How to Tailor Your Manifestation to Yourself

How to Tailor Your Manifestation to Yourself

On a drive taking care of my morning errands an hour ago, I started thinking how much any kind of anger or frustration with another person just isn’t worth it. Ever.

We are to focus on our goals and not the people involved in them. Oftentimes, the people we think are involved in them are actually irrelevant to the process – it’s all about knowing that you have what you want already and you will soon become aware that nothing can prevent it from happening.

Instead of thinking about all those negative people from your past, believe in meeting only the best kind of people in your future. Not everyone is worth your time – focus on meeting those who are and only those that suit your goals.

Tailor your life to yourself.

If you want to repair your relationship with someone, they are already worthy of your love. You can repair your relationship by reviewing their positive traits and being grateful for the traits you want to see them display to you. Think about how they fit into your life, not how you fit into theirs –  if you want to be with this person, you will believe that you’re already the perfect fit. Why would you think otherwise about someone you chose?

Why say that you want someone in your life but then say you’re not right for them? That would be a waste of time.

Why assume you’re wrong for a job or lifestyle you want, or that those are wrong for you? That would be a waste of time. We must assume we are exactly right for anything that would make us happy to have in our lives and that is how we’ll manifest it.

You have to assume that you’re right for what you want and that what you want is right for you – otherwise, why bother? If you don’t assume that what you want is right for you and that you are right for it, you will automatically worry about manifesting it whether you realize it or not.

Don’t Lose It Before You Attract It!

Don’t Lose It Before You Attract It!

Do you fear losing what you have or worse, losing your desired manifestation before you attract it?

Fear of loss (or, fear of failure, if you prefer) usually happens after experiencing an unexpected loss in life – loss of a job, a relationship or one’s happiness or confidence at the least expected moment. The moment one finds oneself blindsided by something they thought would never happen to them, usually a break-up or something of similar magnitude – big enough to cause confidence issues but not so big that the damage is irreversible – fear of loss is created, causing insecurity and self-doubt. And when it comes to manifesting one’s desires, fear of loss works even before one manifests their desire, keeping it at arm’s length.

One’s desired manifestation is closer than they think but the fear of loss keeps it from manifesting in the first place.

I don’t want to say that you can’t lose what you never had in the first place because you can have anything you want if you believe it; however, I will say that the desire to have specific things in life always comes with fear if it stems from need.

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The Next Chapter

The Next Chapter

In my books, blogging and personal coaching, I have always emphasized two options for using affirmations to attract the desired – being grateful for your desire being yours already or expressing gratitude for your desire being on its way. Either way works but your choice depends on what makes you comfortable, allowing you to either feel good about everything being yours already or accept its upcoming arrival without experiencing resistance from being too aware it isn’t here yet. (The latter requires being okay in your current reality as it is, until your desire arrives).

Some can easily imagine their desires being a done deal in the sense of belonging to them already – these individuals have the easiest time imagining reality as they want it to be. Others can imagine themselves having their desires but have an easier time thinking those desires are still coming to life which allows them to let go.

I still switch between the two depending on the goal in question but today, I prefer the method of expressing gratitude for living my desired reality right now. It’s my life already; it’s mine right now. Technique one.  Continue reading “The Next Chapter”

The Truth Behind Changing Your Mind in Specific Manifestations

The Truth Behind Changing Your Mind in Specific Manifestations

Being specific has its ups and downs. Then again, anything does.

In life, my actions always reflected a core belief of “I want this so I am going to have it – nothing else, nothing less!” which led me to certain manifestations that looked nothing like I had imagined.

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Thought of the Day

Thought of the Day

One of the parts of allowing your desire to manifest is living in the awareness of living your desire so strongly that the present circumstances become irrelevant.

Yes, “state of the wish fulfilled” might sound better than what I wrote.

Don’t assume or project onto your desire!

