It’s good to offer more and more examples of how the Law of Attraction translates into real life.
I used to attract out of need…but not in the way it sounds.
I would have a need to be in a relationship, manifest one and then, after my need was fulfilled, I would move on to my next momentary need (which was usually travel).
During this phase, I was thinking short term. I hadn’t thought about the things I permanently loved. I was living for the experiences rather than love.
And do you know when I realized that living for experiences meant acting out of need in my case?
When I realized I was more focused on not being bored than enjoying my life. I was focused on not experiencing what I feared instead of experiencing what I loved.
For as long as this phase lasted, I was all about keeping my life interesting. And then, I realized I could make it interesting no matter what I loved to do, even if it wasn’t something I ever imagined loving or enjoying in the past. So, this phase brought on something great. It brought answers. It brought me to the core of my passions and made me see what it was all about.
Love for what we do is enough to make the thing in question interesting for ourselves. When we accept what we love and accept that it can bring us an interesting life, we achieve blissfully relaxed awareness. What if tomorrow, I decided to become a mother when I couldn’t see myself ever doing so in the past? I would enjoy everything it entailed. What if I decided to completely turn my lifestyle around and become someone I never thought I wanted to be? If it was something that truly made me happy, I would enjoy it very much.
It’s not what you do – it’s how much you value it. And if you do, and stand by your choice, you will enjoy it and you will make it interesting. Which is great because in order to attract it into your life, you must be able to see it being yours – and what we enjoy, we can see ourselves having.
Sometimes, it’s almost like we forget what we want and therefore forget to stay focused on it.
Think about it – if you stay focused on what you want for several minutes at a time but then refocus on something else and later forget what it is you wanted while allowing your negative thoughts to take over? If this happens, it means you didn’t put enough positive feeling into the idea of having what you want.
When you think about having what you want, how do you truly feel? Are you happy? Because if you are, even a little bit, you won’t be able to convince yourself of not being where you want to be even if you tried!
We have to remember what it is we want as much as we have to remember that it’s ours already. More often than not, it’s as if one forgets what they want and simply start thinking about what they don’t want.
This revelation came completely unexpectedly but it makes perfect sense. If the Universe knows what we want, why would we ever engage in what we don’t? The Universe knows but we have to put our faith in it in order to receive!
There are multiple desires we have which make us happy. I love to think about a world that treats all animals lovingly – this goal fills me with love. It feels like the most important goal in the world. This is why I also encourage nothing but positive thoughts and treatment of others. Fair enough, I haven’t always nurtured positive thoughts about others but I know how unhappy it made me; then, I realized that I and my obvious, well-deserved happiness are the only important factors whereas those I dislike are simply insignificant to me. Let them find their own company that likes them. We must earn our likeability by being a good person and feeling good about ourselves because no one likes the negative, the arrogant or the empty. Nothing impresses me less than the people who contribute nothing to the world, and the only thing one needs to contribute is their self-love. That’s right, self-love, because those who have it also love others and actually change other people’s lives.
A positive person can change someone’s life with just one encounter.
When you’re happy and positive, it’s easier to stay focused on your desires; when you’re negative, it’s easy to forget them altogether.
As most of you know, I travel to, stay in and work from different countries but in the recent years, I have set up camp in my birthplace to which I return after each trip. Just like in various others, I have taken jobs in Zagreb, Croatia that were all speaking, workshop giving and seminar teaching engagements.
I recently wanted to manifest another collaboration opportunity here. Let us begin.
As I have said before, the first opportunity won’t always be the one when manifesting a specific goal. If you’re manifesting a job, your first interview or offer might not be what you want and it is up to you to stay positive and keep going. If you’re manifesting your ideal appearance, maybe it’ll come together one step at a time instead of all at once. If you’re manifesting your soul mate, it might not be the first person you go on a date with (but it also might!).
And as I was reminded, the first opportunity you stumble upon might be a complete opposite of what you want in a work engagement.
Since the field of education in this city is an efficient network and I taught university seminars for students and professors for two years, I was referred to another private school for a similar opportunity. They were looking for someone to give a lecture or a workshop in CV writing and interview skills, and I was given an email address for the person in charge. I wanted to be offered lecture dates with satisfying compensation I am used to receiving so I sent an email detailing my work experience and professional goals.
Twelve hours later, I received a reply. The person in charge of booking the lectures outlined exact demands my work experience was perfect for. We both agreed that the needs of this school were exactly what I offered but their email was concluded with the following lines.
“I must tell you though that our school does not offer compensation for these lectures. 🙂 ”
Yes. They put a smiley face at the end of that sentence.
“So, what do you think? Kind regards!”
I was baffled.
A private school in which students pay tuition on a regular basis wanted to hire a lecturer willing to work for free. What did I think? In the following email, this individual proved to be made aware of the unappealing terms but at the same time, those terms were not up to them.
After a few seconds of laughter, I realized I wasn’t even all that surprised. Local organizations offering fair compensation and looking for exceptional candidates are well aware of ones like this damaging the reputation of everyone in the field. One of the people that referred me to this position was borderline outraged, having been unaware of these terms.
I declined the offer with the following statement.
“Thank you for your email but given the terms, I will have to pass on this opportunity.”
Not to mention that the word “opportunity” evoked sarcasm in my mind.
