Dealing With Another Person’s Criticism of Your Appearance

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I recently changed my hair color. Many of my close ones liked it, loved it or commented of how striking it was…except one person.

One of the closest people to me told me my new hair color was “too dark” for me several times. Their opinion didn’t change my perception but I didn’t like hearing it either.

Then, I realized that it wasn’t the words I heard that lowered my vibration – every time this person commented on my hair, I was already on a moderately lower vibration than usual. I’d been tired or momentarily annoyed about something and right then, this person commented on my hair without me having asked.

So I got back on a high vibration. I pampered myself, chose positive thoughts, had nothing but positive expectations and nurtured my appearance. I started manifesting many things every day again and soon enough, I began receiving compliments for my hair from most individuals I would come across.

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I already loved my hair when looking in the mirror and then, everyone else told me how much they loved it, too. And the best thing was that I had partially raised my own vibration by looking in the mirror and loving what I saw, regardless of the disapproval from a person close to me.

I hadn’t questioned my love for my dark hair but this person commented on it being “too dark” in the moments my vibration was low due to other, unrelated momentary irritations.

It only matters what you truly like – not anybody else.

I wish I could tell you I had come to some new revelations as a result of this but I am simply going to continue to preach what I always do. It only matters that you always keep yourself on a high vibration for yourself, do what you like and expect to receive what you like/expect that everything you want is yours already. No one else’s opinion matters and it won’t make you happy unless you like yourself. You have to think about who you want to be and what will make you happy to have.

Criticism from others doesn’t come from them even when you feel like it does – it comes from you already feeling not so great about yourself. It comes from perceiving your own lack of value while being on a low vibration. When you engage in annoying thoughts about anything, you don’t believe the best of yourself and then, others don’t either.

When you’re annoyed about anything, you acknowledge that life isn’t what you want and your vibration continues to lower; however, when negative thoughts come and you pick yourself up by remembering how valuable you are and that what you want is yours already, you remember that you deserve and already possess everything you’ve set your heart on.

Confidence and self-love are even more important than you think, even when you perceive them as the most important aspects of life. There is no limit to their importance to our happiness.

You must put in the necessary work and discover what you truly desire. If someone’s words or behavior upsets you, this is a sign of being unhappy with yourself and until this part of you is resolved – not by receiving approval from others but by you – you will be preventing yourself from manifesting your dreams.

Switch to being a positive person from now on and watch everything you want come together soon.

Showing Interest in Someone Makes Them Interested in You

Men and women are often being told that showing interest in a prospective partner makes them look needy, desperate or pushy, and that those who don’t care are the ones who get the girl/guy instead.

Those giving and taking or worrying about such advice take an important ingredient out of it – the Law of Attraction which says that your beliefs and intentions translate into who you are, meaning that only what you see possible for yourself can manifest into your reality.

Only those open to relationships can actually find themselves in one. What we believe is possible for us is what we’re open to in our lives. If we believe that something else is impossible for us on the other hand, we are automatically closed off to receiving it.

If you find something impossible, how can you be open to it happening? Belief is what creates the openness to receiving.

Those who seem not to care about relationships are not indifferent to them – they only see relationships as something normal, natural and possible for themselves therefore they don’t need to worry about them.

If you’re open to relationships, you easily see yourselves in them. If you want to become open to them, you will affirm gratitude, look forward to them and believe in yourself while knowing that love is meant for you, sticking to this attitude until manifestation occurs.

If you’re closed off to people, saying there are no good ones out there, you are not open to believing that love is possible therefore love cannot appear in your life. You’re the one blocking its way in. You’re the one keeping it out.

If you are closed off to relationships, you obviously believe they’re not possible for you, finding yourself single as a result.

You must look forward to relationships and actually like people, especially the one you fancy, to manifest a loving relationship with them. Focusing on your specific person’s faults and a lack of faith or fear will close you off to receiving love, as fear and love cannot coexist.

