On a drive taking care of my morning errands an hour ago, I started thinking how much any kind of anger or frustration with another person just isn’t worth it. Ever.
We are to focus on our goals and not the people involved in them. Oftentimes, the people we think are involved in them are actually irrelevant to the process – it’s all about knowing that you have what you want already and you will soon become aware that nothing can prevent it from happening.
Instead of thinking about all those negative people from your past, believe in meeting only the best kind of people in your future. Not everyone is worth your time – focus on meeting those who are and only those that suit your goals.
Tailor your life to yourself.
If you want to repair your relationship with someone, they are already worthy of your love. You can repair your relationship by reviewing their positive traits and being grateful for the traits you want to see them display to you. Think about how they fit into your life, not how you fit into theirs – if you want to be with this person, you will believe that you’re already the perfect fit. Why would you think otherwise about someone you chose?
Why say that you want someone in your life but then say you’re not right for them? That would be a waste of time.
Why assume you’re wrong for a job or lifestyle you want, or that those are wrong for you? That would be a waste of time. We must assume we are exactly right for anything that would make us happy to have in our lives and that is how we’ll manifest it.
You have to assume that you’re right for what you want and that what you want is right for you – otherwise, why bother? If you don’t assume that what you want is right for you and that you are right for it, you will automatically worry about manifesting it whether you realize it or not.
The other night, I was in a deep discussion with a friend as we were driving around the city at 2 a.m.. Sharing experiences of recent and not-so-recent encounters with men, her accurate grasp of relationships absolutely amazed me.
When we stop expecting drama, does that mean we have actually grown up?
Does expecting abundance and peace around us instead of life’s curveballs void of personal growth potential but dramatic to the core mean we have finally figured out what it’s all about?
Does expecting the best instead of expecting the road to get bumpy mean we are ready to live at peace with ourselves, our minds and other individuals, and feel love for life while knowing that our dreams belong to us?
Does a desire to happily coexist with others mean that we are ready to love ourselves and everyone else?
Because to me, positivity is maturity. Inner peace is maturity. Maturity is emotional stability which is both happy and attractive. When you’re at peace with yourself, don’t you just see the light and realize how much you have to offer, focusing on what you have instead of what you are lacking?
All these questions have a lot to do with your inner peace, your natural happiness and your appeal to other people, including those you have set your sights on.
When you’re happy, you naturally see yourself having what you want.
Happiness is being your true self and being proud of or at least happy about it, no matter who it is you feel happy being. As long as the main reason for being and expressing your true self is love, you won’t see any reason not to.
Love can be stifled when others tell you to not be yourself but only if you allow it. Love cannot burn out unless you put it out yourself. When you’re happy just being yourself, you are experiencing and feeling love. You are livingit.
You can be happy seeing yourself in your current or desired reality as long as you don’t sink into bad mood when remembering your current reality post visualization, for example. Being grateful for what you can in your current will you bring your desired reality about.
Just like every time I manifest a life change, my current reality seemingly starts to fall apart; there’s beauty in that because that makes it easier to leave.
In order to manifest a new reality, you must be prepared to give up the current, even in a single aspect. If you want a relationship, you must be ready to give up being single, especially if it has become your comfort zone. If you want wealth, you must be ready to deal with having money from now on – taxes, an accountant and banking might be take up a little more of your time from now on. If you want a job, you must be ready to work and want to spend your days doing so. You must want to wake up and go to work.
I believe I have found the way of ignoring my current reality every time I want to manifest a new and better one. This is also a way of turning the negative into the positive.
I always say one must be happy in their current reality in order to manifest a better one. Our minds keep us away from what we believe is negative for us.
Every time I start to manifest a new reality, I am grateful that my current one is hectic in a very particular way because that means I’m leaving soon.
I have also manifested desired change when I felt perfectly happy and satisfied in my current reality. Both ways work because they both mean no resistance which allows letting go.
When my current reality isn’t enough, I seek happiness elsewhere. I visualize and soon manifest the current reality I truly desire. When focusing on my new reality, I find it OK to be in my current because current boredom makes it easy for me to see a happier one. We naturally gravitate toward happiness.
