If you don’t know what you want, you are always presented with two options.
In order to gain a realistic perspective of your life, you must stop thinking that other people have better lives.
Can you be happy if courage is not a part of who you are? I think it’s a very interesting question that can make anyone think about who they want to be.
Do you feel happy being the person who dares to know that what they want is theirs? A done deal, pre-made already. No going back on the fact that you’re about to receive this and live your life with it. And that’s precisely the case.
You must see your desires as facts, as they are the facts of upcoming events in your life.NG
Courage is not as unattainable as it seems; courage is present when you know that what you want is a fact already. Knowing is courage. And knowing is normal. Some people view courage as something they will never have but courage means what all of life does – believing in the unseen before we can see it.
Everyone is brave in some way. Observe your personality and recognize the ways in which you are courageous. If you’re brave enough to do all the things you dare to do, you have already shown yourself the courage to make anything happen; according to Law of Attraction, nothing is more or less difficult to manifest than anything else and there are no “big” or “small” desires. The magnitude of any desire is determined by the individual manifesting it, which is why we must see everything we want as normal, small or easy to get.
Believing in the unseen is the way life is truly created. We have to imagine ourselves having what we want, even for a second, in order to attract it into our lives. Sometimes, we do it unconsciously; sometimes, subconsciously. But we can do it completely consciously if we love the idea of living our desire, know that it would make us happy and know that we are the right person for it.
Whether our desire is money or a relationship, we have to see ourselves making it happy as it makes us. You have the power to make the person you have chosen the happiest they’ve ever been. That money is what the Universe wants to give you because you have decided it belongs with you. When you love money, you attract it; when you want money, that money wants to come to you because that is the Law of Attraction.
So when you can see yourself having that money, the money will come. What we believe and what we know is what we will absolutely end up attracting.
Don’t let yourself believe that you will never have your desire or that it’s still difficult to manifest! And don’t be afraid to feel the emotion of having it already. Feeling this emotion takes courage and if you had the courage to do so many things in your life, as everything in life takes some courage to achieve, you can certainly be brave enough to feel.
When we feel, we are happy; when we are happy, we become addicted to happiness.
We must know our desire belongs with us. We make our desire happy as it does us. And how could something that belongs with us not be easy to manifest?
The easier we view our desire, the faster we end up manifesting it.
It’s very easy to look at what we are not getting in a relationship or its manifestation, detailing the parts we wish we had never experienced or those that aren’t going our way for the moment. Today, we should ask ourselves, “Is the relationship I imagined going to be as good as the one I could have if I just allowed it to happen by letting my person express themselves the way they will? If I just gave it a chance?”
What if we didn’t scrutinize our specific person’s every move but allowed them to come to us and express themselves the way they will? What if we trusted that everything was about to work our and the current reality is simply not a big deal?
What if we loved our specific people for who they are, 100%, instead of thinking about the things we would love to change in them? What if we started thinking that the level of communication we do receive was enough instead of not enough?
You know what would happen?
We would grow. We would take the pressure off. We would start to think of ourselves as being in a relationship instead of not so. We would power through the period of dissatisfaction and started seeing our love life as abundant instead of lacking.
Let’s say you have a specific person in mind or are in a relationship with someone you love. But they don’t text enough. They don’t call enough. They don’t see you enough. You’re agreeing to things you didn’t want for yourself in life and half the time, don’t even feel like you’re in a relationship or are thinking about being alone instead of being with someone and feeling alone.
While thinking about what you don’t like in this setup can consume your life, what if you said, “Our relationship is great. I want him/her to be who they are. We talk plenty.” And then, you focus on your own life instead of thinking about what they are doing or what you want to do with them because it’ll happen. You talk plenty so you’ll see each other soon. What if you adopted this attitude?
If you did, you would attract even more amazing circumstances with this person than the ones you had originally imagined because complete love and acceptance first lead to immediate relaxation on your part and then to the person in question expressing themselves in an even better way than you had imagined.