I had gone through a phase in my life when I didn’t like anyone. I was completely closed off from appreciating the male gender. Whoever was interested, I immediately knew I wasn’t at first glance, effectively killing their interest as a result. I was being asked why I didn’t have a boyfriend and knew the answer all too well.

The truth is that I genuinely didn’t want to be with anyone that moment. However, I didn’t expect them to want to be with me either after sensing my lack of interest. I advised my friends to actually show interest in their own specific people – having realized that the best way to spark someone’s interest is to show your own interest in them, I was aware that happiness and openness are magnetic qualities that attract other people into our lives. This is what boosts your magnetism. Happiness and true confidence prompt openness to others which is very attractive to all while a closed off mindset attracts no one except maybe those who think they don’t deserve any better. People who advise being careful and closed off are effectively telling you how to kill your own attractiveness.

Now, being careful has nothing to do with boundaries; in fact, creating personal boundaries has everything to do with self-love, self-confidence and a personal sense of value. You know what you deserve and the more self-love you engage in, the more you believe you deserve. And, you do because you give as much as you know you deserve. You respect others and demand the same in return. This is a concept many tend to mistake for being closed off.

If you love yourself, you love and see the best in others. You also begin to immediately distinguish those worth your time from others that aren’t; you can tell apart a heart driven individual from one that isn’t so.

Now, the following is what makes the world of difference.

When you are a heart-driven individual yourself, you become attracted to those with their own sense of self-love, confidence, strong personal identity, focus and value. Yet if you live your life fearing disappointment, brooding on your past perceptions of failure or expecting the worst from your desired person and relationship, you will attract the behaviour or the people you will find it difficult to believe in and feel good about.

If you want to be with someone, you must believe in them whether you met them yesterday or share a painful past together.

Those you share a painful past with will treat you differently once you treat yourself differently.

Everyone will treat you the way you treat yourself and come to value you as much as you value yourself sooner or later.

Happy and confident interest in someone spells out quality. They will admire and be attracted to you as a result.

If you care about a specific person, enjoy talking to them. Don’t think about anything you are not “getting” from them. Visualize them happily being in your life and appreciate them even if you don’t vocalize it – that invisible energy is what attracts someone to you, whether or not you speak to them. This is LoA.

But if you do, speak to them with interest and positivity. Appreciate them and value yourself.

If You Think Law of Attraction is Fiction…

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I used to write poetry and fiction, became a published author in my preteens and eventually, decided that I preferred writing about real life. Fiction can never be as powerful as real life, no matter how much it is based on it.

Some people have asked me whether Law of Attraction was fiction or not. Some perceive visualization and the concept of living as if to be fiction for as long as it is different from “real life.” However, current reality and visualization of an ideal one are equally real, as one’s ideal reality must be seen as real in order to manifest into the current.

If you perceive visualization and living as if as fiction, how can you ever allow it to become your current reality?

You can’t. You have to believe in the possibility of your ideal reality becoming your life in order to allow it to happen.

Believing in living your ideal reality is not as scary as you think. I know it’s easy to hesitate to imagine living your ideal life for several reasons – fear of loss, fear of success, breaking out of your comfort zone… Yes, these things sound scary but as soon as you try, fear begins to fade. If you did it just a few times, it would go away completely.

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THOUGHT OF THE DAY

If you have the patience to allow your desire to manifest, you love it and truly want to live it.

If you are impatiently rushing your desire into your existence, it is possible you (only) want it to validate yourself, raise your self-confidence, want to use it to increase your happiness, add value to your life or prove something to the rest of the world.

If you are impatiently waiting to receive your desire, you are unhappy in your current reality. However, you are directly defying Law of Attraction, as you must be happy in your current reality for your desire to appear. You might be impatient for a job, money or a relationship but that only creates more impatience.

When you know you are impatient and know you are trying to rush your desire, that is your awareness! You don’t feel that you have your desire – you are trying to rush it. 

When you know you have your desire, you stop worrying about when it might appear.

When you enjoy patience, confidence and happiness, you clear your energy to receive.

