Manifestation Epidemic – “Can I Handle This?”

I’ve noticed another manifestation epidemic – one might fear their desire to be too much for them to handle, fearing their own inadequacy in the face of true happiness.

If you have ever felt this way, you probably questioned your ability to handle everything that comes with attracting your desire. The idea of your dreams finally coming true might have been perplexing if you ever worried about losing them soon after receiving, causing you to prevent yourself from enjoying a much happier idea of living them.

Worrying about losing your dreams soon after they come true stems from idealizing them and under-appreciating yourself. Even if just subconsciously, thinking of your dream as an emotional utopia you don’t deserve causes self-doubt.

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Have You Earned a Great Relationship?

Have You Earned a Great Relationship?
This post first appeared on my (first) blog, https://improvingconfidence.wordpress.com/

I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.

A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.

Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into their reality.

On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.

You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.

The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.

Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.

Truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”

Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must feel deserving of your goals now and be confident in yourself before you can obtain them.

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Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.

One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.

Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!

If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.

Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.

Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined him/her wanting, it doesn’t mean you’re right.

We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.

There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.

Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?

Do You Suffer from Desired Perfection?

Do You Suffer from Desired Perfection?

The reason I have asked many of you if you truly wanted to manifest your desires was because I sometimes take time deciding whether I want something (or someone). At times, I like to leave it and think about it whenever the thought comes to me until I feel that this is what I want, 100%. Once I know that I want something or someone, it all flows easily (even before that, as I am aware that what I ask for is what happens).

These instances are rare but they happen occasionally. Even when knowing what you want most of the time, something like this may still come along occasionally.

However, this is a personal choice. If I ask, “Are you sure you want this enough?” and you say you do, I take it. We all operate from different sets of beliefs and personal reasons.

It is tempting to make your desire feel like a big deal. Thinking that you are manifesting something big is exciting but for some, it also serves as a fear-inducing block. In these cases, one’s desire can be seen as a life saver or a fresh start. It can be seen as a life goal accomplished. Even if you want to see it this way, your desire must feel natural to you. You must feel right having it in your life, an idea that often includes positive feelings and a sense of peace, even around the most exciting of desires.

The other night, one of my closest friends told me I had the skill to let go and live as if (paraphrased). We all know that anyone can develop this skill. Truth is, it isn’t that difficult to imagine having your desire in your life. The pressure to get it perfect kills it more than anything.

This friend of mine has already displayed the skill of living as if, starting small and expanding their belief.

When strongly attached to your desire, you may feel that you want to manifest it flawlessly, perfectly. You want to complete every manifestation step perfectly, ensuring you will receive your desire. However, all you need to do is believe while leaving the need for perfection behind you. The need for perfection induces personal pressure and most importantly, it is unnecessary.

If everything you really need to do in order to manifest is ask, believe and receive, you already know there is no need for perfection with such simple steps. It’s not about perfection – it’s about happiness and simplicity.

It’s about self-confidence.

It’s about trust in the Universe.

A Great Person?

A Great Person?

Why feel good about yourself? There is simply no reason not to. You already know I believe that.

Greatly discussing manifesting relationships on this blog, I often preach “being a great person in order to have a great relationship.”

But what is a great person?

A great person is happy about their life, feels good about their goals, stands by their decisions and knows how much quality they possess. They are aware of bringing quality into the lives of others as well as creating it in their own life. No matter who you are and what you love to do, be proud of it! Feel good about yourself! Otherwise, how else are you supposed to live a happy life? How else are your specific people supposed to feel good about you?

When you’re down, do what you believe would make you feel better. You don’t have to be perfect or in a perfectly good mood all the time but you have to know that your sadness is fleeting and under no circumstances is it to define you.

When you cherish you, keeping focus on your heart’s desires is easy and natural.

This specific awareness brings great results in life, manifestation and letting go. Yes, all those things are connected but this amazing type of awareness which anyone can have allows one to feel light and manifest easily.

When you feel good about yourself and your life, you can easily let go to manifest. You know that you will receive your desires and you know that you deserve them – simple as that.

You don’t have to be perfect. The specific person you want isn’t perfect. Your dream job won’t be perfect every day. Your dream home will still need improvements every once in a while. However, it is the feeling of loving what you have and want to manifest that keeps it not perfect but just as you want it.

I think you see why anyone can be this person.

The following example is where many get confused trying to figure out what it is that makes them attractive and a potential romantic partner to the quality individuals.

Some have accomplished great things in their professional lives and still remained individuals of dull personalities. It is primarily your personal awareness that dictates your life and your level of attraction. Relying on any external factors in hope to accomplish these specific goals equals looking for a shortcut to facing your inner world.

You aren’t a great partner to someone because you have a good job but because you are happy. If your great career makes you happy, it makes you happy for yourself which in turn makes you a great partner due to your personal happiness.

See what I mean?

However, in order to achieve that amazing career, you have to be happy with what you have now instead of trying to run away from it and achieve that great career.

See why LoA is all about you and your feelings?

I love you all. Have an amazing day!