When you begin to see your relationship (manifestation) so abundant in this way, you immediately create a presence in your own life which then makes you feel fully present in your relationship. You start to experience spontaneous visualizations of the two of you together. When someone asks, your initial instinct becomes “We talk a lot,” be that based on the visualizations or the current reality already (because if it’s based on just the visualizations, it will become your current reality soon enough!).
This is what I mean when talking about abundance. This is what I mean when I say we should relax around our manifestations. “We’ll talk.” “We talk a lot.” “We see each other plenty.” Even just based on the current reality because if what you have is recognized as abundant, you end up receiving even more.
Take a look at what you have in your relationship and recognize everything you’ve received, not everything you feel like you’re missing – soon, you won’t feel like you’re missing anything. You will start to feel like everything you have is plenty already.
And then, you will receive even more.
If we think of what our specific person “should” be doing to show love instead of allowing them to just get there, we will never feel like we’re receiving enough. This is how the human mind works and we must be aware of that. On the other hand, if we allow them to show it and allow ourselves to receive it authentically from their side, we will feel like they’re doing plenty to give us what we want.
This is love. This is acceptance.
This is you sending the message of, “You’re more than enough for me, just the way you are.”
And ultimately, this is what makes the Law of Attraction give you the love you want from the person you want. This is how you accept them, see yourself having a lot with them and once you do, this is how you manifest everything from them.
When we want to manifest something we have had an unpleasant experience with in the past, we tend to avoid any visualization of the said manifestation or affirming that it’s a done deal this time because those negative thoughts divert us whenever they come in.
Instead, we need to feel like a new person – the one who has what we want to have. We must think of ourselves not only of having this but of being the person who has it. and feel and act accordingly.
Whenever I have a goal and think of myself as being the person living it, I must repeat this to myself even if I’ve had a negative experience with it in the past. However, this is the trick – any negative experience from the past is a lesson for the present on the right ways to think in order to manifest what you desire instead of what you fear.
Anything can be reversed with the Law of Attraction. What happened to you is not final – nothing is!NG
Sometimes, this is the only reminder we need. Anything can be reversed and that is the biggest truth of the Law of Attraction.
In order to believe it truly will be better this time, we must visualize it being better even once.NG
Facing past upset and the reasons why it happened is very therapeutic – it makes you stronger. However, we must visualize things going well this time even once in order to believe it. This visualization can come as a result of you deciding that things will go well or your intention to see it going well in order to believe it but either way, it is a necessary part of the process.
We have to be able to see it even once, for as little as two seconds, in order to believe it. And if we’re not, we can enable ourselves to do it with decisiveness and self-belief. We can see ourselves having whatever we want right after we affirm it to ourselves.NG
My blog editor says “remove block” when I select inserting a gallery instead of writing text, and it couldn’t be more appropriate. Remove block is exactly the command we need to implement when thinking that the unpleasant past will repeat itself.
Men and women are often being told that showing interest in a prospective partner makes them look needy, desperate or pushy, and that those who don’t care are the ones who get the girl/guy instead.
Those giving and taking or worrying about such advice take an important ingredient out of it – the Law of Attraction which says that your beliefs and intentions translate into who you are, meaning that only what you see possible for yourself can manifest into your reality.
Only those open to relationships can actually find themselves in one. What we believe is possible for us is what we’re open to in our lives. If we believe that something else is impossible for us on the other hand, we are automatically closed off to receiving it.
If you find something impossible, how can you be open to it happening? Belief is what creates the openness to receiving.
Those who seem not to care about relationships are not indifferent to them – they only see relationships as something normal, natural and possible for themselves therefore they don’t need to worry about them.
If you’re open to relationships, you easily see yourselves in them. If you want to become open to them, you will affirm gratitude, look forward to them and believe in yourself while knowing that love is meant for you, sticking to this attitude until manifestation occurs.
If you’re closed off to people, saying there are no good ones out there, you are not open to believing that love is possible therefore love cannot appear in your life. You’re the one blocking its way in. You’re the one keeping it out.
