The Law of Attraction can bring any two people together because it allows us to connect with the universal concept of living in love for another person.
The effect we have on another person when living the kind of life that makes us happy every day is one of their attraction for us being ignited.
It’s very easy to look at what we are not getting in a relationship or its manifestation, detailing the parts we wish we had never experienced or those that aren’t going our way for the moment. Today, we should ask ourselves, “Is the relationship I imagined going to be as good as the one I could have if I just allowed it to happen by letting my person express themselves the way they will? If I just gave it a chance?”
What if we didn’t scrutinize our specific person’s every move but allowed them to come to us and express themselves the way they will? What if we trusted that everything was about to work our and the current reality is simply not a big deal?
What if we loved our specific people for who they are, 100%, instead of thinking about the things we would love to change in them? What if we started thinking that the level of communication we do receive was enough instead of not enough?
You know what would happen?
We would grow. We would take the pressure off. We would start to think of ourselves as being in a relationship instead of not so. We would power through the period of dissatisfaction and started seeing our love life as abundant instead of lacking.
Let’s say you have a specific person in mind or are in a relationship with someone you love. But they don’t text enough. They don’t call enough. They don’t see you enough. You’re agreeing to things you didn’t want for yourself in life and half the time, don’t even feel like you’re in a relationship or are thinking about being alone instead of being with someone and feeling alone.
While thinking about what you don’t like in this setup can consume your life, what if you said, “Our relationship is great. I want him/her to be who they are. We talk plenty.” And then, you focus on your own life instead of thinking about what they are doing or what you want to do with them because it’ll happen. You talk plenty so you’ll see each other soon. What if you adopted this attitude?
If you did, you would attract even more amazing circumstances with this person than the ones you had originally imagined because complete love and acceptance first lead to immediate relaxation on your part and then to the person in question expressing themselves in an even better way than you had imagined.
When you begin to see your relationship (manifestation) so abundant in this way, you immediately create a presence in your own life which then makes you feel fully present in your relationship. You start to experience spontaneous visualizations of the two of you together. When someone asks, your initial instinct becomes “We talk a lot,” be that based on the visualizations or the current reality already (because if it’s based on just the visualizations, it will become your current reality soon enough!).
This is what I mean when talking about abundance. This is what I mean when I say we should relax around our manifestations. “We’ll talk.” “We talk a lot.” “We see each other plenty.” Even just based on the current reality because if what you have is recognized as abundant, you end up receiving even more.
Take a look at what you have in your relationship and recognize everything you’ve received, not everything you feel like you’re missing – soon, you won’t feel like you’re missing anything. You will start to feel like everything you have is plenty already.
And then, you will receive even more.
If we think of what our specific person “should” be doing to show love instead of allowing them to just get there, we will never feel like we’re receiving enough. This is how the human mind works and we must be aware of that. On the other hand, if we allow them to show it and allow ourselves to receive it authentically from their side, we will feel like they’re doing plenty to give us what we want.
This is love. This is acceptance.
This is you sending the message of, “You’re more than enough for me, just the way you are.”
And ultimately, this is what makes the Law of Attraction give you the love you want from the person you want. This is how you accept them, see yourself having a lot with them and once you do, this is how you manifest everything from them.
Unconditional love and acceptance, masked as not caring about what a person does or simply loving them for everything they are, allow us to manifest relationships rapidly. However, when forgiveness for the past or the present is involved, hurt feelings can get in the way of appreciating someone unconditionally.
It’s easy for us to accept the people we don’t care about or don’t perceive as important to our lives. On the other hand, those important to us are those we expect certain behaviors from and if our preferred behaviors are not immediately present, we can develop resentment or fear that our relationship is simply “not working out.”
The trick is to accept the person for who they are because then, we are able to imagine them treating us exactly the way we want to be treated. But if we don’t accept them to start, we won’t be able to imagine them being even better because we will continue to focus on their flaws and nothing else.
An dip into negative feelings can happen when we project our needs to the other person and expect them to fulfil those needs – in this case, we must ask ourselves if we are projecting onto them the needs we can only fulfil ourselves.
We don’t feel good when we are needy and this neediness often translates into wanting to receive more communication from the person. However, the way to achieve that is to imagine receiving this communication in the way that makes you feel good! You simply must give into good, positive feelings to make the Law of Attraction work – you want to imagine happily living your life with this person and being treated the way you want to be.
