Dealing With Another Person’s Criticism of Your Appearance

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I recently changed my hair color. Many of my close ones liked it, loved it or commented of how striking it was…except one person.

One of the closest people to me told me my new hair color was “too dark” for me several times. Their opinion didn’t change my perception but I didn’t like hearing it either.

Then, I realized that it wasn’t the words I heard that lowered my vibration – every time this person commented on my hair, I was already on a moderately lower vibration than usual. I’d been tired or momentarily annoyed about something and right then, this person commented on my hair without me having asked.

So I got back on a high vibration. I pampered myself, chose positive thoughts, had nothing but positive expectations and nurtured my appearance. I started manifesting many things every day again and soon enough, I began receiving compliments for my hair from most individuals I would come across.


I already loved my hair when looking in the mirror and then, everyone else told me how much they loved it, too. And the best thing was that I had partially raised my own vibration by looking in the mirror and loving what I saw, regardless of the disapproval from a person close to me.

I hadn’t questioned my love for my dark hair but this person commented on it being “too dark” in the moments my vibration was low due to other, unrelated momentary irritations.

It only matters what you truly like – not anybody else.

I wish I could tell you I had come to some new revelations as a result of this but I am simply going to continue to preach what I always do. It only matters that you always keep yourself on a high vibration for yourself, do what you like and expect to receive what you like/expect that everything you want is yours already. No one else’s opinion matters and it won’t make you happy unless you like yourself. You have to think about who you want to be and what will make you happy to have.

Criticism from others doesn’t come from them even when you feel like it does – it comes from you already feeling not so great about yourself. It comes from perceiving your own lack of value while being on a low vibration. When you engage in annoying thoughts about anything, you don’t believe the best of yourself and then, others don’t either.

When you’re annoyed about anything, you acknowledge that life isn’t what you want and your vibration continues to lower; however, when negative thoughts come and you pick yourself up by remembering how valuable you are and that what you want is yours already, you remember that you deserve and already possess everything you’ve set your heart on.

Confidence and self-love are even more important than you think, even when you perceive them as the most important aspects of life. There is no limit to their importance to our happiness.

You must put in the necessary work and discover what you truly desire. If someone’s words or behavior upsets you, this is a sign of being unhappy with yourself and until this part of you is resolved – not by receiving approval from others but by you – you will be preventing yourself from manifesting your dreams.

Switch to being a positive person from now on and watch everything you want come together soon.

LoA and Quality Alone Time

If one can spend quality time on their own, one will have removed the need for the things many of us have gotten used to having and tricked ourselves into “needing” over the years.

In moments of solitude, many have tricked themselves to believe to be bored by default instead of exploring potential activities they could enjoy on their own. Then, many already know how to appreciate their time alone. Some love reading and writing in complete solitude. A friend of mine likes to drive around for hours and think. Some do nothing but simply disconnect themselves from the world which replenishes their minds. Another friend of mine took my advice and made a habit of going out to lunch alone while reading a book. Regardless of the specific activity (or a lack thereof), the ability to enjoy some alone time goes a long way when it comes to confidence and with that, faith in one’s manifestation abilities.

You might wonder how exactly this works.

Here’s how.

Enjoying some alone time allows you to see why you don’t need anything else. You are perfectly capable of finding amusement and productivity all on your own; knowing that, you can simply become grateful for everything and everyone that make a great addition to your life. You can be grateful for any conversation you have, all your friends and family and realize why relationships are natural to us – they make us happy, even if we don’t actually need them. You could be fine on your own but knowing that can also easily allow you to be grateful for everyone in your life.

You just spent some time alone and you survived. You don’t need other people – you just like them.

Knowing this can help you remove the need for your manifestations, allowing you to finally manifest. Removing the need for company and just appreciating it helps you manifest.

Try and spend a few hours on your own – you will start to enjoy your own company.

If Your Dream Scares You…

What is there to do if your deepest desire scares you a little?

Occasionally, we may experience fear at the thought of actually receiving and having to live our dreams. The idea of an entire life changing, a comfort zone disappearing, new habits forming, new circumstances appearing, new people attracted and what was once a desire suddenly existing in one’s reality every single day is enough to make a head spin.

If your desire scares you, good! That means it excites you, makes you curious, challenges you and will change your life. Ultimately, isn’t that what you want?

If you didn’t wish to change your life, you wouldn’t have desired anything new. You would have simply stayed within your comfort zone because you love it, not because you’re used to it. Your desires exist for good reasons therefore you should want to experience them fully.

My desires can scare me a little yet overcoming my fears has become my comfort zone. I take the energy of slight fear wrapped around a new life situation and I unwrap it with loving energy. One step at a time, I remove the tie around the reality that could show me love and bring me magic if I allow it to while forgetting the conventions, ignoring limited ideas and breaking all boundaries.

If I deeply desire to experience any reality, who are you to tell me I shouldn’t? Everyone has at least one person in their lives quick to express disapproval of more than just their choices – many see others disapprove of something they truly love. Happiness is irreplaceable when it stems from the heart, which makes it real. This is why reality is created rapidly when using heart energy to manifest it – there is nothing more real to us than everything we love.

The minute you know you love something or someone, truly love it as clearly as knowing you’re alive, the only option you know is living that reality, knowing that it belongs to you already. When we know that love is true, the object of our love is already a part of us. However, if we allow ourselves to ignore it (and I don’t understand how anyone could ever ignore something they love so powerfully), we will be the ones hurting ourselves – not those who refused to accept what we desire. Often, the fear of disapproval from the rest of the world lurks around our desires, causing many to retract and give up on their dreams fearing what others might say. Then, they choose to stay put.

Why choose what you already know? If everything were that great, why would you be attracting a different reality in the first place? Not to mention all those bitter regrets that will soon catch up with you, destroying that last iota of happiness in life. Is that a club you wish to join?

A comfortable life is not a positive life. Comfort coming from approval may disappear at any moment – then, what are you going to do? Change yourself every time the world decides you should?

When it comes from love, from true feelings, comfort is secondary. It is not something one even considers because they can only be happy and by extension, comfortable, with what their heart desires. Nothing less.

Think about it.

If your dream scares you, feel lucky! This means your life will change and if you never wished for it to, you wouldn’t be reading this right now. In my experience, it also means you will receive even more magic than you expect to receive. Attracting a new, positive change into your life still leads to a significant improvement, one you have to live with every day – an idea that exists to be embraced.

The choice is yours.