Dealing With Another Person’s Criticism of Your Appearance

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I recently changed my hair color. Many of my close ones liked it, loved it or commented of how striking it was…except one person.

One of the closest people to me told me my new hair color was “too dark” for me several times. Their opinion didn’t change my perception but I didn’t like hearing it either.

Then, I realized that it wasn’t the words I heard that lowered my vibration – every time this person commented on my hair, I was already on a moderately lower vibration than usual. I’d been tired or momentarily annoyed about something and right then, this person commented on my hair without me having asked.

So I got back on a high vibration. I pampered myself, chose positive thoughts, had nothing but positive expectations and nurtured my appearance. I started manifesting many things every day again and soon enough, I began receiving compliments for my hair from most individuals I would come across.

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I already loved my hair when looking in the mirror and then, everyone else told me how much they loved it, too. And the best thing was that I had partially raised my own vibration by looking in the mirror and loving what I saw, regardless of the disapproval from a person close to me.

I hadn’t questioned my love for my dark hair but this person commented on it being “too dark” in the moments my vibration was low due to other, unrelated momentary irritations.

It only matters what you truly like – not anybody else.

I wish I could tell you I had come to some new revelations as a result of this but I am simply going to continue to preach what I always do. It only matters that you always keep yourself on a high vibration for yourself, do what you like and expect to receive what you like/expect that everything you want is yours already. No one else’s opinion matters and it won’t make you happy unless you like yourself. You have to think about who you want to be and what will make you happy to have.

Criticism from others doesn’t come from them even when you feel like it does – it comes from you already feeling not so great about yourself. It comes from perceiving your own lack of value while being on a low vibration. When you engage in annoying thoughts about anything, you don’t believe the best of yourself and then, others don’t either.

When you’re annoyed about anything, you acknowledge that life isn’t what you want and your vibration continues to lower; however, when negative thoughts come and you pick yourself up by remembering how valuable you are and that what you want is yours already, you remember that you deserve and already possess everything you’ve set your heart on.

Confidence and self-love are even more important than you think, even when you perceive them as the most important aspects of life. There is no limit to their importance to our happiness.

You must put in the necessary work and discover what you truly desire. If someone’s words or behavior upsets you, this is a sign of being unhappy with yourself and until this part of you is resolved – not by receiving approval from others but by you – you will be preventing yourself from manifesting your dreams.

Switch to being a positive person from now on and watch everything you want come together soon.

Your Reactions = Your Awareness

Your reactions to appearances and external stimuli effortlessly show where your awareness is and with that, where you feel your current place in life to be.

Sometimes, it isn’t that we attract entirely different events or see the signs we want from the start; often, it is all about which ones we relate to and react to.

Here’s an example.

You hear two songs on the radio. One is almost heartbreaking and another uplifting. The one you reacted to positively or negatively indicates how you feel about the relationship you currently have or want to have. Your complete relaxation could be a positive indicator of confidence in your perfect reality. The sadness you feel might say a lot about your current relationship and your perception of it.

See what I mean? That is what Law of Attraction is about. What did you react to and how?

How do you want to feel, on the other hand?

When you see a happy couple, do you feel sadness for not having love in your life? Do you fear that you might be alone forever? Or, do you agree with their happiness, feeling that they deserve it? Are you happy for them, following that sentiment with gratitude for your perfect relationship?

Do you find a happy couple easy to relate to?

Who are you? Because who you are is reflected in your beliefs, actions, interactions and reactions.

Do you relate to your friends’ relationships or their sad dating stories? Do you feel that there are any similarities between the lives of those around you and yours? Who do you feel connected to? Ask yourself and answer honestly because those answers will give you an insight into your own awareness.

It’s time to create your life as you want it.

If you feel disconnected to those around you or are you comfortable around them? Who would you like to be in a close proximity to and see every day? Do you feel that this possible?

Your feelings about seeing any type of signs related to your desire also serve as proof to your awareness.

Seeing the sings that remind you of your desire can serve as a confidence boost; however, looking for them proves you are not yet convinced that your desire is all yours. If you need to see signs, you are not sure that your desire is yours already. When you know it’s yours, you’re relaxed and/or excited.

You are sure.

You are convinced.

If you feel that you don’t have your desire already, ask yourself why. Why do you feel incapable of manifesting your dream life? Are you sure you want it after all? Do you beat yourself up for any negative thoughts that cross your mind?

No one feels confident or thrillingly happy every second and you don’t have to either. You can manifest your dream life just as you are – you are good enough, smart enough, attractive enough already. You are worthy. All you have to do is own your qualities.

Remind yourself that simply because you’ve decided so, manifesting your desire is a done deal.

Changing your awareness means accepting a new addition to your identity. Just as you now feel that some things are out of reach while others are more likely to appear in your life, you can allow yourself to feel that anything is within your reach.

Your desires are within your reach.

Those who wait for the external world to reflect their desires in order to feel that they have them emit a signal of not having them, needing them and feeling desperate for them. Don’t beat yourself up if you have ever felt this way – you can change your awareness this very second. You can!

You can feel your desire within your reach. You have to be convinced that living your desire is who you are, that this is already your reality and a part of your life.

If you don’t mean it, you can’t do it.