personality

Are You Leading Your Life or Allowing It to Lead You?

| Nina Grdic

When you decide that you are an individual whom everything works out for, you will begin to view life’s events as being created by you and subjected to you, and not as if the world creates your fate.

Is everything meant to come to us or the other way around? We are to decide what we want and allow it to come to us, allow ourselves to move towards it. We are meant to decide, not life.

I have spoken to people who told me that life served them the undesired. They said they waited for things to happen and were upset when they didn’t. More often than not, they were taught that life just gives to some and not others, which left them in fear of becoming the “others.” However, this fear didn’t tell them to start thinking positive and believe in a positive result. They didn’t even know this was an option.

Life doesn’t want to decide for you. The Universe doesn’t want you to assume that life will be hard and you will get what you can. The Universe wants more for us, otherwise the ability to attract what we want wouldn’t exist.

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Step one in altering this awareness and giving the power to ourselves would be to disconnect from the perception of life as divided from us. We need to start looking at life as something we are, not something that handles us.

And if the creation of our life is something we are and we decide on, then life isn’t supposed to be directing us while we have no say. We are not at the mercy of some entity of life we have no connection to. How could something we wouldn’t feel connected to even manage to decide the course of our lives?

Law of Attraction doesn’t respond by granting our desires if we feel that we have no say in the direction of our lives. You know why? Because when we feel life will take us where it wants, more often than not do we assume it’ll take us to the undesired.

Let’s not assume that. Let’s simply assume that what we want is ours because we believe in it. That we decide what’s coming. Life is always better when we do that.

All this shows that life is in you. You are the one who decides where to take it.

Don’t Lose It Before You Attract It!

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| Nina Grdic

Do you fear losing what you have or worse, losing your desired manifestation before you attract it?

Fear of loss (or, fear of failure, if you prefer) usually happens after experiencing an unexpected loss in life – loss of a job, a relationship or one’s happiness or confidence at the least expected moment. The moment one finds oneself blindsided by something they thought would never happen to them, usually a break-up or something of similar magnitude – big enough to cause confidence issues but not so big that the damage is irreversible – fear of loss is created, causing insecurity and self-doubt. And when it comes to manifesting one’s desires, fear of loss works even before one manifests their desire, keeping it at arm’s length.

One’s desired manifestation is closer than they think but the fear of loss keeps it from manifesting in the first place.

I don’t want to say that you can’t lose what you never had in the first place because you can have anything you want if you believe it; however, I will say that the desire to have specific things in life always comes with fear if it stems from need.

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A Positive Individual’s Manifestation Method

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| Nina Grdic

My entire approach to manifestation is based on being a positive person – it’s what I’m used to, it’s organic, it feels right. I love having unwavering faith that my desire is manifesting and since positive energy coming from within helps the Law of Attraction work without effort, it makes me feel connected to my desires and love from the Universe.

Having everything I want is what feels most natural to me. Whenever I thought that I could compromise what I wanted just to accomplish some other goal (without reason, because we can have everything), I ended up partially displeased – this was when I learned that I only accept having everything I want and nothing less. “Partially displeased” is not worth it.

I am only happy when I have everything I want and to get it, I assume that I have it already. Everything we feel is reflected in our realities.

Positive energy works easily with knowing that one’s desire is manifesting; however, you don’t have to be an unnaturally positive person but only need to know that your desire is going to manifest. Knowing is key. Continue reading →

Your Personality Type and Manifestation

| Nina Grdic

Combining some light psychology and manifestation can be useful. Today, we are going to discuss your personality, preferences, habits and ways of expressing yourself that can help your manifestation play out as smoothly as possible.

Some people are extroverted and others, introverted. Some are outgoing and others are shy. Some are open and others tend to be distrusting for a variety of reasons. Some love to have booming social lives while others prefer to socialize mainly with their closest friends. Some are optimists and others are pessimists, even if they wish to be optimists instead and are currently working on achieving that goal. Some love to take risks while others like to feel comfortable. All of us love novelty in different ways.

How well do you know yourself? Knowing what kind of person you are helps you reach your full manifestation potential. What are you used to? More importantly, what would you prefer to experience?

Our strongest character traits can drive us in our lives. The things we seek and the lives we value can help us define the path in which we see our future manifestations coming together. Our personalities can help us manifest if we stay positive yet true to ourselves.

Are you upbeat? Do you like to engage in the things that keep you happy and excited? Or, do you get excited about many things without effort? Either way, you can boost your manifestation with the behaviors that are organic to you.

You probably like to enjoy the things that make you excited so try and incorporate living your desire with that. What would your desired manifestation have to entail in order for you to feel comfortable with it yet never lose yourself? If you like an adrenaline rush, take action towards your desire but only if the thought of doing so makes you happy while you expect nothing in return. In this case, you would simply be feeding your own happiness. You will feel excitement just from making a move! At the same time, always remain positive.