There are several desires I have been entertaining thoughts about and for the past few days, I have been increasingly happier about them. Yesterday, that happiness escalated, leaving me to feel super calm and loving about those desires while prompting my current reality to start to fall apart.
The following occurred yesterday and it shows exactly why living my life happens to be the most exciting thing that has ever happened to me. While we manifest our new realities, our personal energies rearrange and make room for the new by weeding out the old – sometimes, this turns into chaos. A chaotic rearrangement might confuse some, making them think that their life is falling apart but in truth, it is actually coming together to become what they want it to be.
My hairdresser called me at noon to come in at one. On the way out, I ran through a pavement cleaning project, muddying it slightly. Even though I hoped to make the bus to my destination because it practically leaves me at its door, I tried to do some banking beforehand, missed the bus and had to cab it. Somewhere on the way, a man slipped me his phone number which I forwarded into the paper recycling container in the street. My hairdresser had a scheduling conflict but having plenty of time, I backed out of my appointment and asked if I could have another attempt at the bank while she took care of business. No one else was at that bank so I was done in a minute but on the way back, one of my sandals completely fell apart in the middle of the street and I had to walk back to the salon completely barefoot. There was no supermarket nearby to even buy an emergency pair of flip flops in. My hairdresser gave me cleaning wipes and lent me a pair of shoes while my mother, whose appointment was booked later on, brought me another pair to wear home, as I had to throw out my entirely broken platforms which I’d owned for five years. I tend to love to wear my shoes until they break but this was the first time they ever broke on me. While I was in the hairdresser’s chair, drinking coffee and getting my hair done, I got a sudden case of violent cough. And I never get sick, not even when I’m tired. Everyone knows that! From the chair next to mine, I heard a sign of one of my current desires which I had even seen coming and immediately knew it was coming true. I like to think that a lesser woman would have been worried if her desires would still want her in this state but I refused to be rattled.
If you want to see the sexy pair of shoes I had to wear home, scroll down to my Instagram shots. The good part was that they were ridiculously comfortable. After getting my hair done, I had to pick something up at the mall with several passers-by staring at my shoes.
Paying zero attention to the current reality means being OK without my desire until it manifests. For me, letting go is all that comes with accepting the current reality.
For as long as my current reality is filled with good stories, I stop paying attention to “improving” it. I like a dynamic reality and eventful day-to-days. There is no comfort zone here.
My feet still ache from the hot concrete pavement I had the pleasure of feeling yesterday. The featured photos are of me yesterday evening, tired but safe at home.
At various times, I mentioned being the person you admire. This concept entails self love, confidence, appreciation and possessing specific character traits you admire. For others, this concept means being perfectly satisfied with yourself, considering yourself perfectly fine, if not great, just the way you are already. Some want to improve upon their self image and others like their own already.
Those who want to improve upon their self image are advised to take actions that reflect being the person they wish to be. If you want to be more outgoing, think about the way you want to approach people and what you would want them to see in you. If you want to be more emotionally open, decide that you are courageous enough to engage in any emotion-filled conversation or that you are ready to start showing those you love how much they mean to you.
You get the idea.
And, you can use LoA to get there.
One of my friends wanted to relax around other people. This person was often concerned whether or not others were quick to judge and was afraid of looking silly; with that, my friend worried that everyone else was more interesting, attractive, intelligent and fascinating.
In truth, one is advised to take qualities they admire and apply them to oneself. Think about it – what is it that makes you interesting, fascinating, attractive… Which specific traits do you like about yourself and how could you develop those you want to add to the list?
Another friend of mine made a point of communicating with every person they were attracted to. This amounted to a quick exchange in some cases and a date in others but my friend eventually relaxed around their persons of interest greatly, especially after realizing the problem was self-imposed in the first place.
Whatever you struggle with, never feel like you are less important or interesting than others. Everyone has struggled with something at some point and your personal struggles are not embarrassing. All of us excel at different things but deciding what you wish to excel at when it comes to your personality will take you to your desired awareness.