I want you to have the desire to get your life exactly where you deserve for it to be.
Today, I started to think about forgiveness.
However, only in a very specific context.
I realized that a lack of enthusiasm for one’s manifestation is ultimately always connected to the lack of forgiveness. If we don’t forgive the past, the present, the negatives of our person or the situation, we will continue to focus on what made us upset rather than a positive future with our person or another desire. We will not be excited by a potential positive future with our person or another desire because we will keep thinking about what’s wrong with it or what caused us disappointment in the past; if we do that, we will continue to manifest those negatives in the present instead of manifesting a positive future we are excited about.NG
You might be upset by your negative past or present with the person whose love you want to manifest. You keep thinking about how much your person disappointed you which prevents you from seeing a happy future with them. When you think about being with them, you are not excited – you honestly think about whether or not this is even possible, as you have no idea if positive feelings about your situation could ever be revived.
You will be happy to know they can. And let me offer specific guidance as to how!
Positive feelings about your situation must be connected to forgiveness of the past because only forgiveness can make us put something behind us and stop thinking about it. For as long as we are bothered by any past or present negatives, we will continue to think about them because they easily evoke emotion in us; at the same time, when we forgive those past or present negatives, the only emotion left to focus on is the positive anticipation of our manifestation.
No one truly means to hurt you. The person you can’t seem to forgive never meant to hurt you in the first place. People do the best they can but sometimes, their best isn’t all that great when directed at you. Their best might have seemed like the right choice when they made it but it probably wasn’t the best they could have done overall, and they also probably know it.
People can lack courage and make the choices they are not proud of. They can be sorry after but their apology or knowing that they’re sorry might not mean so much to you, especially after you have already been hurt. You might say that no matter how sorry they are, they can’t ever go back and take back your hurt. They can’t go back and undo what they did, and they can’t go back and undo the hurt they caused you.
I want you to think about the following – is what they did truly so horrible that it must mean the end of the world to you? Were you in a relationship when it happened? Were their choices intended for hurting you or just a result of some poor decisions? Was everything you think you missed out on really that perfect or did you have a pretty great life in the meantime, filled with all kinds of wonderful experiences?
Was the time you spent apart from someone you wanted to be in a relationship with truly so depressing or did you enjoy your life in many other ways? If you had been in that relationship already, how many other things and experiences would you have missed out on? Was the result of your unhappy relationship, if we’re talking about an ex or a present partner, truly all on you or was it dependent on your mutual dynamics? Why feel inferior when every relationship problem comes from two sides, not just yours? It wasn’t about you – it was about your mutual connection at the time, a lack of happiness included. It was about your communication and the feelings that drove it.
Your specific person might have made some wrong choices but they might also not have been aware of the impact those choices were going to have. They might have made some wrong decisions because you hadn’t been together that long or at all, or they weren’t sure if you would still wanted to be with them. Maybe you were both bothered by certain things and didn’t know how to express yourselves.
But it’s okay. You’re human. You don’t always know how you feel straight away and you don’t always know how to change an unpleasant situation without some guidance.
If you decide that what they did was unforgivable, it’s probably time for you to walk away. But if you look closer and see that they made certain choices because you weren’t together or because they simply made a mistake, allow yourself to repaint a positive picture of them and allow for your positive expectations to allow them to make it up to you.
Say, “He/she will show me how much he/she cares. I’m going to give him/her time to do that.” But see, when you give someone time, you won’t ever wait for years – when you develop true patience, you will experience instant manifestation. Patience leads to knowing and letting go and impatience leads to prolonging of your manifestation.NG
Admit that their decisions resulted in poor choices but none of them meant the end of the road for your relationship. These choices only caused a difficult situation but were they really so unforgivable? I don’t know your specific situation but I do know that it’s possible for these wrong decisions to have been and still be forgivable. A little time has probably passed by now which can only make it easier for you to forgive – with time, the impact of the hurt we once experienced will inevitably diminish and offer us perspective instead.
Today might be the day to remind ourselves of it. Let go of the past and forgive your specific person for hurting you. Forgive them for the choices they made while you were apart. Forgive them for all the ways they left you out during your relationship, as they didn’t think they were causing you such pain to begin with. After it was all said and done, your specific person might have regretted their choices so believe them if they say so. Put yourself in their shoes and consider whether their actions should hold such consequences for the rest of your lives or not.
Is there a person in your life or relationship that makes you feel inadequate or like you’re always coming second? And are your feelings continuously being made worse by your partner who seems to pay more attention to this person and their feelings than you in a variety of ways? If you have answered yes to any of these questions, you probably feeling like there is a person in yours or your partner’s life you have to compete with.
This person could be your partner’s close friend, a nagging ex or even a family member – whoever they are, you feel queasy in their presence or from the very mention of their name. You might even feel that their feelings are more important to your partner than your own and you might be torn between wanting to fix the problem and even considering leaving the relationship.
Before you decide, there are several important points you need to consider.
First of all, it is important to know that no one is forcing you to compete with another person…ever. You choose whether or not to engage in competition, just like you choose everything else in your life.
Personally, competition is beneath me. If I feel like I am being forced to compete with another person, I simply walk away. If you don’t want to walk away immediately, having an open conversation with your partner or whoever it is that makes you compete is always a good idea and it might just solve the problem if you express your feelings openly, honestly and with confidence. Remember that you have the power to solve any problem in your life, either by compromising or leaving.
You have to start living your life from the awareness of being a person of value. Great value isn’t determined by what you have or have accomplished – it is determined by who you are. If you decide to connect with your confidence and stop accepting being treated poorly by another, you will naturally gravitate towards other confident people and positive situations.
You have to start having more fun in your own life, without the need for approval from anyone, your partner included. When you focus on making your own life fun, you will stop being upset by all those people whose behavior is simply not on your level. Making life fun for yourself will help you reconnect with your own confidence and maybe even lead you to new people and new experiences.
And instead of fearing the person you think you have to compete with, use some ingenious ways to get them on your team. If they have a particular skill set, ask them to do something for you. If they are the person who is constantly trying to make you compete, laugh off their attempts and refuse to let them upset you (or pretend that they don’t) as this particular approach will throw them off. Whatever you choose to do, do it with confidence.
Getting this person on your side might just be the inspired action that makes you feel good which will prompt LoA to bring even more positive change into your situation. When you do what makes you feel good instead of worrying about any particular situation, you begin to make better, lighter and more positive decisions which attract even more positive change as a result. This is how LoA works when you take a positive step in your current reality!
When it comes to manifestation, you might be closer to your goal than you realize.
You might think you have no money only to discover that your bank account balance increased while you weren’t looking.
You might deem it impossible to imagine living the life you want only to find yourself indulging in related visualizations soon after and coming out a different, more positive person.
A simple change in your daily dynamics could help you realize how far you’ve come and what a positive person you genuinely are.
You might fear you will never attract the person you want to be with (back) into your life only to finally let go as a result, shift your awareness entirely and all of a sudden, manifest.