Just because you fear that the person you want has a taster’s choice of individuals doesn’t mean they do. Maybe they just seem like they do. Even if they did, it wouldn’t matter.

Just because you fear that the job you want is also coveted by candidates more qualified than you doesn’t meant that those who do the hiring believe someone else is better for the job.

I never got all As in school past the second grade. However, I knew how smart I was and held myself accordingly while pursuing my passions. I was already a published writer, studied dance and went to acting school. Other students continuously asked about my grades and were surprised at my answer because they assumed I maintained the perfect GPA which was a question of status. However, I had decided on my own status while others merely responded to my awareness.

I didn’t care about my GPA and my grades reflected that. I even felt negatively about it because I considered it to be a question of false status, as the highest grades in my junior high went to those who memorised the information. However, I held myself as different and it worked. This example still reads strong to me years later.

Sometimes, I wonder if the 13-year-old me feared that receiving the highest grades based on the “merits” I disagreed with would mean that I wasn’t special. In retrospect, it was a manifesting lesson – never engage in something that goes against your values.

Can you see why the Law of Attraction is life?

If you’re going to assume anything, assume the reality of living your desire.

Assume and project onto yourself

Have You Been Trying and Failing?

Have You Been Trying and Failing?

I have been thinking about possible ways of resolving resistance around the desires of those who have been trying to manifest something specific for a long time. These individuals have gone through stages of love, grief, happiness, frustration and anything else you could think of.

If you’ve been trying for a while and felt hopeless at times, I’d like to contribute the following methods because I know that the thought of feeling good about your specific desire might seem impossible at times.

I suggest you first take a few days, a week at most (even though I am sure four days will already make a difference), to get used to feeling like your desire is yours already with the help of these methods/techniques. You can practice them all continuously or in any kind of order you wish – do what makes you feel good. Some, you might only have to practice once (if not all). Even if it takes continuous work to achieve results, the faster you believe and decide to persist, the faster you will start to feel different. Just embrace your belief and insist on it within yourself, no matter what.

Today, you must decide to manifest what you desire and stick to it. You must believe that you can! If you believe, you will stick to that belief and be able to let go in order to manifest.

1. List (or simply admit) your worries.

If an attempted manifestation or simply the thought of your desire causes you any kind of upset, followed by a lack of detachment or a highly negative state of mind, figure out why. Since everything translates back to us and the way we feel about ourselves, think about what a specific fear you may have says about you.

You might worry about your specific person seeing someone else yet this is probably a disguised personal fear of not being enough to make your specific person happy, in addition to being aware of your desire remaining far away from you or impossible instead of being yours.

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Sudden Manifestations and Making Contact

Sudden Manifestations and Making Contact

Over the weekend, I manifested a new writing job. It was something I wanted to do last year but somehow didn’t want quite enough and forgot about before it manifested. Then, on Saturday, I remembered it, receiving an offer for it hours later.

I think many can relate to this type of manifestation. In the exact same way, someone from my past contacted me last month out of nowhere. This person was someone I wanted out of my life so I had forgotten about them. Then, I remembered them three times in one day only to receive a message from them that evening. I couldn’t help but analyse this manifestation energy because I loved this process.

This type of manifestation is the perfect reflection of “you suddenly think about a friend you haven’t heard from in a long time and he/she contacts you.” We have all heard this example from classic LoA studies and we have all experienced it.

Do you have similar examples?

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I believe one of the reasons these manifestations happen so easily is our perception of them as “regular things” or “no big deal.” When seeing any potential manifestation as a big deal, it is easier for resistance to come up.

On the other hand, desires manifest when let go of due to one’s belief of having it; similarly, one not caring when their desire manifests, seeing it as a small deal or something they will receive whenever, causes rapid manifestation.

It was how I realized that “letting go completely makes it manifest immediately.” Does that make sense?

When thinking a thought such as that of an old friend but not seeing it as some kind of an emergency, you can let go only to see your friend contact you straight away. This is why refocusing from your desire entirely makes it manifest instantly.

