If you don’t know what you want, you are always presented with two options.
It’s important to consciously choose not to engage in behaviors that are comfortable but ultimately make us feel like we’re standing still.
It’s important to consciously engage in the behaviors and habits that make us feel optimistic, fulfilled and abundant.
Sometimes, we tend do what we’re used to, almost oblivious as to how horrible it makes us feel. We watch the movies that make us depressed. We engage in social media stalking. We start arguments. And for what? To end up feeling like we just never, ever get what we want?
I don’t think that’s our goal.
Do you know why we do it though? Because we’re bored.
Unless we happily imagine having what we want and make an effort to choose good thoughts in other areas of our lives, we are going to end up bored and set our manifestations back just so we have something to do. Unless we make a conscious effort to engage in hobbies, music, movies and people we actually enjoy, not worrying that there’s such a thing as too much joy (there isn’t), we will keep going back to depressing but addictive behaviors.
Unless we care to act like the person we admire ourselves for being, we will continue to be whatever personality we can simply be bothered to inhabit.NG
You know what else we might be worried about? Once manifested, our desires feeling exactly as they do now. Not better, not as great as we thought but just as they do now – empty and uncertain, meaning we’re stuck. Leaving us disappointed and feeling like we made a mistake. Feeling like we should have dropped it and never manifested in the first place.
Sometimes, we count on our desires to change our lives. And, they can – just not after we manifest them but before. Yes, that’s right – a manifestation can change our lives if we have decided to change them first by knowing it belongs to us. Life moves from believing to seeing, and happiness a manifestation brings is no different.
We need to engage in positive action towards ourselves; that way, we will turn our manifestations into what we want them to be. In every way.
Note – I used the word depressing for a lack of a better one. I don’t consider you depressing. Or myself.
But we shouldn’t ever engage in anything that makes us negative. If we end up feeling negative as a result of our own activities and thoughts, we will just be wasting our lives. And continue to be bored.
Losing touch with who you are is what causes unhappiness, not the change in external circumstances. Yes, this type of change can be confusing, but if we look at any changing circumstance and say, “It’ll improve,” then it truly will.
And how do you lose touch with who you are? You start to feel that you are not someone you like.NG
To me, this meant being afraid. I am only happy when I’m fearless and in the recent years, I had become aware of the things I cared about, a.k.a. had to lose. However, it doesn’t have to be that way but those were the thoughts I had had to eradicate in the recent past. It wasn’t even as bad as I thought it was going to be – I just needed to remind myself that no matter what happens, we just choose what we want. If a parent falls ill, we say they’ll get better. If one doesn’t find their ideal partner by the age of thirty, one should say to oneself that the person is coming and the relationship will only be even better than it would have been before age thirty. Turn everything into a positive because that is how we create a better life.
It is not what happens to us, it is the way we say and believe that things will get better and nothing could never derail us – that is what I’ve always said. No matter what happens, say to yourself that even this circumstance or event brought you closer to your ultimate goal. This is fearlessness, whether or not you see yourself as a fearless person. Fearlessness, courage and dauntlessness simply feel good.
When you don’t feel daunted by a change in circumstances, you begin to attract only the change in circumstances you appreciate, at least for the most part. The fact that something we dislike will occasionally happen isn’t a big deal because it will never happen with the most important things for as long as our mindset towards it remains positive.
Say that even all your negative thoughts got you closer to your goal – I do.
Say to yourself that your latest or most annoying change in circumstances is irrelevant because you and/or others involved in it will come out the other side as if nothing ever happened. As a person who used to live for new experiences, I had devised this affirmation to prevent myself from being derailed in life. And it works.
See how anyone can be fearless in practising Law of Attraction with this one simple approach? And it doesn’t even require anything besides being yourself. All it takes to be fearless is knowing that nothing can stop you from achieving your dreams and that manifesting your desires is guaranteed because the Universe loves you.
Men and women are often being told that showing interest in a prospective partner makes them look needy, desperate or pushy, and that those who don’t care are the ones who get the girl/guy instead.
