Whatever our needs are, we should consider them small; if we consider our needs massive, there’s a chance that we’ll begin to fear never meeting them and finding them elusive. Continue reading “Why Do We Expect Our Biggest Needs Unmet?”
Unconditional love and acceptance, masked as not caring about what a person does or simply loving them for everything they are, allow us to manifest relationships rapidly. However, when forgiveness for the past or the present is involved, hurt feelings can get in the way of appreciating someone unconditionally.
It’s easy for us to accept the people we don’t care about or don’t perceive as important to our lives. On the other hand, those important to us are those we expect certain behaviors from and if our preferred behaviors are not immediately present, we can develop resentment or fear that our relationship is simply “not working out.”
The trick is to accept the person for who they are because then, we are able to imagine them treating us exactly the way we want to be treated. But if we don’t accept them to start, we won’t be able to imagine them being even better because we will continue to focus on their flaws and nothing else.
An dip into negative feelings can happen when we project our needs to the other person and expect them to fulfil those needs – in this case, we must ask ourselves if we are projecting onto them the needs we can only fulfil ourselves.
We don’t feel good when we are needy and this neediness often translates into wanting to receive more communication from the person. However, the way to achieve that is to imagine receiving this communication in the way that makes you feel good! You simply must give into good, positive feelings to make the Law of Attraction work – you want to imagine happily living your life with this person and being treated the way you want to be.
If you simply focus on them not doing what you want and not fulfilling your needs, you will lower your vibration and think permanently negatively of them as a result…and that will hurt your manifestation. Thinking poorly of someone translates into you seeing them not fulfilling your needs and not doing what you want, and your impression of the relationship growing in negativity.
Now is the time to ask yourself if you are asking your specific person to fulfil both sides of the equation – their own needs and your own? Because this doesn’t work. You have to do your part if you expect them to do theirs. Everything we give back, we receive in return.
When you love and accept a specific person unconditionally, they give the same to you.
On the other hand, when you are upset with a person’s behavior, they fail to give you the love and attention you desire and a relationship doesn’t manifest.
We must assume and visualize everything we wish to receive from a specific person while calling our negative thoughts false and paranoid. We simply must tell ourselves to think positive because only then can we assume the best of ourselves and everyone else.
We must only imagine the scenarios that make us the happiest.
Do you fear losing what you have or worse, losing your desired manifestation before you attract it?
Fear of loss (or, fear of failure, if you prefer) usually happens after experiencing an unexpected loss in life – loss of a job, a relationship or one’s happiness or confidence at the least expected moment. The moment one finds oneself blindsided by something they thought would never happen to them, usually a break-up or something of similar magnitude – big enough to cause confidence issues but not so big that the damage is irreversible – fear of loss is created, causing insecurity and self-doubt. And when it comes to manifesting one’s desires, fear of loss works even before one manifests their desire, keeping it at arm’s length.
One’s desired manifestation is closer than they think but the fear of loss keeps it from manifesting in the first place.
I don’t want to say that you can’t lose what you never had in the first place because you can have anything you want if you believe it; however, I will say that the desire to have specific things in life always comes with fear if it stems from need.
If instead of your true heart’s desire you accept one deemed easier to manifest, it isn’t fair to anyone involved.
If you should accept any goal you consider easier to manifest than your true heart’s desire, this isn’t fair to you or anyone else.
What we want wants us back.
The Universe wants to give you what you want.
Your true heart’s desire wants you just as much as you want it.
If you want something because you believe it will solve all your problems, that is not heartfelt motivation for the manifestation of your desire.
Same goes for needing to manifest what you decided – you manifest when you love and trust instead of need because you can’t be happy without it.
You must be happy without it first!
When you love what you want, you manifest. When you know that you bring happiness into the life of another, you attract them.
Feeling badly about your desire usually comes down to not seeing yourself having it in your life; on the other hand, you may nurture the thoughts of having your desire in your life all you want.
When you think thoughts of having your desire, those thoughts naturally go away after a while. You can only think about something you already have for so long before changing focus. Think about it – when the fact that you are living in your house comes to mind, or driving your car, going to university or work, your clothes, your pets, kids or anything else you have, you briefly think about it then change focus to something else. That is what we do.