I don’t know why this works the way it does. I just know how it works and honestly, it doesn’t matter why. If we know it works, we can use it.

If you have been trying to manifest your desire for a while but feel like you’re struggling, take a few days away from thinking about it. Those few days will make your desire seem like less of a deal and possible to have and who knows – it might even manifest during that break!

A Quick Follow-Up…

A Quick Follow-Up…

Three days ago, I wrote about my lack of inspiration for doing any work besides writing. That particular feeling had been invading my life for two days before I wrote this post.

I decided to let it go and trust that my inspiration would come back. It did just before I wrote that post.

Less than 24 h after writing it, I received a lecturing gig.

Letting go and staying relaxed around my desires combined with trust creates a win-win situation.

Love Your Manifestation!

Love Your Manifestation!

When you love the manifestation period preceding your desire, you receive it fast; you’re probably aware of this already.

Let me explain.

Every single time you manifested something without the need to rush it, it came to you fast. Sometimes, this desire appeared in your life instantly.

This can happen with desires one perceives as “small” or “likely to have.” However, those perceived as “life changing” cause resistance, fear, uncertainty and doubt many use to give up on them. If unfamiliar with creation principles, unaware of LoA or not used to consciously creating, one might automatically shut down the flow of positive energy upon the appearance of those thoughts. One might feel all sorts of doubt and anxiety lowering their vibration.

When attaching profoundly positive feelings to your desire, no matter how big or small you’ve perceived it to be, that desire becomes a natural course of events in your mind. You know it’s coming. You know it’s yours already.

MANIFESTATIONS NOW AND THEN

I used to create intricate manifestation stories in certain areas of my life instead of allowing them to come to life easily because I perceived that easy path as boring. When manifesting my past relationships, I wanted to make all the first moves and then, enjoy what I created. Many wish they didn’t have to make an effort with relationships and I thrived on “making it happen.” I would create work where there wasn’t any because a great story of a relationship coming to life had to be present.

In addition, I thrived on showing others they could make anything happen and being assertive about everything I desired was the way to go. I was comfortable with taking action and over time, I realized the following.

Projecting the right energy was an action in itself. In truth, one doesn’t have to do anything in order to receive their desire – some do nothing and receive and others do everything without seeing change.

Manifesting money has always gone interestingly in my life. I continuously receive double the expected for any amount when shopping, as the items I desire seem to be on sale most of the time. I have often received gifts and beauty treatments. I have unexpectedly found money in the past. I went on all-expenses-paid trips. When envisioning my last professional fee, I received double the amount.

I also enjoy giving, donating and treating my loved ones greatly. I love to pay for dinner, concert tickets, groceries, drinks, gas (when someone else is driving) or cab rides, donating money to charities and give gifts. I donate clothes on a regular basis, all in fantastic condition. Others also enjoy treating me to dinner, drinks or entertainment. Positive feelings are attached to money in my world.

There was a time in my life when I was unsure if budgeting could bring me positive results but wanted to try it anyway. It was one of the least fruitful decisions I’d ever made. Budgeting created momentary money limitations in my mind, which would lead to generally having less, not more. I needed to change those beliefs once again but learned several valuable lessons along the way.

When manifesting work engagements, I quickly discovered my likes and dislikes. Before deciding on what I truly wanted to do, I tried out a variety of jobs. I was interested in life and wanted as many different experiences as I was willing to dedicate my time to. Twice in my life, I gave sending out my CV to apply for jobs a try and hated it with passion each time (even when it would lead to employment).

My preferred method rested in the expectation that others would seek me out for professional engagements and, they did. I would decide what I wanted to do, as detailed as I could, and know it was mine.

I believe it was so due to a simple creation principle – that which perpetuates the lack of our desire makes us miserable and creates more of the same.

