you will be attracting positive things.
Most importantly, you must start seeing happiness as a natural thing!
It is natural that the person you want to be with should want to be with you. It is natural that the money you want to manifest should come to you. It is natural that you should live where you want to, wear the clothes that make you happy and work where you would love to. Fear is not real, therefore it should never stop you. However, facing it should set you free.