How To Put Our Goal Preventing Issues Behind Us

How To Put Our Goal Preventing Issues Behind Us

We often forget that relationship focus and coaching exist beyond simply manifesting the relationship you want. Once it’s manifested, you must keep it, and you will do so by dealing with your deepest issues which every one of your relationship problems came from in the past. If you deal with those, Law of Attraction will draw even more love into your romance than you had before because resolving your issues results in feeling good about yourself, finally attracting your dreams as a result. 

That is how the process goes.

An existing couple is no different – they might get over a fight but the same issues will keep causing new ones in the future unless they are resolved. It’s not about the fight itself but about what causes it, and unless that issue causing a fight is addressed, it will keep coming back in different forms.

Some prefer to believe that the cause of a single fight was their partner’s reaction to our words, their words or specific actions; however, the cause of a fight lies in one’s (or both parties’) issues that have existed long before they even met their partner. When a fight happens, we don’t react to something we don’t care about. We actually react because our partner’s words or actions reminded us of an unpleasant feeling we’ve been holding onto for a while before we met them. We then project their words onto those feelings and end up upset, disregarding the notion they never meant to upset us and were just expressing themselves while we took it the way we did.

Fights can take over a relationship and we shouldn’t let them. Actually facing and dealing with those issues leading to them by causing us to be upset at someone’s words are what we should actually be facing. We have to be honest with ourselves about those issues if we want them to disappear and stop making us miserable, and we can make LoA work for us by doing so.

Issues can be dealt with in two ways – by thinking positive about ourselves and everything in our lives which leads us to easily resolving them by realizing we have outgrown them, or by facing them and realizing why they don’t matter anymore. Either way, it is by devaluing them because negative thoughts can cause misery if we choose to give them meaning.

We are much better off knowing our true self is stronger than any negative thoughts we may be holding on to. What hurts you doesn’t deserve you, and it certainly doesn’t deserve your attention.

Think well of yourself and think about those you love and admire. Focus on the people whose company you adore, and imagine spending time with them. All these things will shift your focus to personal happiness which leads to confidence in yourself and seeing yourself having what you want.

I have always had a very specific trigger to negative feelings in a relationship. I value feeling special and seeing myself as such, and when a boyfriend makes me feel anything but, my taste for the relationship starts to wane. In a relationship, I always give what I wish to receive by expressing how much my partner means to me yet my patience for being with someone who doesn’t express himself well enough has left me over the years. I want someone who dares to say what he means, has the courage to dive into love, be romantic and show me how much I mean to him.

In the past, I would summon enough love to see beyond hearing what I didn’t like but today, I want someone who sees and realizes that I want to be put first, because I put my  partner first. Those who have no interest in doing this can move along.

Sometimes, it is easier for us to say that we “feel like this is happening, that’s how it’s gonna play out” and let the Law of Attraction work – this particular mindset can be an easy way out when it comes to manifesting relationships, as we sometimes feel more natural thinking that the outcome is our of our control. However, even when we “can feel the relationship will go this way,” we are choosing this outcome for our lives!

Every “feeling” you think may have come from somewhere else was also your choice to acknowledge and embrace, and with that, give meaning to and decide that it was to be the outcome of your manifestation; now, since you know that, choose the outcome you want and decide that that one was meant to be! 

We choose the outcome of every situation, even when we don’t think we do. 

And at times, I focused on what I didn’t like to the extend that I had to decide if whether I wanted to stay or leave the relationship.

If the situation doesn’t suit you and you don’t want to fix it, walk away. Time is much better spent thinking about having what you want than disliking what you have. Some issues in a relationship we don’t care to fix.

If you want to fix your own issues on the other hand, preventing them from interfering with your future relationship with the right person, face them and realize that they’re probably outdated. Chances are you already spent a sufficient amount of time dealing with them and it is time to put them behind you – this very notion is often enough to stop thinking about a problem.

If you want closure, visualizing a positive scenario in which your issue has been resolved. Visualize injustice corrected and a chance to tell someone what you wish to tell them. Imagine this playing out in your perfect but positive scenario because visualizing it in a negative and upset way will not make it go away.

Then, you will automatically put it behind you for good. 

Thought of the Day – Attract Love by Being Yourself

Thought of the Day – Attract Love by Being Yourself

I suggest you celebrate yourself and your life.

Wondering how?

You have to play the lead role in your own reality instead of putting the person you want to manifest a relationship with first. You can prioritize them but imagine the relationship and your love as you want it and as it makes you happy!

I mean, being able to love someone the way you want to and have them love you back…don’t you love the thought of that?

Don’t you want that?

(The Idea of) Manifestation, Before and After

(The Idea of) Manifestation, Before and After

Do you put more time into thinking about your desire manifesting rather than living with it after it does?

The need for manifestation can be strong enough to tempt one into focusing on the manifestation part alone…but what happens after?

When one chooses to focus on the manifestation part alone, they are guided by need instead of love. True love for one’s desired life allows for seeing oneself living that life instead of just experiencing a high from a desire manifested.

When you think about receiving or living your desired reality, are you honest with yourself? Do you want to just receive your desired reality or do you want to live it every day? Do you see the difference?

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Positive Thinking = Active Lifestyle

Positive Thinking = Active Lifestyle

Positive thinking is a choice.

Positive thinking is an active way of living life.

To many, having their negative thoughts take over any attempt at positive thinking is a given. They are used to thinking negatively, fearing or feelings helpless yet they deserve to be happy.

A friend told me they find it so much easier to drown in negative thoughts because that is what they’re used to. This person also told me they don’t seek out a positive mindset or advice on it because it’s just easier to stay put, not even ask and keep things as they are. Even if it doesn’t feel good, at least it’s comfortable.

Positive thinking is natural – those who refuse it feel poorly because they go against what is organic. And that is happiness.

Thinking positive thoughts is active. It is a choice. This means making a choice of redirecting your feelings and lifting up your mood when the bad one strikes. It means relying on yourself and your active belief that things are going to work out to match your hear’s desires.

All it takes is a little bit of steady practice. Continuously thinking in a positive way can become one’s entire awareness, especially because it produces positive results.

Positive thinking also means being patient. Positive thinking increases patience by removing the need for the manifestation. Positive thinking allows one to see their desired manifestation in their mind and with all those factors combined, manifest fast.

One will manifest as fast as they can stay focused on feeling great!

If you choose to think positive, you will eventually reach the point where positive thinking is effortless. The sooner you relax, trust yourself and stop rushing, the sooner you will get there.

I know that thinking positive without effort is your goal…and you can reach it. We adopt novelty into our subconscious minds through the conscious so choosing to think positive will eventually become a habit. This is why I suggest affirmations, especially when in doubt. Whenever you feel lost, affirmations can help you. Be persistent with them and your struggles will end.

Desire to feel great and you will get there!

Believe in yourself. If you do, you will get there.