Those giving and taking or worrying about such advice take an important ingredient out of it – the Law of Attraction which says that your beliefs and intentions translate into who you are, meaning that only what you see possible for yourself can manifest into your reality.
Only those open to relationships can actually find themselves in one. What we believe is possible for us is what we’re open to in our lives. If we believe that something else is impossible for us on the other hand, we are automatically closed off to receiving it.
If you find something impossible, how can you be open to it happening? Belief is what creates the openness to receiving.
Those who seem not to care about relationships are not indifferent to them – they only see relationships as something normal, natural and possible for themselves therefore they don’t need to worry about them.
If you’re open to relationships, you easily see yourselves in them. If you want to become open to them, you will affirm gratitude, look forward to them and believe in yourself while knowing that love is meant for you, sticking to this attitude until manifestation occurs.
If you’re closed off to people, saying there are no good ones out there, you are not open to believing that love is possible therefore love cannot appear in your life. You’re the one blocking its way in. You’re the one keeping it out.
If you are closed off to relationships, you obviously believe they’re not possible for you, finding yourself single as a result.
You must look forward to relationships and actually like people, especially the one you fancy, to manifest a loving relationship with them. Focusing on your specific person’s faults and a lack of faith or fear will close you off to receiving love, as fear and love cannot coexist.
I had gone through a phase in my life when I didn’t like anyone. I was completely closed off from appreciating the male gender. Whoever was interested, I immediately knew I wasn’t at first glance, effectively killing their interest as a result. I was being asked why I didn’t have a boyfriend and knew the answer all too well.
The truth is that I genuinely didn’t want to be with anyone that moment. However, I didn’t expect them to want to be with me either after sensing my lack of interest. I advised my friends to actually show interest in their own specific people – having realized that the best way to spark someone’s interest is to show your own interest in them, I was aware that happiness and openness are magnetic qualities that attract other people into our lives. This is what boosts your magnetism. Happiness and true confidence prompt openness to others which is very attractive to all while a closed off mindset attracts no one except maybe those who think they don’t deserve any better. People who advise being careful and closed off are effectively telling you how to kill your own attractiveness.
Now, being careful has nothing to do with boundaries; in fact, creating personal boundaries has everything to do with self-love, self-confidence and a personal sense of value. You know what you deserve and the more self-love you engage in, the more you believe you deserve. And, you do because you give as much as you know you deserve. You respect others and demand the same in return. This is a concept many tend to mistake for being closed off.
If you love yourself, you love and see the best in others. You also begin to immediately distinguish those worth your time from others that aren’t; you can tell apart a heart driven individual from one that isn’t so.
Now, the following is what makes the world of difference.
When you are a heart-driven individual yourself, you become attracted to those with their own sense of self-love, confidence, strong personal identity, focus and value. Yet if you live your life fearing disappointment, brooding on your past perceptions of failure or expecting the worst from your desired person and relationship, you will attract the behaviour or the people you will find it difficult to believe in and feel good about.
If you want to be with someone, you must believe in them whether you met them yesterday or share a painful past together.
Those you share a painful past with will treat you differently once you treat yourself differently.
Everyone will treat you the way you treat yourself and come to value you as much as you value yourself sooner or later.
Happy and confident interest in someone spells out quality. They will admire and be attracted to you as a result.
If you care about a specific person, enjoy talking to them. Don’t think about anything you are not “getting” from them. Visualize them happily being in your life and appreciate them even if you don’t vocalize it – that invisible energy is what attracts someone to you, whether or not you speak to them. This is LoA.
But if you do, speak to them with interest and positivity. Appreciate them and value yourself.
Don’t act on your feelings of anger, frustration or any kind of upset.
It produces a result you don’t want.
Act on the feelings of appreciation, gratitude, love and patience…
…and receive even more than you have asked for.
What happens when you think your manifestation might arrive at a specific moment yet it doesn’t? You might have gotten signs or feedback that lead you to believe it was happening only to discover that it wasn’t what you hoped for, at least not just yet. Continue reading “When You “Fail” to Manifest – A Guide to Starting Over!”