Let me start by saying this – this post is not about you changing your personality. It is not about saying that who you are is insufficient to you manifesting your dream life. It is not about saying you aren’t good enough. We needed to be clear on that first.
If you think about it, all we need to learn is how to be okay believing in the moment.
You may never feel guilty about manifesting anything you enjoy.
Your negative thoughts won’t manifest literally but if you should engage in them, they lead to easily dealt with hiccups in our day to day reality.
It’s important to consciously choose not to engage in behaviors that are comfortable but ultimately make us feel like we’re standing still.
It’s important to consciously engage in the behaviors and habits that make us feel optimistic, fulfilled and abundant.
Sometimes, we tend do what we’re used to, almost oblivious as to how horrible it makes us feel. We watch the movies that make us depressed. We engage in social media stalking. We start arguments. And for what? To end up feeling like we just never, ever get what we want?
I don’t think that’s our goal.
Do you know why we do it though? Because we’re bored.
Unless we happily imagine having what we want and make an effort to choose good thoughts in other areas of our lives, we are going to end up bored and set our manifestations back just so we have something to do. Unless we make a conscious effort to engage in hobbies, music, movies and people we actually enjoy, not worrying that there’s such a thing as too much joy (there isn’t), we will keep going back to depressing but addictive behaviors.
Unless we care to act like the person we admire ourselves for being, we will continue to be whatever personality we can simply be bothered to inhabit.NG
You know what else we might be worried about? Once manifested, our desires feeling exactly as they do now. Not better, not as great as we thought but just as they do now – empty and uncertain, meaning we’re stuck. Leaving us disappointed and feeling like we made a mistake. Feeling like we should have dropped it and never manifested in the first place.
Sometimes, we count on our desires to change our lives. And, they can – just not after we manifest them but before. Yes, that’s right – a manifestation can change our lives if we have decided to change them first by knowing it belongs to us. Life moves from believing to seeing, and happiness a manifestation brings is no different.
We need to engage in positive action towards ourselves; that way, we will turn our manifestations into what we want them to be. In every way.
Note – I used the word depressing for a lack of a better one. I don’t consider you depressing. Or myself.
But we shouldn’t ever engage in anything that makes us negative. If we end up feeling negative as a result of our own activities and thoughts, we will just be wasting our lives. And continue to be bored.
Can you be happy if courage is not a part of who you are? I think it’s a very interesting question that can make anyone think about who they want to be.
Do you feel happy being the person who dares to know that what they want is theirs? A done deal, pre-made already. No going back on the fact that you’re about to receive this and live your life with it. And that’s precisely the case.
You must see your desires as facts, as they are the facts of upcoming events in your life.NG
Courage is not as unattainable as it seems; courage is present when you know that what you want is a fact already. Knowing is courage. And knowing is normal. Some people view courage as something they will never have but courage means what all of life does – believing in the unseen before we can see it.
Everyone is brave in some way. Observe your personality and recognize the ways in which you are courageous. If you’re brave enough to do all the things you dare to do, you have already shown yourself the courage to make anything happen; according to Law of Attraction, nothing is more or less difficult to manifest than anything else and there are no “big” or “small” desires. The magnitude of any desire is determined by the individual manifesting it, which is why we must see everything we want as normal, small or easy to get.
Believing in the unseen is the way life is truly created. We have to imagine ourselves having what we want, even for a second, in order to attract it into our lives. Sometimes, we do it unconsciously; sometimes, subconsciously. But we can do it completely consciously if we love the idea of living our desire, know that it would make us happy and know that we are the right person for it.
Whether our desire is money or a relationship, we have to see ourselves making it happy as it makes us. You have the power to make the person you have chosen the happiest they’ve ever been. That money is what the Universe wants to give you because you have decided it belongs with you. When you love money, you attract it; when you want money, that money wants to come to you because that is the Law of Attraction.
So when you can see yourself having that money, the money will come. What we believe and what we know is what we will absolutely end up attracting.
