When you believe your desires will manifest, you don’t feel the need for them. You don’t feel them missing. You are happy exactly where you are, knowing that what you want is coming.
If you want something because you believe it will solve all your problems, that is not heartfelt motivation for the manifestation of your desire.
Same goes for needing to manifest what you decided – you manifest when you love and trust instead of need because you can’t be happy without it.
You must be happy without it first!
When you love what you want, you manifest. When you know that you bring happiness into the life of another, you attract them.
The question of how long it takes for a specific desire to manifest is something I have been asked a lot recently.
Why do certain desires take time? Do some desires necessarily need to take long to manifest? Why do some take long and others don’t? What can be done to speed up the manifestation process?
I say, it all comes down to the following questions.
Why do you care when some of your desires manifest but not others? Why are you attached to some of your desires but not others? Why do you perceive some of your desires as easy to manifest and normal to have in your life but not others?
Do you know that by letting go, you can manifest immediately?
However, letting go is connected to the feeling of living your desire already instead of missing it.
The answers to all those questions might give you more of a manifesting relief than you currently imagine. If you have negative thoughts, they might not even be present for the reasons you think but if you ask yourself why, you could uncover the real reasons for them.
On the other hand, there are other ways of cutting down on your manifestation waiting period, especially after you begin to understand the reasons why some desires take long to manifest.
If you feel that you’ve been waiting long, abandon that awareness immediately! If you notice that your desire is taking forever, you’re running the risk of your manifestation taking even longer if you indulge in the feelings of emptiness. What you focus on persists and if you are focused on having waited a long time and gotten nowhere, you are noticing the wait and prolonging the missing.
This is where visualization and imagining that you have your desire already works and changes your awareness, taking away your feelings of need and filing your life with happiness and a sense of security. Happily imagining that you have your desire in your life already and visualizing as well as knowing that your desire is going to manifest cut down on your waiting period and allow you to manifest even faster than you expect.
Many tend to focus on the process instead of the end result (or, focus on the current reality).
The “how” part is not up to you or me – it is up to the Universe but if you allow it, it will manifest your desires in an even more magical way than you expect. The Universe wants to give you what you want immediately and you can allow that to happen by nurturing happy thoughts of your desired end result.
The wait will only exist if you focus on it. Don’t! Focus on having your desire instead and be grateful for it. Know that it’s coming or imagine that you have it already. There are so many ways of being happy and feeling good so pick one!
Nothing has to take long but the sooner you stop noticing your desire missing from your life, the sooner you will manifest.
You perceive the wait because you are dissatisfied with your current reality sans manifestation. However, once you become truly happy with your current reality, with everything you have simply because you appreciate it, you will see yourself living your desired reality. Even if this doesn’t make any sense to you, it is what it is – happy people see themselves having what they want while the unhappy ones don’t believe that things could improve.
You will stop waiting when you embrace the “having.” Your desire belongs to you already – accept it.
The feeling of your desire missing from your life can be annoying, upsetting and can drive you into frantically working to change it in order to attract your desire instead.
I won’t even try to describe that feeling beautifully or eloquently because it isn’t; instead, this feeling is unpleasant and can lower your mood.
However, I am going to suggest several solutions for it.
When your goal in life is to be in a good mood no matter what you do and where you are, knowing that bad mood is a waste of time, you will automatically want to go out and do something for yourself. Every time you fall into the bad mood, you will automatically want to change it.
When you get bored, think about what you would like to do to fix your mood. When you feel low, treat yourself (I hate that expression but it works). Go out and buy something for yourself, treat yourself to a meal you love, have a bubble bath, remember all the wonderful people in your life or, one of my favorites, donate money. In any way to anyone you want. Giving is something that will instantly raise your vibration.
Remember all those LoA sources telling you to get in a good mood first and then, think about having your desire in order to attract it even faster. To that, I want to add that when you remain in a good mood, when it becomes your goal, you will manifest your desires fast anyway.
When this dark feeling comes to you, you can change it by training your brain to automatically think opposite thoughts. You can repeat affirmations, self-devised or any you have read and liked, training your mind to automatically go to the positive when you think of the negative.
You can always use the steps described here. You will notice the similarities.
Why don’t you think you’re amazing?
I preach confidence non-stop because it makes manifestation easy. It helps you stay in a good mood. It makes everything in life easier. Many readers have told me they struggle with maintaining their confidence especially when manifesting relationships.
Confidence is a positive feeling, awareness and attitude. Confident individuals never judge themselves or others – one of the most important lessons we could ever learn. Confident people love their lives because they arrange them in all kinds of positive ways.