Are you an extremely strong person? Do you feel good but are rarely rattled, reducing your worries to problems larger than your own? If you think that nothing is a big deal (or, that many others make a big deal out of nothing), you stand a great chance at fast manifestation due to your steady mind and a resistance-free outlook on life.

Just like nothing else is a big deal, neither is your manifestation – it is just as likely to happen as anything else. Believe! You can receive your desire because it’s a regular thing in life. Something you are wishing for has already manifested for someone else before you and there will be others who will manifest the same type of thing in the future. It’s not as big of a deal as it seems.

Are you a highly positive person? Do you like to turn every situation in life into something positive or better yet, something you actually want?

You might not usually manifest many specific situations but rather have a habit of turning everything you encounter into something positive, knowing it’s going to work out for the best. Use your lack of need for specific details and focus on your end result – keep your end goal simple and you’ll succeed fast!

Are you imaginative? If you are, you can use the power of visualization effortlessly. With your eyes open or closed, focused or in passing, imagine that you have what you want, now. What are you doing with it? How do you feel? Who are you? Use the power of your imagination and live your desire as if it were reality right now!

If you like to imagine what makes you feel good, simply imagine your future.

Are you usually quiet? Then, you might prefer your desires to come to you without you “doing” anything but feeling good about yourself and allowing manifestation to happen by letting go. The steps in between will align. 

Imagine a world in which your desires have manifested. You were comfortable with manifestation and are now happy. Wasn’t it easy yet you were able to be yourself, taking all the time you needed? 

When you happily think about living in the world where you have everything you wanted, say an affirmation which reflects having your desire in your life or lovingly visualize living what you wanted. Then, just be yourself. 

Be positive and believe.

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Your Awareness Comes First and Your Thoughts Second – A Guide to Uncovering Your Happy Self

| Nina Grdic

Do you have a problem feeling good about yourself no matter what you have or, don’t?

Is this you?

  • When you think thoughts of having your desire, you always end up back in the same old negative place after a little while.
  • Your fears keep coming back even when the current reality starts to turn into everything you have asked for.
  • You always assume that things will go wrong at some point.
  • No matter what you do or how much you manifest, you just don’t feel “right.”

There is a difference between feeling good about having your desire and feeling good about yourself.

If you don’t feel good about you, you run the risk of manifesting your desire but not keeping it in your life. Feeling poorly about yourself can prevent you from seeing yourself living your desire permanently, even if you can see yourself receiving it initially.

Let’s face it – self work is the part many attempt to skip, pushing themselves to believe their desire belongs to them instead of repeating affirmations about themselves in addition to their desire.

And why is that part important?

You are supposed to feel good about both yourself and your desire. If you don’t feel good about yourself without your desire, you won’t even after it manifests. This is the biggest reason your desire cannot fix your life or your awareness – only you can do that!

Many also attempt to skip over the self-work part due to the impatience to manifest their desire as soon as possible. However, they continue to feel poorly, blaming the lack of their desire for this state of mind when in reality, the state of mind itself is the problem.

Your decisions about your life come first. Your awareness comes first and your thoughts second. This is why you can face your negative thoughts and say, “No! I asked for what I want and that is what I must receive.”

You must start to rely on your conscious decisions and insist on them instead of your uninvited negative thoughts. This is the reason why you can say, “I asked for my desire and that is what I must receive.”

You can ignore those negative thoughts because only you consciously decide who you are and how you live your life. You decide what makes you happy. By ignoring these thoughts and saying yes to your conscious decisions and nothing else (or, less), you are respecting yourself. You are only accepting what you want.

What to do…?

After coming to realize that your awareness and conscious decisions come first and your thoughts second, you are to focus on every bit of positivity you feel about yourself. You are to tell yourself why you deserve your desire.

Then, you are to start to finally be happy without your desire. When you have a problem being happy, you are advised to examine why instead of think about your desire.

Are you trying to tell yourself that you want something but ignoring your true nature and needs in reality? You need to face those first.

If you know that there is a part of you which is unhappy no matter what, ask yourself why. Ask yourself what it is you honestly want.

If you want something that you don’t want to want, admit that you want it any way. At least in part, admit to yourself that you might want other things than your desire, even only occasionally. After facing those thoughts, you will get to know yourself and you might just change your mind, realizing your desire is enough after all.

Never chase the idea of living a specific life but think about the kind of life that makes you truly happy. If you want to manifest something just for show or just to prove your power to yourself, it’s not worth it. To manifest, you must feel good and if you are simply trying to fulfil your needs, you are not feeling good.

It is time to focus on living your life instead.

What is it that makes you happy? Do it. Put yourself first, not your desire. Putting yourself first equals feeling good so if you must resolve your lack of happiness with yourself and admit to yourself why it is there, do it.

Be important enough to yourself to do whatever it takes to make yourself feel better, even when it takes profound self honesty. Face yourself and remember that no matter what you find, you are worthy of love and can start to give it.

