Mark my words – things will pick up when your happiness becomes the only thing you value and everything and everyone bringing you down comes to be so irrelevant that you don’t even register their existence.
Even when it involves others, everything one creates in life is an expression of themselves.
Two people can harbor a friendship while seeing it with completely different (pairs of) eyes. One of these friends may feel they have a friend who will always be there while the other might feel they sacrifice much of their time for a friend while getting less in return. This banal example means that each of these two individuals holds a different self-perception/awareness than the other, resulting in different events manifesting in their lives.
These two individuals think differently of themselves and therefore perceive their lives to be writing two different stories. The second friend might be less and less motivated to give to the first because something we are missing in life (a version of unconditional support, in this case) makes us unhappy. The second friend may also decide to improve the friendship or move on – also a sign of self-perception, one’s desires and everything they believe to have deserved.
Look around you – you have created everything you have. Your job, your house, your salary, the relationships you have with those you love – how you feel about them reflects how you feel about yourself. You may have taken what you have for granted at times while all of it would have meant the world to someone else.
On the other hand, someone else may have everything you do but feel differently about it. They might live in an apartment of equal square footage but consider it too small while deeming themselves incapable of owning one they truly want. They might hold the same kind of job as you but feel differently about it. They might see themselves owning something you want but are unsure you can have. They might not see themselves as someone who can have many friends while you do.
What do you value? What are you missing, if anything? Is there anything you desire but feel unworthy of? Is there something you know you will soon receive? I am asking because a change in your self-perception will result in a change in your life.
Just like you have created everything in your life, you can intentionally create what you want and for that to happen, you have to become someone who is convinced they’ve got it all. When you believe you’ve got it all, you will indeed. Abundance perceived is abundance obtained.
In order to be a happy one, your life has to be a true expression of you.
Is your job a true expression of who you are? In what way are you expressing yourself throughout your job? Are there aspects of yourself you feel the need to mask at work?
Is your lifestyle a true expression of you? Do you live just as you wanted or do you compromise in order to satisfy the needs of your family, friends or partner?
Is your relationship a true expression of who you are? Are you living it just as you want to or have you compromised on its crucial aspects because you felt insecure to seek out what you truly wanted?
Are you receiving desired reactions from others? Do they see you as you see yourself?
Our lives are genuine expressions of ourselves if they are what we wanted them to be. It doesn’t matter when any of us realized what we truly wanted, just that we did. It doesn’t matter if throughout life, some of us have changed our minds about what we wanted, as long as we realized where our hearts were.
On the other hand, if one knows they’re not living the life they truly want, they have forgotten themselves. My question is, is it really worth it?
It’s never too late to start being yourself.
I went out for a friend’s birthday last night. It was great until about 3:30 a.m. when the quality of music dropped. I became desperate to go home and this morning, I woke up with a headache. I feel like I must have attracted it due to complaining, even just to myself; on the other hand, it could have been due to slight exhaustion from staying up for twenty four hours, swimming for four in the morning and then dancing for another four in the middle of the night. Either way, I need a painkiller, as my second coffee alone isn’t helping right now.
When you live seeking out your personal joys, you also begin to desire a healthy amount of quiet, recovery days, which feel even better than you can imagine.
Living with the purpose of enjoying ourselves and also enjoying some quiet time prevents you from having enough energy to ever engage in overthinking or even negative thoughts, benefiting your well being and directing your focus to seeking out even more joys in the days to come. And today, all I wanted was some quiet time. I wanted to not think about anything besides some work, some food and some TV. I needed to unwind.
As it tends to happen, physical pain can cause negative thoughts just like any other physical sensation does. I felt so bad physically that I started to have odd thoughts; however, I soon realized that it wasn’t any serious fear acting as a cause of these thoughts. I was just hungry and a body running on empty affects one’s mind accordingly.
This has happened before and I would always divert from negative thoughts…if I wanted to leave the situation badly enough. When I was hospitalized for appendicitis surgery, I summoned the motivation to start feeling better and be released. When I hated my second high school (our of three, in three different countries), I summoned all the motivation I need to manifest moving away with my family once again. But I didn’t want to leave my bed today which made it difficult to manifest a change in circumstances. So I just decided to manifest a headache away and magically found a painkiller even though I was convinced there were none left in the house. But the Universe always provides. I still have no idea where it came from.
After the painkiller kicked in, I could feel my body relaxing and was sure my confusing thoughts were about to disappear. I wanted to sleep but also work at the same time. Then, one of my best friends called me which made me very happy. I needed something wonderful to do and I had found it. I knew that if I distracted myself, my negative thoughts would pass, even though they made no sense to me at all. I believed my brain was just tired.
Negative thoughts passed as soon as I took something meaningful from them. Suddenly, I got to know certain answers and believe it was the Universe’s way of helping me relax even more. The Universe had sent me a message that said, “Don’t even react. None of our negative thoughts ever make sense!” I knew it but then remembered that over the past week, I had been working on a new theory of removing them, all for the purpose of a new book I’ve been working on. Now, I was given a chance to test my own theory by observing the thoughts that came from physical discomfort, and I have gained new insight into dealing with them. I have been asked about this by several readers and clients, and have always looked for new ways of removing those thoughts that bother so many because it is my goal to make lives easier.
