The more I think about it, the more I believe we sometimes don’t feel comfortable with living smooth and easy lives due to the guilt over so many other people’s difficulties.
It’s important to consciously choose not to engage in behaviors that are comfortable but ultimately make us feel like we’re standing still.
It’s important to consciously engage in the behaviors and habits that make us feel optimistic, fulfilled and abundant.
Sometimes, we tend do what we’re used to, almost oblivious as to how horrible it makes us feel. We watch the movies that make us depressed. We engage in social media stalking. We start arguments. And for what? To end up feeling like we just never, ever get what we want?
I don’t think that’s our goal.
Do you know why we do it though? Because we’re bored.
Unless we happily imagine having what we want and make an effort to choose good thoughts in other areas of our lives, we are going to end up bored and set our manifestations back just so we have something to do. Unless we make a conscious effort to engage in hobbies, music, movies and people we actually enjoy, not worrying that there’s such a thing as too much joy (there isn’t), we will keep going back to depressing but addictive behaviors.
Unless we care to act like the person we admire ourselves for being, we will continue to be whatever personality we can simply be bothered to inhabit.NG
You know what else we might be worried about? Once manifested, our desires feeling exactly as they do now. Not better, not as great as we thought but just as they do now – empty and uncertain, meaning we’re stuck. Leaving us disappointed and feeling like we made a mistake. Feeling like we should have dropped it and never manifested in the first place.
Sometimes, we count on our desires to change our lives. And, they can – just not after we manifest them but before. Yes, that’s right – a manifestation can change our lives if we have decided to change them first by knowing it belongs to us. Life moves from believing to seeing, and happiness a manifestation brings is no different.
We need to engage in positive action towards ourselves; that way, we will turn our manifestations into what we want them to be. In every way.
Note – I used the word depressing for a lack of a better one. I don’t consider you depressing. Or myself.
But we shouldn’t ever engage in anything that makes us negative. If we end up feeling negative as a result of our own activities and thoughts, we will just be wasting our lives. And continue to be bored.
People often ask me if it’s truly possible to be so positive.
But why not?
Look back on the time when we were kids – we were excited about anything, looking forward to everything and only saw the world’s endless possibilities. And over the years we’ve become jaded or afraid of what might happen instead of being excited about it – that is the difference between expectations of the negative versus the positive.
It’s all about our choices.
We can choose to see the best in everyone, be excited about the amazing things that we want to happen to us and expect miracles every day…multiple ones. We can choose to expect that everyone will come through and treat us even more wonderfully than we ever believed to be possible. Can you handle this much happiness?
If you truly want to be happy, you will adopt this attitude and expect the manifestation of your desires. If you don’t, you will stay in your comfort zone of worrying and possibly complaining.
So, where do you want to be? Where do you find it easier to see yourself?
And where do you want to see yourself?
We often forget that relationship focus and coaching exist beyond simply manifesting the relationship you want. Once it’s manifested, you must keep it, and you will do so by dealing with your deepest issues which every one of your relationship problems came from in the past. If you deal with those, Law of Attraction will draw even more love into your romance than you had before because resolving your issues results in feeling good about yourself, finally attracting your dreams as a result.
That is how the process goes.
An existing couple is no different – they might get over a fight but the same issues will keep causing new ones in the future unless they are resolved. It’s not about the fight itself but about what causes it, and unless that issue causing a fight is addressed, it will keep coming back in different forms.
Some prefer to believe that the cause of a single fight was their partner’s reaction to our words, their words or specific actions; however, the cause of a fight lies in one’s (or both parties’) issues that have existed long before they even met their partner. When a fight happens, we don’t react to something we don’t care about. We actually react because our partner’s words or actions reminded us of an unpleasant feeling we’ve been holding onto for a while before we met them. We then project their words onto those feelings and end up upset, disregarding the notion they never meant to upset us and were just expressing themselves while we took it the way we did.
Fights can take over a relationship and we shouldn’t let them. Actually facing and dealing with those issues leading to them by causing us to be upset at someone’s words are what we should actually be facing. We have to be honest with ourselves about those issues if we want them to disappear and stop making us miserable, and we can make LoA work for us by doing so.
Issues can be dealt with in two ways – by thinking positive about ourselves and everything in our lives which leads us to easily resolving them by realizing we have outgrown them, or by facing them and realizing why they don’t matter anymore. Either way, it is by devaluing them because negative thoughts can cause misery if we choose to give them meaning.
We are much better off knowing our true self is stronger than any negative thoughts we may be holding on to. What hurts you doesn’t deserve you, and it certainly doesn’t deserve your attention.
Think well of yourself and think about those you love and admire. Focus on the people whose company you adore, and imagine spending time with them. All these things will shift your focus to personal happiness which leads to confidence in yourself and seeing yourself having what you want.
I have always had a very specific trigger to negative feelings in a relationship. I value feeling special and seeing myself as such, and when a boyfriend makes me feel anything but, my taste for the relationship starts to wane. In a relationship, I always give what I wish to receive by expressing how much my partner means to me yet my patience for being with someone who doesn’t express himself well enough has left me over the years. I want someone who dares to say what he means, has the courage to dive into love, be romantic and show me how much I mean to him.
In the past, I would summon enough love to see beyond hearing what I didn’t like but today, I want someone who sees and realizes that I want to be put first, because I put my partner first. Those who have no interest in doing this can move along.
Sometimes, it is easier for us to say that we “feel like this is happening, that’s how it’s gonna play out” and let the Law of Attraction work – this particular mindset can be an easy way out when it comes to manifesting relationships, as we sometimes feel more natural thinking that the outcome is our of our control. However, even when we “can feel the relationship will go this way,” we are choosing this outcome for our lives!
Every “feeling” you think may have come from somewhere else was also your choice to acknowledge and embrace, and with that, give meaning to and decide that it was to be the outcome of your manifestation; now, since you know that, choose the outcome you want and decide that that one was meant to be!
We choose the outcome of every situation, even when we don’t think we do.
And at times, I focused on what I didn’t like to the extend that I had to decide if whether I wanted to stay or leave the relationship.
If the situation doesn’t suit you and you don’t want to fix it, walk away. Time is much better spent thinking about having what you want than disliking what you have. Some issues in a relationship we don’t care to fix.
If you want to fix your own issues on the other hand, preventing them from interfering with your future relationship with the right person, face them and realize that they’re probably outdated. Chances are you already spent a sufficient amount of time dealing with them and it is time to put them behind you – this very notion is often enough to stop thinking about a problem.
If you want closure, visualizing a positive scenario in which your issue has been resolved. Visualize injustice corrected and a chance to tell someone what you wish to tell them. Imagine this playing out in your perfect but positive scenario because visualizing it in a negative and upset way will not make it go away.
Then, you will automatically put it behind you for good.