I always suggest (in my book included) to start with and stick to knowing that your desire belongs to you already because that notion will literally turn into your awareness.
All in all, you see what you have right now. And when you see your desire in your mind as if you have it right now, you live it and then, you live something else you have.
When you live something that hasn’t manifested yet in your mind as if it were your current reality, you manifest it. You don’t want to live anything 24/7 even if you want to keep it in your life – a life on repeat would bore you. You remove the need for it because you have just lived it and felt like you had it already.
This is why it is important to see your desire as if you had it now. Seeing that you have it now will remove the need for its manifestation and make you feel like you have it instead of missing it. Then, you will manifest it. You just had it in your mind so now, you will have it in your life.
This is also why the power of visualization is an absolutely incredible manifestation aid but you must practice its content steadily. You must focus on having your desire. When you visualize living your desire in any way, visualize as if you had it now. And if you practice for just a few days, you can feel your desire being yours. However, you must not rush – just see yourself living your desire because that will remove the need for it and allow you to manifest it.
Knowing your desire is manifesting is the key to your success. When you know, you are guided by it or at least I am which means you can be, too.
To those of you who like to think about your desire a lot, remember that I told you you could as long as those thoughts are happy and reflect living the life of your dreams? Well, I’ve manifested that way, too. This is a perfectly valid manifestation method but only if you are happy and you nurture the thoughts of living your desire.
If you love to drown in the thoughts of your desire, you want those thoughts to be happy, positive, fulfilling, filled with love and as confident as your energy.
When manifesting love, I imagine it as the most magical thing. I dare to get excited about it and I imagine finding all the magic I want in real life while I am living my relationship. I imagine needing nothing but happiness about being together and loving each other while nothing else matters. If you accept someone, accepting their entire life is the best choice you can make and all I care about is having an amazing time just being together.
When manifesting professional opportunities, I love being the person others love to work with because she delivers even greater results than imagined. I don’t necessarily focus on easily getting along with everyone I work with, as I accept a difference in opinions and admittedly, workplace relationships have had only limited importance to me. It isn’t that I want to be difficult but I live in the awareness of having immense patience for the people I want to work with but wanting to walk away from those I don’t; that type of awareness serves as a reminder to level the bumps in collaboration and be patient when knowing that a particular collaboration is ultimately beneficial. For all these reasons, I focus on the end result when manifesting professional accomplishments.
I have additional examples but I chose these two to compare and contrast.
If you reread the passages written above, you will see that the nature of all these thoughts is one of having my desire in my life. You can do the same.
If you practice seeing yourself living your desire, you will soon begin to gravitate towards those thoughts.
We cannot skip letting go. Remember that letting go is knowing your desire will manifest and living your life happily in the present moment. You don’t have to forget about your desire in order to let go but if you continue to nurture the thoughts of having it in your life, letting go will be easier because you will fill your heart with knowing and remove the need. Sometimes, visualizing once is enough to let go but if you like to think about having your desire, think about it. You will have gotten used to the idea of having it, remove the need for it to manifest in your life and then, it will appear.
When you feel desperation for your manifestation to happen and the need to have it because you don’t just yet, all you see is emptiness from the direction of your desire. You develop borderline paranoia because you are governed by need, not love.
This is why you must ask for your desire, love it and assume it is yours already – nothing less, nothing else.
Imagine you want to manifest your dream job. You applied for it but got no results. You continue to wait. You keep drowning in the reasons why the job might not be yours. You tried to control the process in your mind by attempting to figure out how your dream job should manifest if it were to truly be yours but that just makes you feel like your desire is slipping away.
You might also be manifesting something you feel badly about but keep trying to feel good about it instead of just feeling good. If you have negative beliefs about your desire, you know that you need to resolve them or decide they’re false and ignore them; either way, engaging in the need to escape them will prolong that state of neediness.
You must realize whether you are currently governed by need or love – which of those two has taken over your awareness?
I have occasionally wondered if the human need for love always means the need for love first and love from a specific person second. I sometimes think that even when projected on a specific person, the need to manifest a relationship with them comes from the overall need for love, the hurt from loneliness or something similar.
If a relationship is what you desire, give love to yourself first. A myriad of reasons why self-love melts away all manifestation roadblocks continues here.