Let’s face it – most of our negative thoughts are self-imposed and not at all connected to the people or situations we assign them to. If you simply let them pass, no matter how weird and uncomfortable they feel, or remind yourself they are meaningless and irrelevant, you will come to a point where they feel so ridiculous that you won’t even understand where they came from in the first place.
Law of Attraction advice isn’t just about getting what you want – it is also about relaxing yourself so that you could imagine having what you want which is the necessary first step. Much of the Law of Attraction advice can be explained in elaborate stages but it always comes down to the simplest concepts – feel the positive, ignore the negative, believe in what you want before you see the proof of it and don’t be afraid. Maybe it is the reminder of those concepts that holds the biggest Law of Attraction lessons, as the point is to remind yourself of what you already learned in order to create new, positive habits.
Negative thoughts seem even more distant now that I’ve just let them flow and had said to myself they were entirely self-imposed. I can look at their triggers and say, no. I have witnessed enough paranoia to make me realize that we don’t put ourselves into another person’s intentions by thinking negative thoughts about them but do so by thinking positive. We choose to engage in negative thoughts and perceptions about certain situations because of what we think, not because of the nature of that situation. We must stop perceiving our negative thoughts as some kind of threat – they’re simply here to tell us what not to think.
The less we think about how to remove any negative thoughts and the more we ignore them, the sooner they will go away. I could explain it in as many ways as you can imagine but it all comes down to this same idea. You might wonder how exactly you should distract yourself and the answer is, either by ignoring or persistence. Do something you enjoy until you forget about those thoughts you’ve been having, ask yourself why you have them for the purpose of realizing they only come from you or simply choose to think about something else. Just don’t think about “what they mean” or you’ll end up assigning meaning to them, scaring yourself in the process.
In short, if I only have negative thoughts when I’m tired, hungry and suffering a headache, they are completely self-imposed, not to mention circumstantial. Observe your own negative thoughts – do you recognize the same patterns?
Still happy, over my headache and ready for bed. Good night!
We simply must know what kind of life(style) we want because knowing what would truly make us happy is the key to manifesting it. Unless we know, we have to settle for letting the Universe provide it but then what do you do in the meantime? Isn’t it better to discover what would make you happy on your own and then visualize it while knowing it’s yours already?
If it isn’t better to do it this way, you can always ask the Universe to show you your true happiness and stay patient while allowing it to happen. But if you want to discover it yourself, you will live a life of trying different things and having fun with them until you find your ultimate bliss.
One of the things I always, always, always (!!!) wanted to have as part of my lifestyle was traveling. If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you know I started manifesting not just traveling but living in various countries on various continents when I was fourteen.
Recently, I have been asked why my personal manifestation methods are so relaxed that they don’t actually involve much “doing.” All they involve is living and visualizing.
Every time I try to manifest but felt tense or dissatisfied with what I was thinking about (usually due to certain dislikes in my current reality), I manifested the things I was oddly curious about which weren’t necessarily pleasant. I would manifest staying away from situations that made me feel uncomfortable or like I was compromising my principles but I didn’t always manifest entirely great situations as an alternative. However, they were all interesting, unique learning experiences…but do you want to know the best part?
Have you ever, for any reason, forgotten this very simple idea?
You must not obsess about the “how” or any other details of your manifestation but only keep your eye on your ultimate goal!
I imagine myself abundant because it makes me feel good.
I see myself abundant in quality of life, luck, money, intelligence, beauty, charisma, finesse, respect, positive experiences, friendships and love. I see myself abundant by living in a world I appreciate simply because it makes me happy.
Seeing yourself abundant should make you feel great and then, Law of Attraction is going to work for you rapidly and magically.
Look back on every time you received something in life simply because you wanted it – didn’t it feel good and just easy? It did, because you liked the thought of having it. Now, use those same thoughts to imagine living your desires.
Do you know why I always say “Don’t trail the person you like on social media?”
Because if you do, you think they’re better than you are. You think they’re cooler, happier and have more power.
You assume they don’t feel the same and that you have no chance with them, all because they’re not messaging the exact moment you are indulging in your attachment.
You prioritize them when you should be prioritizing yourself.
Knowing your desire is yours but not seeing it in your current reality just yet can be frustrating. At this stage of manifestation, you might be wondering what you’re supposed to be doing or simply how to distract yourself when the thought of having your desire makes you so excited that it is all you can possibly think about.
At this stage, you might be tempted to start “doing” something to make your desire manifest faster but please refrain – in this exact moment, you should simply distract yourself by doing other things, especially enjoying the things you have time for now but won’t as much once you have manifested your desire.
Every change of circumstances changes a life. With every new chapter, we have a little less time for some aspects of the previous. There are things you could be enjoying right now that you won’t have as much time or energy for once your desire is manifested so focus on them instead. In turn, they will allow you to let go of your desire entirely only to see it appear in your current reality faster than you think!
This change of focus is more beneficial than you might currently realize.