To me, sending out my CV only made me feel like I was searching for a job instead of having it. I felt this practice lowering my personal standards. I am much happier asking for my perfect gig and letting it go, inevitably leading to manifestation. This hasn’t changed but my relationship manifestations have.

Your intention is what matters. To some, CV sending perpetuates the feeling of looking for a job. To others, it is a highly positive practice that will lead to their ideal job. You may either alter your perception or your practice in order to change your awareness.

An additional factor involved in this idea was my knowing I would return to writing as soon as I was ready.

Over time, I discovered the appeal of relationships, observed my old mistakes without emotion and reassessed my true desires.

There was a time I held mostly negative views of relationships but learned it was so because I wasn’t entirely basing them on pure love. However, I would also always preset their expiration date (instead of allowing them to take their natural course, whatever that might have been). Holding negative views on relationships was fueled by my belief that I was meeting and dating men who could simply never be enough for me. I started to wonder about what I was missing and therefore wanted.

Relationships can be pure bliss, with energy clear, loving feelings prevailing and problems easily solved. When problems appear, many see them as the end of the world, lowering their vibration and causing more problems. When good times come, one may either be grateful for their abundance and lasting bliss or expect them to fade any minute because “good things don’t last.” Either way, their awareness will determine the continuation or the halt of bliss in their lives.

When manifesting relationships today, I ask for my desire and automatically know it’s mine. I visualize everything I want the relationship to be. I visualize everything I want us to be and live. I live it before we do together – I feel what it’s like to have it. There is usually one visualization I repeat more than others – spontaneously created, emotion-filled, a favorite. This particular visualization reflects everything I want to be, the adoration I feel for my man and the relationship I want to live. Sometimes, I only have to do it once before the relationship appears.

The reason for manifesting a specific relationship should rest in nothing but love for the person you want to be with. Some relationships, I manifested because I saw the man I had my eye on as an amazing person who would be an exceptional boyfriend. Others, I manifested when simply wanting the experience of being with a specific man.

I am tempted to add the following passage to every single post I ever write from now on.

KNOWING that your desire is yours brings inner peace and removes the need for signs. Knowing your desire is yours already boosts the feeling of love for your manifestation period. If you discover that having your desire doesn’t make you feel good, this is an entirely separate issue from the feeling of not having it in your life; you must feel good about having your desire in your life. 

If you don’t KNOW it’s YOURS, no amount of signs is going to help.

How can you know?

Because your desire belongs to you the moment you ask for it. The Universe creates the very moment we ask. Then, allowing your desire to come into your reality is the only thing left.

Does having every desire in your life make you feel good? It didn’t always make me feel good, especially with relationships. Seeing myself with several specific men was only tempting in theory while in reality, I had to admit to myself that I didn’t truly want them. Wanting to care about someone didn’t mean I automatically would.

As one of my close friends once said, “I know you tried to want that relationship but if you don’t, you don’t.” Obviously, the “trying” to want it only leads to more trying and unless I was willing to alter my beliefs, the time had come to move on.

When manifesting anything, one would go wrong seeing it as following the steps and manifesting their desire. Are you aware of having your desire or currently manifesting it? From moment one, be aware that your desire is yours already and follow the steps without overthinking them. Observe your thoughts emotionlessly. Don’t think about the steps as you’re making them and how correct they are while looking out for your desire to appear at the same time. That is not having; it is manifesting which will lead to more manifesting.

From the moment of asking for your desire, assume that it is yours without waiting for it to appear. Complete manifestation steps as you feel that your desire is yours already while also feeling gratitude for having it in your life. This knowing will make your manifestation period a happy one, not to mention the necessity of knowing that your desire is yours before being able to receive it.

Getting what I give has never been a problem. Would you like to do the same?

Make doing what makes you happy your priority. Those who do receive everything they want from the Universe, as if they never had to seek it out. When doing what makes you happy becomes your only action taken in life, you need for nothing and see everything you want practically handed to you.