Now, do you love or need?
Loving the person you are allows you to love another. Feeling incomplete while thinking that another could complete you will inevitably trick you into thinking that you need them to be the person you always wanted to be.
Truth is, you don’t need anyone – relationships are a choice. You are capable of being happy on your own, allowing love to manifest into your life. Being happy on your own is also very healthy, allowing you to be the best possible partner to the person of your choice.
The most amazing partners are those who can be happy on their own.
There is only the “having” or the “missing” of your desire in/from your life.
When aware of having your desire, you feel secure, happy and are able to let go (to manifest).
When you feel your desire missing from your life, your brain keeps elaborating on that idea, producing more of the “not having.” Fear, negative scenarios and doubt are mere manifestations of the same awareness.
If you change any negative belief into a positive one, the idea of having your desire leading your awareness, your brain will soon produce even more thoughts of “having it” which will ultimately lead to manifestation.
Feeling that you need any desire you may have will lower your vibration. Remember that as a rule, warning you of what to avoid.
Obviously, you want to avoid lowering your own vibration yet it happens, usually as a result of falling into negative thoughts, missing something or someone.
Wanting something you are currently missing provides a problem for your mind. Noticing the absence of your desire can cause attachment – another form of need for your desire to manifest, making it impossible to arrive.
Needing leads to more of the same. Feeling confident in having your desire already leads to its manifestation.
NEED VS. LOVE
Observe the difference between the following scenarios.
You have chosen a specific person. You wanted your mind blown and they live up to the task, making your head spin already. They are captivating, independent, joyous, smart and simply beautiful. They seem different, interesting, and they seem to love their life. Taken by these positive feelings you are experiencing, you’ve attracted various interactions with this person, from conversations to possibly even a date. Now, you want even more of their time since they seem to make life even better and because you deem them perfect, you are overthinking how to proceed. Any idea you have is followed by indecision, lack of self-confidence and your uncertainty that you can match their luminous quality. Your insecurity becomes obvious to them, causing them to distance themselves from you or place you in the friend zone. They still respect you but things aren’t moving in the direction you would prefer. You deem them too smart, gorgeous and interesting, thinking they might not see the same in you while in reality, you only reaffirm that you don’t see yourself as such. Or, you idealize them. You want their love as an overall validation, proving all the naysayers wrong and proving to yourself that you can do anything. You might think they’re as impressive as you want to be. You probably see them as beautiful as you want them to see you. Whichever of these possible scenarios you experience, you will ultimately become less and less interested in their true feelings and increasingly worried about why they don’t love you. Does that sound like real love and appreciation? Does it even sound like you are connecting with their true vibration? Do you really want to know them or just want them to fulfill your needs, especially those you have to fulfill? Because nobody can truly give you what you don’t feel within.
You think this person is too good to be true. You feel the need to be with them and end up disappointed. You failed to connect with the true essence of this person, idealizing them instead of truly wanting to know them. You thought they were too good to be true yet they are good enough just the way they are…and so are you. The only problem is, you weren’t ready to truly connect with them, probably fearing disappointment and your fantasy crushed. Yet that fantasy is not the same as a relationship.
On the other hand, how do you feel when you know that you can have anything, including the exact relationship you want? When you know, you feel amazing! You don’t feel the need for your specific relationship but only love that it’s a done deal, appeared already or will appear soon, however you perceive it in the moment. You think about it for as long as it makes you happy, moving onto something else when you feel like it. When negative thoughts and fears come up, you examine the reasons for them or ignore them because you know they’re false. However, if you choose to examine them, you do so because you want to be the person you admire which requires self-honesty. You want to know what your fears are telling you and face them so they would disappear. You feel good because your life is exciting, fulfilling and fun; you have other things to think about besides your relationship, just like your specific person does. You both love your lives and want to share them with each other. You know that what you want is yours. You are capable of relaxing and doing what makes you happy because it is the way to your desire. You feel great about yourself and cannot wait to share that with your specific person while enjoying them share their life with you in return. It’s very possible you don’t care what other people think of you. When enjoying life that much, you attract even more amazing things and people into it. They pay attention to you because happiness is attractive. Your vibration is high and you love it. Why would you ever lower it?
What happens after you absolutely know your desire belongs to you? This feeling is butterfly-inducing at first and is in itself spectacular.
I love spectacular manifestation stories – the spectacular part rests not only in the manifestation itself but also living with it every day. If you feel that your desire is spectacular simply because you would love to live it, so will be the story. The spectacular part lies in the sharing, giving, feeling and experiencing everyday life. If you don’t see the spectacular in what you do and who you want be with every day, you are missing the point.