If you simply focus on them not doing what you want and not fulfilling your needs, you will lower your vibration and think permanently negatively of them as a result…and that will hurt your manifestation. Thinking poorly of someone translates into you seeing them not fulfilling your needs and not doing what you want, and your impression of the relationship growing in negativity.
Now is the time to ask yourself if you are asking your specific person to fulfil both sides of the equation – their own needs and your own? Because this doesn’t work. You have to do your part if you expect them to do theirs. Everything we give back, we receive in return.
When you love and accept a specific person unconditionally, they give the same to you.
On the other hand, when you are upset with a person’s behavior, they fail to give you the love and attention you desire and a relationship doesn’t manifest.
We must assume and visualize everything we wish to receive from a specific person while calling our negative thoughts false and paranoid. We simply must tell ourselves to think positive because only then can we assume the best of ourselves and everyone else.
We must only imagine the scenarios that make us the happiest.
There was an interesting period in my life when I wanted to change but didn’t know who the new me wanted to be.
Equally, I didn’t know who I wanted the new me to be.
That’s what makes us lonely – not knowing who we are. And when we attach an idea of who we are to another person, a lover or a specific person we want to manifest a relationship with, we feel lonely without them.
We need them.
We falsely worry that our life would be empty without them.
On a drive taking care of my morning errands an hour ago, I started thinking how much any kind of anger or frustration with another person just isn’t worth it. Ever.
We are to focus on our goals and not the people involved in them. Oftentimes, the people we think are involved in them are actually irrelevant to the process – it’s all about knowing that you have what you want already and you will soon become aware that nothing can prevent it from happening.
Instead of thinking about all those negative people from your past, believe in meeting only the best kind of people in your future. Not everyone is worth your time – focus on meeting those who are and only those that suit your goals.
Tailor your life to yourself.
If you want to repair your relationship with someone, they are already worthy of your love. You can repair your relationship by reviewing their positive traits and being grateful for the traits you want to see them display to you. Think about how they fit into your life, not how you fit into theirs – if you want to be with this person, you will believe that you’re already the perfect fit. Why would you think otherwise about someone you chose?
Why say that you want someone in your life but then say you’re not right for them? That would be a waste of time.
Why assume you’re wrong for a job or lifestyle you want, or that those are wrong for you? That would be a waste of time. We must assume we are exactly right for anything that would make us happy to have in our lives and that is how we’ll manifest it.
You have to assume that you’re right for what you want and that what you want is right for you – otherwise, why bother? If you don’t assume that what you want is right for you and that you are right for it, you will automatically worry about manifesting it whether you realize it or not.
We like to imagine ourselves having what we want but we also like to think about who we are.
Everyone has a Law of Attraction block to overcome at one point or another. To some, this is distrust in the process; to others, it’s a lack of faith in their abilities. To others, it’s focusing on the current reality and being so upset about it that it prevents them from thinking about the ideal. To me, this was forgiveness.
At some point in my life, I became very unforgiving. I had created an idea in my mind that those who deserve me simply don’t make a certain kind of mistakes one should never make in a friendship or a relationship and if they did, I would discard them and move on (in most cases).
And then, I realized that I simply didn’t think these people were worth forgiving and I didn’t truly want them in my life. That moment, I knew that I would someday choose a partner who was too good of a person to make the deal-breaker type mistakes but still wondered how I would react if they committed less serious errors out of poor momentary judgement.
I started looking around and realized that most of those close to me occasionally committed these casual errors already. When I observed my reactions to those errors, they were usually harsh and, as if the person had forever let me down, resulted in a deep change in perception I had of this person. Even when I knew these errors didn’t mean that the person who committed them was entirely wrong about everything, I still held them to poor esteem simply because I didn’t want to forgive, thinking that their casual error never should have happened and that their judgement simply never should have been so off.
And then, I realized that if I never forgave even the smallest errors, those unintentional, casual and forgivable mistakes, I would never keep anyone in my life. I needed to stop being so upset and unforgiving of others’ mistakes, and focus on the people who were actually worth forgiving.
Focusing on why the person is worth forgiving and on who they are was the key. If someone simply needs to think a little more before acting because their spontaneous reactions hurt you, bring it to their attention or simply visualize them treating you with all the attentiveness you wish to receive (and then believe they will – simply choose to believe in them!). Focus on what they did right and magically, they will start making all the right moves very soon. However, if you continue to be upset with them, they will keep making the moves you dislike. Feeling good about someone now ensures their more than positive displays towards you in the near future.