Have You Earned a Great Relationship?

| Nina Grdic 
This post first appeared on my (first) blog, https://improvingconfidence.wordpress.com/

I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.

A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.

Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into their reality.

On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.

You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.

The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.

Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.

Truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”

Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must feel deserving of your goals now and be confident in yourself before you can obtain them.

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Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.

One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.

Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!

If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.

Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.

Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined him/her wanting, it doesn’t mean you’re right.

We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.

There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.

Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?

The Reasons for Focusing on a Specific Person

| Nina Grdic

How did you choose the specific person you want(ed) to be in a relationship with?

Some just follow their feelings and don’t think about the reasons why. They know that they have found someone special and they make sure this person stays in their life.

Others like to know what specifically they liked about the person they choose and others choose to examine their behavior to realize what it is that attracts or motivates them to want to start a relationship.

This is how I do it.

I see myself with a specific man when I want to give, put in time, affection and live our lives together – I’ve said this before but would like to explain. I don’t think about what he can do for me but what I wish to do for him. I want to get to know his life, his friends, his passions and his heart. I want to be included and give him the most amazing reasons to include me by being an amazing person who makes him happy. I want to be around him and think about what I want to give to our relationship instead of what I want to take from it.

When I feel that way, I know that I have chosen well.

Knowing why I want a specific man helps me manifest because I know what I truly want. If the man in question displays the energy and the qualities I admire, I know I truly feel it. At the same time, every person is different and qualities can show in different ways so it is important for me to choose someone I admire exactly for who he is, someone I want to be with without ever wanting to change him.

If you think about it, you probably know why you want the person you want, love the one you love or appreciate the qualities which you do. Either way, be grateful for being with the one person of your choice.

How Happy is Your Social Life?

| Nina Grdic

Does your social life make you happy and help your manifestations?

A social life is an important part of happiness. Our friends are the people we love to share a great deal of life with – they support us, comfort us when we need it and challenge us when necessary. They love us and we love them. The people we work with, our family members we are close with and the people we date can all be a part of our social lives.

Some like an active social life and others prefer a calmer one. Some like to engage in calming activities with their friends, others like to engage in long conversations and often while some others enjoy living various adventures with their friends on a regular basis. Some like to surround themselves with many new people while others prefer spending time with their closest friends. There are many possible scenarios out there and they work for different people.

I like an active social life. I love my friends who live all around the world and I love traveling to see them only to spend time together and create new memories. In its essence, that is what we’re doing – no matter what it is we do, we will have created new memories if we make sure to have fun. My friends vary in age, nationality, occupation and residence but the one thing they all have in common is an open, heart-driven personality. This core character trait matches their different personalities in various ways, making them exactly who they are.

Who are the individuals you choose to spend your time with?

Just like with relationships, you will easily attract the friendships you feel comfortable having, want to have, believe you CAN have and feel good enough to have. You get what you believe you deserve so think the best of yourself!

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When it comes to your manifestations, friends can help you let go. Think about this – who would you turn to for distraction and a reboot of gratitude after they remind you how amazing your life is already?

Rely on your friends. Let them remind you of everything you have. Share experiences, have fun and laugh together. Appreciate each other.

Surround yourself with people you genuinely like, those who make you feel great, and you can’t go wrong. Whether your social life consists of a few close friends or many people you enjoy spending time with, be happy and laugh with them. You will be in the moment completely and won’t feel the need for anything else.

Happiness in the moment brings future happiness just waiting to be experienced.

Do You Admire YOU?

| Nina Grdic

At various times, I mentioned being the person you admire. This concept entails self love, confidence, appreciation and possessing specific character traits you admire. For others, this concept means being perfectly satisfied with yourself, considering yourself perfectly fine, if not great, just the way you are already. Some want to improve upon their self image and others like their own already.

Those who want to improve upon their self image are advised to take actions that reflect being the person they wish to be. If you want to be more outgoing, think about the way you want to approach people and what you would want them to see in you. If you want to be more emotionally open, decide that you are courageous enough to engage in any emotion-filled conversation or that you are ready to start showing those you love how much they mean to you.

You get the idea.

And, you can use LoA to get there.

One of my friends wanted to relax around other people. This person was often concerned whether or not others were quick to judge and was afraid of looking silly; with that, my friend worried that everyone else was more interesting, attractive, intelligent and fascinating.

In truth, one is advised to take qualities they admire and apply them to oneself. Think about it – what is it that makes you interesting, fascinating, attractive… Which specific traits do you like about yourself and how could you develop those you want to add to the list?

Another friend of mine made a point of communicating with every person they were attracted to. This amounted to a quick exchange in some cases and a date in others but my friend eventually relaxed around their persons of interest greatly, especially after realizing the problem was self-imposed in the first place.

Whatever you struggle with, never feel like you are less important or interesting than others. Everyone has struggled with something at some point and your personal struggles are not embarrassing. All of us excel at different things but deciding what you wish to excel at when it comes to your personality will take you to your desired awareness.