Don’t let yourself believe that you will never have your desire or that it’s still difficult to manifest! And don’t be afraid to feel the emotion of having it already. Feeling this emotion takes courage and if you had the courage to do so many things in your life, as everything in life takes some courage to achieve, you can certainly be brave enough to feel.
When we feel, we are happy; when we are happy, we become addicted to happiness.
We must know our desire belongs with us. We make our desire happy as it does us. And how could something that belongs with us not be easy to manifest?
The easier we view our desire, the faster we end up manifesting it.
I used to attract out of need…but not in the way it sounds.
I would have a need to be in a relationship, manifest one and then, after my need was fulfilled, I would move on to my next momentary need (which was usually travel).
During this phase, I was thinking short term. I hadn’t thought about the things I permanently loved. I was living for the experiences rather than love.
And do you know when I realized that living for experiences meant acting out of need in my case?
When I realized I was more focused on not being bored than enjoying my life. I was focused on not experiencing what I feared instead of experiencing what I loved.
For as long as this phase lasted, I was all about keeping my life interesting. And then, I realized I could make it interesting no matter what I loved to do, even if it wasn’t something I ever imagined loving or enjoying in the past. So, this phase brought on something great. It brought answers. It brought me to the core of my passions and made me see what it was all about.
Love for what we do is enough to make the thing in question interesting for ourselves. When we accept what we love and accept that it can bring us an interesting life, we achieve blissfully relaxed awareness. What if tomorrow, I decided to become a mother when I couldn’t see myself ever doing so in the past? I would enjoy everything it entailed. What if I decided to completely turn my lifestyle around and become someone I never thought I wanted to be? If it was something that truly made me happy, I would enjoy it very much.
It’s not what you do – it’s how much you value it. And if you do, and stand by your choice, you will enjoy it and you will make it interesting. Which is great because in order to attract it into your life, you must be able to see it being yours – and what we enjoy, we can see ourselves having.
Today, I started to think about forgiveness.
However, only in a very specific context.
I realized that a lack of enthusiasm for one’s manifestation is ultimately always connected to the lack of forgiveness. If we don’t forgive the past, the present, the negatives of our person or the situation, we will continue to focus on what made us upset rather than a positive future with our person or another desire. We will not be excited by a potential positive future with our person or another desire because we will keep thinking about what’s wrong with it or what caused us disappointment in the past; if we do that, we will continue to manifest those negatives in the present instead of manifesting a positive future we are excited about.NG
You might be upset by your negative past or present with the person whose love you want to manifest. You keep thinking about how much your person disappointed you which prevents you from seeing a happy future with them. When you think about being with them, you are not excited – you honestly think about whether or not this is even possible, as you have no idea if positive feelings about your situation could ever be revived.
You will be happy to know they can. And let me offer specific guidance as to how!
Positive feelings about your situation must be connected to forgiveness of the past because only forgiveness can make us put something behind us and stop thinking about it. For as long as we are bothered by any past or present negatives, we will continue to think about them because they easily evoke emotion in us; at the same time, when we forgive those past or present negatives, the only emotion left to focus on is the positive anticipation of our manifestation.
No one truly means to hurt you. The person you can’t seem to forgive never meant to hurt you in the first place. People do the best they can but sometimes, their best isn’t all that great when directed at you. Their best might have seemed like the right choice when they made it but it probably wasn’t the best they could have done overall, and they also probably know it.
People can lack courage and make the choices they are not proud of. They can be sorry after but their apology or knowing that they’re sorry might not mean so much to you, especially after you have already been hurt. You might say that no matter how sorry they are, they can’t ever go back and take back your hurt. They can’t go back and undo what they did, and they can’t go back and undo the hurt they caused you.
I want you to think about the following – is what they did truly so horrible that it must mean the end of the world to you? Were you in a relationship when it happened? Were their choices intended for hurting you or just a result of some poor decisions? Was everything you think you missed out on really that perfect or did you have a pretty great life in the meantime, filled with all kinds of wonderful experiences?