WHAT ABOUT YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS?
After a while, you fail to understand why you ever had negative thoughts and wasted your time with them. As useful as they may be in uncovering limiting beliefs, it is time to say goodbye to (reacting to) them afterwards.
Facing and ridding yourself of negative thoughts works. However, their solving has to hold the purpose of replacing those negative thoughts with positive ones – you are resolving your negative thoughts in order to be able to only focus on the positive life you want to live.
If you only get rid of your negative thoughts but don’t form new, positive beliefs to take their place, what’s the point? In that case, you’re also focusing on what you don’t want instead of thinking about what you do want. Not knowing what you want to create leads to negative thoughts! You are not making a point of keeping focus on having your desire already if you see this process as exhausting or “work.” However, that shows your level of love and attachment to your desire.
If you are having a hard time imagining that you have your desire and loving the idea, do you really want it that much?
This is the crucial question you must ask yourself – do you think it’s possible for you to truly be happy with your specific person? Do you think they could be a great partner? Do you want to make them the happiest they’ve ever been?
Do you believe they can make you happy?
Manifesting a relationship should feel easy in order to manifest quickly and easily. In theory, imagining yourself with the person you want should only be filled with love. Feeling negatively about the person you want literally means contradicting laws of the Universe and is a reason you feel upset with yourself.
If you are upset with your specific person, you are upset with yourself over some scenario of not being good enough.
If upset about the past, you are upset with yourself for it – for blaming yourself when it happened, attracting it in the first place, tolerating it when you shouldn’t have or being too weak to leave when it was time.
And, you know it.
Now, you can forgive yourself for it; you know what to do and are starting over. You are happy. When manifesting a specific relationship, choose someone you want to make the the happiest they’ve ever been. Find them fascinating exactly for who they are. Know they are going to make an amazing partner. If you feel this way, you will be able to see yourself with them easily, removing the need for the relationship and manifesting it into your life.
The only part you really need to control is your belief. Then, maintaining your vibration will be easy.
When you love the manifestation period preceding your desire, you receive it fast; you’re probably aware of this already.
Let me explain.
Every single time you manifested something without the need to rush it, it came to you fast. Sometimes, this desire appeared in your life instantly.
This can happen with desires one perceives as “small” or “likely to have.” However, those perceived as “life changing” cause resistance, fear, uncertainty and doubt many use to give up on them. If unfamiliar with creation principles, unaware of LoA or not used to consciously creating, one might automatically shut down the flow of positive energy upon the appearance of those thoughts. One might feel all sorts of doubt and anxiety lowering their vibration.
When attaching profoundly positive feelings to your desire, no matter how big or small you’ve perceived it to be, that desire becomes a natural course of events in your mind. You know it’s coming. You know it’s yours already.
MANIFESTATIONS NOW AND THEN
I used to create intricate manifestation stories in certain areas of my life instead of allowing them to come to life easily because I perceived that easy path as boring. When manifesting my past relationships, I wanted to make all the first moves and then, enjoy what I created. Many wish they didn’t have to make an effort with relationships and I thrived on “making it happen.” I would create work where there wasn’t any because a great story of a relationship coming to life had to be present.
In addition, I thrived on showing others they could make anything happen and being assertive about everything I desired was the way to go. I was comfortable with taking action and over time, I realized the following.
Projecting the right energy was an action in itself. In truth, one doesn’t have to do anything in order to receive their desire – some do nothing and receive and others do everything without seeing change.
Manifesting money has always gone interestingly in my life. I continuously receive double the expected for any amount when shopping, as the items I desire seem to be on sale most of the time. I have often received gifts and beauty treatments. I have unexpectedly found money in the past. I went on all-expenses-paid trips. When envisioning my last professional fee, I received double the amount.
I also enjoy giving, donating and treating my loved ones greatly. I love to pay for dinner, concert tickets, groceries, drinks, gas (when someone else is driving) or cab rides, donating money to charities and give gifts. I donate clothes on a regular basis, all in fantastic condition. Others also enjoy treating me to dinner, drinks or entertainment. Positive feelings are attached to money in my world.
There was a time in my life when I was unsure if budgeting could bring me positive results but wanted to try it anyway. It was one of the least fruitful decisions I’d ever made. Budgeting created momentary money limitations in my mind, which would lead to generally having less, not more. I needed to change those beliefs once again but learned several valuable lessons along the way.