Unless it’s valuable volunteer work, a private university that values their collaborative force so little is of no interest to me. To be fair, they didn’t reach out to me – I reached out to them after being referred to them. I thought they might be my next collaboration opportunity, a desire not specific to a country, city or school, but maybe this means I should get more specific in my goal and I will reach it faster.
Looking at it from the point of view of both the Law of Attraction and peculiar business practices, I find it very interesting that a private university whose staff routinely complains about a lack of quality in the skills of their student body isn’t willing to invest in someone who would improve those skills. And what are those students paying tuition for, if they are not getting the skills they need by the very admission of their own university?
I wanted to point some of these things out because quality of education and fair compensation are highly important topics in today’s world, as they have been at any point in history. But in the spirit of why we’re here on this blog, we could argue their Law of Attraction skills or we could argue mine. They give nothing and then complain about having developed nothing in their students. I will keep going and soon receive everything I asked for, just like I always do.
You get what you give – LoA tells us that every day. Last university I worked with in this city gave me one of the most valuable experiences of my life and having had such experiences, I wasn’t going to let this one take advantage of me. Unless you value yourself, how can others see your worth? What you accept for yourself sends others a message of the kind of treatment you deserve.
I am having new ideas on collaboration manifestations as we speak.
Have you ever been involved with someone who has a negative influence on you in terms of you having a hard time accepting them yet still wanting to be with them and then, attracting problems into your own life as a result of a perpetually low vibration?
This usually happens when you love someone whose behavior in the current reality upsets you.
Want to know a secret? We’ve all been there and there is nothing that we can’t reverse in life with LoA so in reality, there is nothing to worry about. It doesn’t matter what situations you put yourself in – you can reverse them and their effect on your life.
LoA sometimes suggests that we can do anything without consequences but that’s not true. A low vibration due to whatever one has done is the worst consequence of all – that’s why we should always do good and expect good.
You will reverse someone’s impact on your low vibration by deciding that you are the most important person in your life and that nobody’s behavior should have the power to influence yours; with this, you will know that you must take care of your happiness first and attract a specific person second.
You will take care of your happiness first by pampering yourself, enjoying your friends or manifesting new ones – oftentimes, manifesting friendships can be easier than manifesting relationships and you should use that! Create your own identity first with a desired career, lifestyle, friends and pampering yourself/knowing what makes you happy. Once you have defined yourself, manifest a relationship.
Unless we know who we are, we cannot be happy with another person because we won’t know what exactly it is that makes us happy. We first have to decide.
In the past, I thought that one could simply wait to discover what they want and then manifest it; however, when I thought that, I had forgotten an important point I had always known in life.
One cannot grow into the person they wish to be unless they think about who exactly they want to be, what kind of person they wish to be and what exactly makes them happy. We have to think about these things until we find the answers – otherwise, we will go through life getting used to being in the comfort zone of “searching” for ourselves and never actually finding ourselves.
And once we know who we are and what we want, we will be able to manifest it.
We should expect nothing less than our desires manifesting and if we’re going to receive them, we must know that what happened in the past doesn’t matter because the moment you change your awareness and declare your intention, your present life is going to change. Your desire isn’t to be manifested in the future but in the present; the moment you ask for it, it’s yours entirely.
We can only produce miracles if we see no boundaries.
Be confident in the person you are. If you can do that, you will find out what makes you happy, who makes you happy and what you want to do with your life. However, knowing you’re an amazing person is where it begins.
Not thinking about the current reality is so liberating and pleasant that I never want to think about it again.
I only want to think about my dream scenarios and let them come to life without my even noticing.
I used to write poetry and fiction, became a published author in my preteens and eventually, decided that I preferred writing about real life. Fiction can never be as powerful as real life, no matter how much it is based on it.
Some people have asked me whether Law of Attraction was fiction or not. Some perceive visualization and the concept of living as if to be fiction for as long as it is different from “real life.” However, current reality and visualization of an ideal one are equally real, as one’s ideal reality must be seen as real in order to manifest into the current.
If you perceive visualization and living as if as fiction, how can you ever allow it to become your current reality?
You can’t. You have to believe in the possibility of your ideal reality becoming your life in order to allow it to happen.
Believing in living your ideal reality is not as scary as you think. I know it’s easy to hesitate to imagine living your ideal life for several reasons – fear of loss, fear of success, breaking out of your comfort zone… Yes, these things sound scary but as soon as you try, fear begins to fade. If you did it just a few times, it would go away completely.
Do you fear losing what you have or worse, losing your desired manifestation before you attract it?
Fear of loss (or, fear of failure, if you prefer) usually happens after experiencing an unexpected loss in life – loss of a job, a relationship or one’s happiness or confidence at the least expected moment. The moment one finds oneself blindsided by something they thought would never happen to them, usually a break-up or something of similar magnitude – big enough to cause confidence issues but not so big that the damage is irreversible – fear of loss is created, causing insecurity and self-doubt. And when it comes to manifesting one’s desires, fear of loss works even before one manifests their desire, keeping it at arm’s length.
One’s desired manifestation is closer than they think but the fear of loss keeps it from manifesting in the first place.
I don’t want to say that you can’t lose what you never had in the first place because you can have anything you want if you believe it; however, I will say that the desire to have specific things in life always comes with fear if it stems from need.