Let me start by saying this – this post is not about you changing your personality. It is not about saying that who you are is insufficient to you manifesting your dream life. It is not about saying you aren’t good enough. We needed to be clear on that first.
I WANT YOU TO KNOW ME.
Not a day goes by that I don’t consider whether I reveal enough about myself on this blog.
“Do they know everything I want them to know about me?” I wonder.
“Do they really know who I am?”
But at the same time, I want to grow. I want to constantly grow. Can I do the same thing in a different way, and realize that it’s the attitude, not the action, that makes me different? That it’s the attitude which makes me grow?
One of the things that causes on-and-off growth spurts in my life is giving unconditionally. Sometimes I do it and other times, I don’t. However, I have grown in the parameters of unconditional giving in the following way – the moments in which I don’t want to give unconditionally quickly pass as I realize that my giving unconditionally doesn’t come from any type of guilt but from my choice to make myself and the other person happy.
Let me explain.
WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT…
My goal is to give unconditionally because when I do, I worry about nothing and feel like everything I give will get back to me tenfold. This is not to say that one should give to the point of it damaging them but it is to say that when one feels safe and like nothing can damage them, nothing truly can. When you are sure that things are developing the way you want them to, that you are safe and nothing can hurt you, nothing can; on the other hand, when you feel exposed to something horrible happening, you increase your chances of it happening.
I love knowing that everything I give, I get back, and that I can give as much goodness as I want to another person because it is for my own benefit as much as theirs. Giving unconditionally means giving good feelings and never allowing something to give you negative feelings. It means knowing that what you give will get back to you with even more goodness than you can imagine.NG
There were times when undesirable things happened to all of us and worst of all, I sometimes invited them because I didn’t know any other way for something to change. Sometimes, I invited situations that were not ideal either way because I wanted something to be different but didn’t know what. Most of the time, undesirable situations happen when you don’t truly know what you want.
Not knowing what we want makes is too easy to invite undesirable situations but this is not an ultimate problem – nothing is – as anything can be reversed with Law of Attraction.NG
I’ve come to this place in less than three weeks. I decided that I wanted to be this positive, relaxed person nothing can phase again. This is not the same thing as being insensitive, as you can feel anything you want while staying strong, but in the recent years I had been slightly more sensitive than usual.
At first, I liked being more sensitive. I liked exploring this new personality but fast, it became about feeling the irrelevant things too much (meaning just as much as the relevant ones). It became about vocalizing all emotions but I soon noticed that vocalizing overreactions or even reasonable emotions in an overreacting fashion made me feel awful. I thought that verbalizing all of my emotions would be liberating but more than anything, it drove me into being someone I didn’t like. It drove me into the occasional complaining which I didn’t enjoy doing.
We can still vocalize all the emotions we want but with the purpose of feeling positive, not dumping negativity on other people. When our goal is to be positive instead of telling someone how much they’ve upset us for any other purpose, such as showing them how hurt we are or trying to hurt them back, we automatically distinguish the positive emotion from the negative.NG
At rare times, I felt the need to show someone who bothered me what I thought of them which would soon invite even more negative feelings into my life. For the most part though, I didn’t care about those who bothered me and would only care about my own happiness. Then, I realized I never wanted to return any negative feelings but protect my own positive feelings instead. Being upset with someone is just not worth it because it’s a waste of my time. My time is what matters more than someone who upsets me. Your time matters more than the person who upsets you.
This is the person I am, consistently. Maybe I wasn’t 100% of the time in the past, even if I was so most of it, but knowing who you want to be is wonderful. I always wanted to be more relaxed and even more positive than ever. I’ve always known I would come to this place.
Adapt the manifestation process to yourself. If you’re a go-getter, say to yourself that it’s yours and once you’ve convinced yourself of it, make the moves to make it happen.
If you prefer the things you love to just come to you, be sure that what you want is coming, then sit back and relax. Visualize it coming in the way that makes you feel so grateful and more love for life and the world than you can imagine.
If you’re a combination of both, mix and match.
You don’t have to be anyone other than yourself to make your dreams come true.
You deserve to have what you want.
Can you see a clear manifestation path, an obvious course of events from now until your desire comes true? If you can’t, create one!
Today, I want to talk about knowing and loving who you are.
I imagine myself abundant because it makes me feel good.
I see myself abundant in quality of life, luck, money, intelligence, beauty, charisma, finesse, respect, positive experiences, friendships and love. I see myself abundant by living in a world I appreciate simply because it makes me happy.
Seeing yourself abundant should make you feel great and then, Law of Attraction is going to work for you rapidly and magically.
Look back on every time you received something in life simply because you wanted it – didn’t it feel good and just easy? It did, because you liked the thought of having it. Now, use those same thoughts to imagine living your desires.
I love sharing personal examples in my coaching. I think that a good life coach should be an authentically positive person who is good at living life because someone like that will have stories, understand them in terms of the Law of Attraction and never suggest unrealistic visualization or other methods they can’t even connect with themselves.
Positivity is real. Negative thoughts exist but can be ignored – you don’t have to make an extraneous effort to remove them. Just knowing they are powerless over you if you decide as much is enough to ignore them (even if they rattle you at first). A good life coach will encourage you to do this because they know you can! You could wake up tomorrow and find that last bit of motivation you’ve been missing which should be the goal your coach has for you.
A personal story is powerful because it provides a lifelike analysis of LoA that makes the listener realize how they feel about things. Offer your own point of view and you will be doing someone else a favor, making them see how they would handle this, the feelings they would have and their opinion of the situation (which doesn’t belittle your choices in any way, even if they disagree with you). It is not you job to persuade others to follow – it is you choice to offer you perspective generously so that others could gain a second opinion and possibly find themselves in the process.
When your main focus in on yourself instead of other people’s thoughts, actions and life choices, you find yourself capable of generously sharing you examples without the need for approval or validation.
Do you fear losing what you have or worse, losing your desired manifestation before you attract it?
Fear of loss (or, fear of failure, if you prefer) usually happens after experiencing an unexpected loss in life – loss of a job, a relationship or one’s happiness or confidence at the least expected moment. The moment one finds oneself blindsided by something they thought would never happen to them, usually a break-up or something of similar magnitude – big enough to cause confidence issues but not so big that the damage is irreversible – fear of loss is created, causing insecurity and self-doubt. And when it comes to manifesting one’s desires, fear of loss works even before one manifests their desire, keeping it at arm’s length.
One’s desired manifestation is closer than they think but the fear of loss keeps it from manifesting in the first place.
I don’t want to say that you can’t lose what you never had in the first place because you can have anything you want if you believe it; however, I will say that the desire to have specific things in life always comes with fear if it stems from need.
What you’re comfortable with equals who you are, and who you are equals what you attract.
The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.