Was the time you spent apart from someone you wanted to be in a relationship with truly so depressing or did you enjoy your life in many other ways? If you had been in that relationship already, how many other things and experiences would you have missed out on? Was the result of your unhappy relationship, if we’re talking about an ex or a present partner, truly all on you or was it dependent on your mutual dynamics? Why feel inferior when every relationship problem comes from two sides, not just yours? It wasn’t about you – it was about your mutual connection at the time, a lack of happiness included. It was about your communication and the feelings that drove it.
Your specific person might have made some wrong choices but they might also not have been aware of the impact those choices were going to have. They might have made some wrong decisions because you hadn’t been together that long or at all, or they weren’t sure if you would still wanted to be with them. Maybe you were both bothered by certain things and didn’t know how to express yourselves.
But it’s okay. You’re human. You don’t always know how you feel straight away and you don’t always know how to change an unpleasant situation without some guidance.
If you decide that what they did was unforgivable, it’s probably time for you to walk away. But if you look closer and see that they made certain choices because you weren’t together or because they simply made a mistake, allow yourself to repaint a positive picture of them and allow for your positive expectations to allow them to make it up to you.
Say, “He/she will show me how much he/she cares. I’m going to give him/her time to do that.” But see, when you give someone time, you won’t ever wait for years – when you develop true patience, you will experience instant manifestation. Patience leads to knowing and letting go and impatience leads to prolonging of your manifestation.NG
Admit that their decisions resulted in poor choices but none of them meant the end of the road for your relationship. These choices only caused a difficult situation but were they really so unforgivable? I don’t know your specific situation but I do know that it’s possible for these wrong decisions to have been and still be forgivable. A little time has probably passed by now which can only make it easier for you to forgive – with time, the impact of the hurt we once experienced will inevitably diminish and offer us perspective instead.
Today might be the day to remind ourselves of it. Let go of the past and forgive your specific person for hurting you. Forgive them for the choices they made while you were apart. Forgive them for all the ways they left you out during your relationship, as they didn’t think they were causing you such pain to begin with. After it was all said and done, your specific person might have regretted their choices so believe them if they say so. Put yourself in their shoes and consider whether their actions should hold such consequences for the rest of your lives or not.
If every new manifestation we bring into our lives equals starting over in one way or another, even if it’s just in that one area of life, why be afraid of new beginnings?NG
Every new relationship means starting over, in the relationship area. Every new job means starting over – even every new gig, for the self-employed. Every new colleague at work marks a new beginning for the company. Every new outfit bought adds something your wardrobe has never had.
Every trip you take will include something you have never done before, even as small as getting a cup of coffee someplace you’ve never been.
So why be afraid of change, starting over or new beginnings?
Change or starting over is widely regarded as rare or uncommon; however, it’s actually a normal part of life. Visible from examples above, new beginnings are actually everywhere and we should stop seeing them as something unsettling or scary.
When it comes to Law of Attraction, welcoming new beginnings makes manifestation much easier. Those who welcome new beginnings also welcome change and are not intimidated by a new manifestation’s influence on their current life. Embracing new beginnings equals excitement over a new manifestation and its impact on one’s life, boosting the overall level of happiness for one’s desire and accelerating manifestation as a result.
Excitement speeds up manifestation as one’s love for change and new beginnings boosts that same excitement.NG
Here’s something you might not have considered – change is exciting! Welcoming novelty is a thrill! You are giving yourself the opportunity to experience something you never have before which will enrich your life in every way. That new relationship you want to be in is going to be exciting so go ahead and allow yourself to have it! Don’t be afraid. That new job will be filled with new people and new knowledge, showing you things you’ve never seen before…and what could possibly be wrong with that?
Instead of being afraid, why not say, “I can’t wait!”?
You can’t only know what you desire but you must also have a desire to experience it. You must desire to live it! This is what invites excitement for change in your life.NG