You Have to Focus on Yourself to Attract Your Person

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In our friendships, family relationships, work, school and financial success, you already know that we want to feel deserving in order for Law of Attraction to manifest our desires. We also want to be able to clearly see ourselves living our desires, just as we could once see ourselves having everything we do now. Unless we live in happiness and self-confidence daily, it’ll be difficult to feel deserving of our desires or clearly visualize living them.

You are probably happy with your career or other areas while your love life causes you confusion. Why isn’t it equally easy? Why can’t you see yourself happily living the relationship you want? You easily attract money, great friendships and generally feel confident about yourself so why isn’t love the same? Are we meant to struggle, and why?

Usually, we struggle because we focus on the other person instead of ourselves, and begin to dwell on what they might be thinking, whether they like us or whether we can manifest a relationship with them. These questions are the cause of struggle, and we want to turn them into belief and self-confidence.

Today, your struggle is over. Your mindset will be re-framed, and you will easily begin to attract a better love life. You may have been trying to figure out how to create a love life that keeps you happy every day and live in the relationship environment of your dreams; you may have also been wondering why this hasn’t happened yet. You may be feeling positive for most of the day, only for your focus on your goals to get lost in worrying about the current reality by the evening. Why is your life, partially or fully, filled with things you don’t want? It can be upsetting, and you deserve the support.

You can achieve the kind of positive thinking you’ll just sail along in, and manifest your relationship with it.

If (a part of) your life isn’t filled with dream-come-true circumstances just yet, you are not feeling loving enough towards yourself or confident enough in your desire. In terms of LoA, self-love means believing your desires are inevitable, and confidence in your desires means thinking about them or visualizing them with love, knowing that you want those specific desires and nothing else.

With that, you must contradict any negative thoughts with an affirmation of your belief – decide that these thoughts are meaningless, and your desired direction is exactly where life is going to go.

Especially in a relationship manifestation, you have to put your desire of the next chapter in the first place. Then, decide and believe that your specific person wants to be with you! Decide that they want you because you make them the happiest they’ve ever been because you love them the right way, and treat them the best they’ve ever been treated – if you want someone’s love, you have to be prepared to give them yours. Make them feel special and you will feel good about yourself in the process.

You have to focus on feeling good about yourself in order to believe in the possibility of your desire! We usually feel poorly about ourselves when we focus on everyone else and ignore putting our own lives and confidence first.


All these examples rest in thinking positive about yourself and the person you chose – this is your priority, if you want to manifest a relationship with them and are sure that this is your true goal. I remember a relationship that ended in my mid-twenties. Moving on was much more important to me than getting back together – I wanted to be happy every day, having decided that moving on would get me there much faster. I had pinpointed my priority, as we should do in any manifestation because the more specific we are, the faster we manifest. Had my priority been to get back together, I would have to put myself on the pedestal. I would have had to praise myself, affirm my qualities and feel deserving of a miracle the Universe had the power to manifest but not without my belief. We have to rely on the Universe in this case, and not the behavior of “my person” in the current reality.

If a relationship is your priority, you have to focus on directing your thinking towards it. You should visualize and get used to thinking about “my partner/spouse” daily! Let “my partner/spouse” be the first thought you have when your person’s name comes to mind and your desire will begin to change rapidly. It will be miraculous and you should embrace that miracle.

What kind of mindset will help you achieve this focus? The better you feel about yourself, the better you’ll feel about the relationship so it all comes down to you. Everything you manifest is about your mindset, even a relationship with another person.


We attract everything. Everything. When we fear that our specific person will choose someone else over us, this isn’t something that’s happening outside of our control – this is something we are manifesting. Our person can be interested in someone else but the moment you affirm that they are only interested in you, you begin to attract it instead. Then, you must stay positive every day, throughout any circumstances. Visualize what you want to see, and you will soon see results.

If you want to be with someone, don’t analyze their every word. This is how misunderstandings happen. I have certainly seen people giving up on their significant others just to regret it later, and usually due to a perceived offense that had nothing to do with one’s true intentions. We often take the said offense and decide that the person is wrong for us after the first time they say the wrong thing but what if projecting our insecurities onto their intentions is the real problem?

Half or most of all marriages today end in divorce so maybe we should rethink our approach to love, relationships and communication. For one, maybe we shouldn’t give up on people so easily. Maybe we shouldn’t assume their motivations to be negative. Maybe we should assume everyone is simply doing the best they can.

Maybe we should take equal responsibility in the dynamics of any relationship; if we do, we will be able to focus on ourselves. Dwelling on what happened in the past ends when we take the responsibility for our part of it and only after doing so can we know whether or not we truly want to be with someone.

What happens if you’re unsure that the person you want can make you happy? The core of this question lies in being unsure of what you want. Only when you feel good about yourself will you know what you truly want. If the thought of being with your person fills you with love, manifest a relationship with them. If the thought of being with a different (kind of) person does, manifest that instead. However, even this takes self-focus first. You can’t even discover what you want without focusing on yourself, looking within and deciding where you see your happiness.

There may be days when attracting your relationship is not easy! But is it still worth it? Only you know the answer.