When manifesting work engagements, I quickly discovered my likes and dislikes. Before deciding on what I truly wanted to do, I tried out a variety of jobs. I was interested in life and wanted as many different experiences as I was willing to dedicate my time to. Twice in my life, I gave sending out my CV to apply for jobs a try and hated it with passion each time (even when it would lead to employment).
My preferred method rested in the expectation that others would seek me out for professional engagements and, they did. I would decide what I wanted to do, as detailed as I could, and know it was mine.
I believe it was so due to a simple creation principle – that which perpetuates the lack of our desire makes us miserable and creates more of the same.
To me, sending out my CV only made me feel like I was searching for a job instead of having it. I felt this practice lowering my personal standards. I am much happier asking for my perfect gig and letting it go, inevitably leading to manifestation. This hasn’t changed but my relationship manifestations have.
Your intention is what matters. To some, CV sending perpetuates the feeling of looking for a job. To others, it is a highly positive practice that will lead to their ideal job. You may either alter your perception or your practice in order to change your awareness.
An additional factor involved in this idea was my knowing I would return to writing as soon as I was ready.
Over time, I discovered the appeal of relationships, observed my old mistakes without emotion and reassessed my true desires.
There was a time I held mostly negative views of relationships but learned it was so because I wasn’t entirely basing them on pure love. However, I would also always preset their expiration date (instead of allowing them to take their natural course, whatever that might have been). Holding negative views on relationships was fueled by my belief that I was meeting and dating men who could simply never be enough for me. I started to wonder about what I was missing and therefore wanted.
Relationships can be pure bliss, with energy clear, loving feelings prevailing and problems easily solved. When problems appear, many see them as the end of the world, lowering their vibration and causing more problems. When good times come, one may either be grateful for their abundance and lasting bliss or expect them to fade any minute because “good things don’t last.” Either way, their awareness will determine the continuation or the halt of bliss in their lives.
When manifesting relationships today, I ask for my desire and automatically know it’s mine. I visualize everything I want the relationship to be. I visualize everything I want us to be and live. I live it before we do together – I feel what it’s like to have it. There is usually one visualization I repeat more than others – spontaneously created, emotion-filled, a favorite. This particular visualization reflects everything I want to be, the adoration I feel for my man and the relationship I want to live. Sometimes, I only have to do it once before the relationship appears.
The reason for manifesting a specific relationship should rest in nothing but love for the person you want to be with. Some relationships, I manifested because I saw the man I had my eye on as an amazing person who would be an exceptional boyfriend. Others, I manifested when simply wanting the experience of being with a specific man.
I am tempted to add the following passage to every single post I ever write from now on.
KNOWING that your desire is yours brings inner peace and removes the need for signs. Knowing your desire is yours already boosts the feeling of love for your manifestation period. If you discover that having your desire doesn’t make you feel good, this is an entirely separate issue from the feeling of not having it in your life; you must feel good about having your desire in your life.
If you don’t KNOW it’s YOURS, no amount of signs is going to help.
How can you know?
Because your desire belongs to you the moment you ask for it. The Universe creates the very moment we ask. Then, allowing your desire to come into your reality is the only thing left.
Does having every desire in your life make you feel good? It didn’t always make me feel good, especially with relationships. Seeing myself with several specific men was only tempting in theory while in reality, I had to admit to myself that I didn’t truly want them. Wanting to care about someone didn’t mean I automatically would.
As one of my close friends once said, “I know you tried to want that relationship but if you don’t, you don’t.” Obviously, the “trying” to want it only leads to more trying and unless I was willing to alter my beliefs, the time had come to move on.
When manifesting anything, one would go wrong seeing it as following the steps and manifesting their desire. Are you aware of having your desire or currently manifesting it? From moment one, be aware that your desire is yours already and follow the steps without overthinking them. Observe your thoughts emotionlessly. Don’t think about the steps as you’re making them and how correct they are while looking out for your desire to appear at the same time. That is not having; it is manifesting which will lead to more manifesting.
From the moment of asking for your desire, assume that it is yours without waiting for it to appear. Complete manifestation steps as you feel that your desire is yours already while also feeling gratitude for having it in your life. This knowing will make your manifestation period a happy one, not to mention the necessity of knowing that your desire is yours before being able to receive it.
Getting what I give has never been a problem. Would you like to do the same?
Make doing what makes you happy your priority. Those who do receive everything they want from the Universe, as if they never had to seek it out. When doing what makes you happy becomes your only action taken in life, you need for nothing and see everything you want practically handed to you.