You either have your desire or you don’t – there can only be one awareness.
If you have it, you know that it’s yours and never need to see proof from the outside. If you don’t, you look for proof.
One of the manifestation epidemics I see is a simple way in which many end up feeling negatively about their desire and with that, sometimes give up on it.
That way is having expectations of how your desire should manifest, partially or entirely.
Let’s say you’re manifesting a relationship with a specific person. You think the fastest way would be for them to call you or follow you on social media. Or, you might think the fastest way would be for them to just ask you on a date immediately. Say yes if you asked them today? Answer your message to them with immediate willingness to be with you?
Now, let’s say those things don’t happen. You ask them to meet and they can’t or are unwilling to. They don’t respond to texts. They don’t say what you think you should hear after their earlier behavior. You don’t say what you wanted or meant to say for whatever reason. Your friends and family weigh in with ideas of how they think things should go, all contradictory to LoA but typical of the usual limiting beliefs of the world. (I am not belittling your friends and family but these things happen with individuals who analyze what they see without feeling what you feel and knowing what you know.) You start to question yourself and your faith is withering.
You are attached and in order to manifest, you have to let go (=believe your desire is a done deal and manifesting right now even if you can’t see any proof of it).
When it comes to manifesting, your focus and confidence have to override all of the current circumstances, “reality” as you perceive it and all your negative thoughts. In other words, your determination and belief that you can create what you want, that your desire is yours already, have to be stronger than anything else. You just have to believe you can create your dreams simply because you have decided so and it is going to happen.
This state is naturally achieved once you deeply know you want to live or just experience your desire.
Weeks ago, I wrote about my resolve in creating (https://thelawofattractionandmylife.wordpress.com/2015/09/18/the-garage-door-metaphor/). That’s how I do it!
I manifested a move from Europe to USA at age fourteen. My parents’ friends thought my conviction that I was going to live in the States was “cute.” My school friends held less disbelief but didn’t hold too much belief in the idea either. However, nothing was going to rattle my belief – when it comes to LoA, it is you and only you, the only person whose feelings count when creating your reality. Other people can influence your feelings if you let them but they can never decide for you. I knew it was all happening without needing anyone’s approval.
Then, my father was sent to the States for work. My whole family moved, to the shock of many. However, it wasn’t shocking to me at all – this was exactly what I’d manifested. I had only focused on being there, living there, loving it.
When your focus on your decision to live your desire fails to be rattled by anything or anyone, you will have walked a very short path to your dream-come-true reality.
Over the past three weeks, I have received several gifts of organic and luxurious cosmetics. I received a Givenchy gift box of perfume, shower gel and body lotion. I was gifted a beauty treatment at Lush for a group of up to six people. Prior to receiving these gifts, I remembered how easily I attract beauty treatments and my favorite cosmetics. Gifts are also one of the ways in which I attract money, as many times I end up being gifted what I would ordinarily buy for myself.
You would imagine I feel pretty light and confident about manifesting gifts such as these, right? Well, I have definitely felt just as light about manifesting “bigger” things – moving countries, travel, university acceptance, money, renting apartments and most of my former relationships.
If you feel your desired manifestation to be “a big deal,” you will face a draining manifestation period of convincing yourself it is possible to have. However, if you accept that everything in life is created based on the same principle, you can start to believe your ideal relationship can be created just as easily. Relationships and love are beautiful experiences so why pass up the opportunity to gift yourself and someone you love with one?
Whenever I felt “heavy” about anything I wanted to manifest, it would move slowly. In truth, these occasions were rare and always involved the things and people I didn’t truly want (anymore). I didn’t want them because I didn’t believe that these jobs, friends or men could truly make me happy. I felt happy manifesting short-term linkage to them but not permanent. I only truly wanted to experience them.
I find relationships to be one of the most emotionally consuming, fear-inducing yet wonderful desires one could manifest. However, what if you could feel as light about manifesting relationships as you would manifesting beauty products I mentioned?
Your history with relationships or the specific person you are manifesting might decide your initial excitement or fears related to your current relationship desire. However, if your thoughts related to your desire are dissatisfying, you can work through them!
Is your potential desired relationship manifestation exhausting you? If so, you either don’t believe it could manifest or don’t like your specific person enough to feel good about them – this part depends on your personality and belief system, as well as your knowledge of yourself.
If you feel that the only potential partners who ever fall for you are those you don’t like that much, you don’t believe you could manifest the specific person and relationship you truly desire. If you keep thinking about the negative aspects of your past with them instead of the positive, you hold many negative feelings not just for the relationship but the person in question as well. Even when you briefly think about possibly being happy with this specific person, you don’t believe it could last. You don’t believe that this relationship is right but you want it to be.
It’s OK to feel whatever it is you’re feeling. It’s OK to be tired and frustrated. Once we reach the answers we need, we can calm down.
Now, you might be used to believing only after seeing external proof in life.