I find the majority of love advice to be encouraging of one’s constant focus on the relationship.
However, I personally find the perfect formula to be a mix of focus on the relationship and giving it the space it also needs by engaging in your own beloved life interests – they make us happier and then, we bring that happiness into the relationship.
I continuously encounter individuals who believe a great relationship is something they are entitled to.
A great relationship is something everyone deserves, just like any other blessing in life. Everyone deserves to experience happiness but those that receive it have in fact earned it with their positive mindsets, respect for others and gratitude for their lives.
Everyone deserves it but a positive individual earns it, allowing a happy relationship to come into one’s reality.
On the other hand, those projecting negative energy (be it frustration, desperation, negative self-image, impatience, rudeness or general dissatisfaction) are continuously preventing what they deserve, a great relationship in this case, to appear in their lives.
You get what you give; genuine appreciation for life, your own and those of others, ensures you will receive an abundance of goodness in return. You merely need to find that appreciation.
The idea of an amazing relationship being earned holds truth but requires explanation; stating this idea as simply as it looks in writing may evoke negative reactions instead of positive. One becomes worthy of a great relationship by viewing oneself in a positive light, focusing on everything they enjoy in life, respecting one’s unique qualities as well as the qualities of others and having personal integrity that ensures standing by one’s personal beliefs.
Many believe they must earn a great relationship by fulfilling requirements such as career success, a larger-than-life personality, financial wealth or being classically good looking. However, basic creation principles state that one’s beliefs create one’s awareness; for example, individuals who deeply believe they cannot earn a great relationship until they have a great job will encounter specific experiences reflecting those beliefs.
The truth is, the relationship you desire has nothing to do with your social status unless you decide to believe it. Those who stick to beliefs such as “Once I get a good job, I will have inner peace and be ready for a relationship” will most likely find that the job, the relationship and the inner peace continue to elude them. Postponing those experiences by masking them as future goals will ensure they remain distant goals, making it impossible to catch up to that “perfect future.”
Now, I am not saying your desires are irrelevant but for as long as you think “I’ll be confident once I have this,” you are creating a future goal that will always remain in the future. In reality, you must be feel deserving of your goals now, feeling confident in yourself before you can obtain them.
Contrary to popular belief, relationships have nothing to do with your social status, level of wealth, professional success or your looks. When it comes to relationships, you merely need to be confident in the person you are. You need to draw your confidence from internal factors instead of external. You need to recognize your personal qualities, the beauty of your physical traits, your intelligence and gratitude for everything you have in life.
One of the best ways to earn a great relationship rests in developing self-confidence, self-comfort and self-acceptance.
Amplifying those character traits with a positive mindset will allow you to focus on everything you love in life instead of everything you are currently missing. If you focus on your positive traits, you will effortlessly focus on your (potential) partner’s positive traits, enjoying your relationship immensely and solving problems in it easily. Suddenly, you will come to realize relationships were intended to be easy and enjoyable instead of being a constant ego battle between opposing sides. If you have an eye on a potential partner, you will be encouraged to communicate with them as you have recognized your own qualities while appreciating them for theirs. You will realize how much there is to be liked about you!
If you believe your looks are insufficient to evoke attraction in another, you will project an unhappy demeanor, tension and insecurity. The best part is, you can decide to focus on the aspects of your appearance you like instead. You can appreciate your beauty instead of focusing on the reasons it is less than perfect. This positive energy will evoke even more of the same, allowing you to feel increasingly great about yourself.
Ultimately, is there a real reason you should feel negatively about your appearance? Everyone holds a different idea of what beauty means. More importantly, we all respond to each other’s energy much stronger than any physical attributes – every time you were attracted someone who wasn’t your “type” proves that.
Do you compare yourself to others? This is another mistake which can prevent you from receiving life’s goods. Do you believe you must match an ideal another specific person represents to you while considering anything “less” to be insufficient? This mindset only states your lack of appreciation for yourself, as you feel undeserving of love. Even if you think your (potential) partner only wants the ideal you have imagined he/she must, it doesn’t mean you’re right.
We all know the story – one perceives their desired partner to be “too good for me.” “He/She is out of my league,” they imagine, never making a move or deeming themselves worthy instead. This thought process is perpetuated until the object of their affection meets someone else.
There are plenty of similar examples. However, it all comes down to the following.
Searching for the reasons to postpone living a happy relationship only shows that you doubt your own value. If recognizing the said value undoubtedly ensures finding a great relationship, what is the point of feeling inadequate?