If you are closed off to relationships, you obviously believe they’re not possible for you, finding yourself single as a result.
You must look forward to relationships and actually like people, especially the one you fancy, to manifest a loving relationship with them. Focusing on your specific person’s faults and a lack of faith or fear will close you off to receiving love, as fear and love cannot coexist.
I had gone through a phase in my life when I didn’t like anyone. I was completely closed off from appreciating the male gender. Whoever was interested, I immediately knew I wasn’t at first glance, effectively killing their interest as a result. I was being asked why I didn’t have a boyfriend and knew the answer all too well.
The truth is that I genuinely didn’t want to be with anyone that moment. However, I didn’t expect them to want to be with me either after sensing my lack of interest. I advised my friends to actually show interest in their own specific people – having realized that the best way to spark someone’s interest is to show your own interest in them, I was aware that happiness and openness are magnetic qualities that attract other people into our lives. This is what boosts your magnetism. Happiness and true confidence prompt openness to others which is very attractive to all while a closed off mindset attracts no one except maybe those who think they don’t deserve any better. People who advise being careful and closed off are effectively telling you how to kill your own attractiveness.
Now, being careful has nothing to do with boundaries; in fact, creating personal boundaries has everything to do with self-love, self-confidence and a personal sense of value. You know what you deserve and the more self-love you engage in, the more you believe you deserve. And, you do because you give as much as you know you deserve. You respect others and demand the same in return. This is a concept many tend to mistake for being closed off.
If you love yourself, you love and see the best in others. You also begin to immediately distinguish those worth your time from others that aren’t; you can tell apart a heart driven individual from one that isn’t so.
Now, the following is what makes the world of difference.
When you are a heart-driven individual yourself, you become attracted to those with their own sense of self-love, confidence, strong personal identity, focus and value. Yet if you live your life fearing disappointment, brooding on your past perceptions of failure or expecting the worst from your desired person and relationship, you will attract the behaviour or the people you will find it difficult to believe in and feel good about.
If you want to be with someone, you must believe in them whether you met them yesterday or share a painful past together.
Those you share a painful past with will treat you differently once you treat yourself differently.
Everyone will treat you the way you treat yourself and come to value you as much as you value yourself sooner or later.
Happy and confident interest in someone spells out quality. They will admire and be attracted to you as a result.
If you care about a specific person, enjoy talking to them. Don’t think about anything you are not “getting” from them. Visualize them happily being in your life and appreciate them even if you don’t vocalize it – that invisible energy is what attracts someone to you, whether or not you speak to them. This is LoA.
But if you do, speak to them with interest and positivity. Appreciate them and value yourself.
People often ask me if it’s truly possible to be so positive.
But why not?
Look back on the time when we were kids – we were excited about anything, looking forward to everything and only saw the world’s endless possibilities. And over the years we’ve become jaded or afraid of what might happen instead of being excited about it – that is the difference between expectations of the negative versus the positive.
It’s all about our choices.
We can choose to see the best in everyone, be excited about the amazing things that we want to happen to us and expect miracles every day…multiple ones. We can choose to expect that everyone will come through and treat us even more wonderfully than we ever believed to be possible. Can you handle this much happiness?
If you truly want to be happy, you will adopt this attitude and expect the manifestation of your desires. If you don’t, you will stay in your comfort zone of worrying and possibly complaining.
So, where do you want to be? Where do you find it easier to see yourself?
And where do you want to see yourself?
I suggest you celebrate yourself and your life.
You have to play the lead role in your own reality instead of putting the person you want to manifest a relationship with first. You can prioritize them but imagine the relationship and your love as you want it and as it makes you happy!
I mean, being able to love someone the way you want to and have them love you back…don’t you love the thought of that?
Don’t you want that?
What happens when you think your manifestation might arrive at a specific moment yet it doesn’t? You might have gotten signs or feedback that lead you to believe it was happening only to discover that it wasn’t what you hoped for, at least not just yet. Continue reading “When You “Fail” to Manifest – A Guide to Starting Over!”