I believe this particular issue plagues many relationship manifestations – when not entirely believing yourself to be capable of manifesting your desired relationship, your energy can be practically lethargic, tiring and slow. You are drained and exhausted from trying to feel good. You keep changing your “manifestation technique,” hoping it’ll bring you what you want. However, it isn’t hope but profound knowing that manifests your desire.
An increase in motivation is all you need to achieve – it’ll make you feel great, raise your vibration and allow you to believe that your relationship is yours! An unconditional focus on your goal combined with motivation will make you see that your desire is in the bag!
Now, I am not saying you will be exhilarated every time you think about your desire but suddenly, you will be focused on it and be happy that it’s yours. Your determination, once truly achieved, will have let you know that your desire is yours already. Every time you think of your desire, you’ll be happy it’s yours!
Motivation equals positive energy. Motivation comes effortlessly once you clearly decide what you want your desire to be. What is it that makes you happy? In what way would living your desire make you happy?
When creating a love relationship, I only need my own belief that it’s mine. Even if I shared my belief with anyone else and they disagreed, I wouldn’t care because I know what I can create.
Motivation increases positive emotion. Allowing you to move towards your goal without the need to do any work, without impatience, letting you focus on life in the meantime while valuing your happiness and nothing less, motivation allows you to orchestrate your reality without the need for anyone’s approval.
If you have the patience to allow your desire to manifest, you love it and truly want to live it.
If you are impatiently rushing your desire into your existence, it is possible you (only) want it to validate yourself, raise your self-confidence, want to use it to increase your happiness, add value to your life or prove something to the rest of the world.
If you are impatiently waiting to receive your desire, you are unhappy in your current reality. However, you are directly defying Law of Attraction, as you must be happy in your current reality for your desire to appear. You might be impatient for a job, money or a relationship but that only creates more impatience.
When you know you are impatient and know you are trying to rush your desire, that is your awareness! You don’t feel that you have your desire – you are trying to rush it.
When you know you have your desire, you stop worrying about when it might appear.
When you enjoy patience, confidence and happiness, you clear your energy to receive.
Don’t be embarrassed about it – we’ve all done it. Just recognize it and change your energy into something better, clearing the way for manifestation.
When consciously manifesting, many start to fear the negative. They fear losing their desire instead of bringing it to life.
Some continuously battle their negative thoughts which can be deeply upsetting. These thoughts lower one’s vibration by saddening and exhausting them, creating massive fear.
Fear tends to be the most draining negative emotion of all. Sadness goes away when we focus on the generators of happiness in our lives; I truly believe that sadness can pass faster than one realizes, as one of the great human tendencies is to seek out happiness.
Fear is an empty, false emotion which enables us to scare ourselves to the point of mental paralysis based on the thoughts we’ve produced ourselves.
Fear tends to go away when one feels that external proof of their desire manifesting is present… But only short-term. Unless resolved, disabled and eliminated, fear will continue to return until removed.
The trick is to give your negative thoughts a positive meaning. Do you feel capable of doing this? That part has to do with your self-confidence.
When thinking about your relationship, you may be consumed by many fears connected to it instead of enjoying the happiness it brings. These fears did not appear to prevent your relationship from coming to you but for the purpose of resolving them. Don’t feel guilty for having these fears either – everyone has experienced them.
Often, there is a specific set of circumstances one tends to dread, causing the fear to keep coming back. The phrase of “nothing to fear but fear itself” applies perfectly, as being terrified of a “what if” scenario prevents the manifestation of your desires.
Not to mention that negative thoughts mean one doesn’t believe of having their desire yet; negative thoughts are just another way of expressing one’s disbelief in living their dream.
Let’s be clear – a literal scenario one may fear rarely manifests, if ever. However, one might become so paralyzed by the idea of this fear, lowering their vibration horribly and manifesting unrelated but also undesirable circumstances in life.
What is there to do when a scenario such as this one occurs?
Feel gratitude for your negative thoughts and consider why they appeared. The truth is, they are here to give you the chance for a permanent freedom from their prison.
When negative thoughts appear, say, “Thank you for these negative thoughts, as they point out my limiting beliefs. What do I believe about myself? Let’s resolve it. Why do I fear this-and-that? Because of my past? Because of how I feel about myself? Do I feel inadequate in this-or-that area of my life, my personality or because of my looks?”
The answers will keep coming to you. Face them without resentment or resistance. Be honest with yourself; don’t be embarrassed of your self-perception, as it can be changed to better. Nobody has to know you are thinking about these things; you can do it quietly.
Once you are capable of feeling gratitude for the good and the bad, the positive and the negative, the empowering and the weakening thoughts, you will be transforming all of them into positive thoughts. The negative will disappear after you’ve learned your lesson from them – you will realize why you attracted some positive and some negative things in the past. Once you start to focus on the positive sides of yourself and your life, you will be attracting positive things.
Most importantly, you must start seeing happiness as a natural thing!
It is natural that the person you want to be with should want to be with you. It is natural that the money you want to manifest should come to you. It is natural that you should live where you want to, wear the clothes that make you happy and work where you would love to. Fear is not real, therefore it should never stop you. However, facing it should set you free.