Don’t be embarrassed about it – we’ve all done it. Just recognize it and change your energy into something better, clearing the way for manifestation.

The Phases of Loving Your Life

Loving my life has always been a rich source of self-confidence and motivation; a passion for living and effortless feelings of value are produced easily in a life filled with love for itself.

Feeling deserving, riches of the world yours to choose from, being happy for everything you have while knowing that even more is coming… Loving one’s life is the essence of abundance.

Think about it.

No matter what it seems like, you do have plenty in your life to be grateful for. You have plenty to love. These may be different things and different people to each and every one of you.

But what happens on the days when we don’t love our lives?

I experience moments of annoyance with my life, during which I remind myself that everything I have, I created myself and am therefore capable of changing it. I can create everything I want and the Universe showed me that many times over.

I can easily experience frustration when someone tries to “keep” me around. A temporary workplace trying to keep me, friends wanting me to stay close to them when I plan on moving away, exes who refuse to accept the end our relationship or any other situation cause gratitude for being loved together with frustration for trying to be held down… And they make me run like the wind, never looking back. In moments such as those, I feel suffocated, followed by an immense need to remove myself from these individuals or groups as soon as possible.

Once I remember that I have created everything myself, I forgive myself for being frustrated, calmly keep my distance from those I want to be distant from and go back to creating my dream life. Or, I allow for those I want to stay on good terms with to realize what I need instead of what they would want for or from me.

Then, I put that energy towards increasing my burning desire to make my dreams come true. I feel grateful for the motivation.

We can turn anything into something beneficial for ourselves.


What does loving your life mean in relation to the Law of Attraction being all about you instead of the person you are attracting into your reality?

Loving one’s life increases one’s confidence when attracting another.

I have brought specific people into my life on numerous occasions boosted by the conviction of showing them something they’d never seen before. Owning my uniqueness makes me feel good and therefore, boosts my creation. How do you identify yourself? What makes you feel good to think of yourself?

It isn’t that you have to possess specific superficial qualities in order to attract your dream relationship; you simply have to own the person you like to be without allowing anyone else’s opinion to affect your true preferences. Any traits and preferences can be backed with confidence and turn you into an attractive person. Daring to be who you wish to be gives you confidence and produces your happiness, the most magnetic of qualities.

If you feel incapable of achieving this, think about it this way – are you happy when depending on the opinions of others? Or, are you happier when you only cherish your own approval of your desired activities and preferences, immersing yourself into them without caring what anyone else thinks?

Many deem their lives “nothing special,” creating bland events and circumstances as a result. Some deem their jobs boring and others, their general interests, forgetting (or, not knowing) those are circumstances external to love and therefore, irrelevant for it. Nothing is related to love but the feeling of love itself, causing many to forget that money, social status, occupation, distance and other falsely perceived obstacles are irrelevant. The world’s insisting on making them relevant allows us to see whose heart is closed and whose is open.

If you are displeased with your life, change it for you; it is you that has to be happy living your own life. 

The Raise in Vibration Extras

A raise in vibration causes us to pick up extra money, desirable circumstances, opportunities and people on the road to our desires. Once arrived (to the feeling of the wish fulfilled), the sheer enjoyment of having your desire in your life can attract even more of the same or other very favorable perks.

Have you ever felt like you had no one in your life at all but at different times, you had several suitors at once? Or, just when you found someone who made you happy, everyone else was lining up to do the same? This is a classic case. Once finding another, that one person you’d been harboring feelings for suddenly seems to want to be your dream come true.

That happens because…

Happiness brings out our value. The feelings of happiness cause us to act and feel like a person of value, rendering the same image of ourselves in another’s eyes.

As a woman, I have observed many times over that men are attracted to women of value. When value is within a woman unconditionally, it doesn’t matter who she used to be or what she did in life. All that matters lies in who she is right now. With the Law of Attraction, all that matters is how you feel right now – all we have to work with is this very moment.

Since manifesting entails enjoying the feeling of the wish fulfilled before your desire appears, others are sometimes hooked along the way before you physically arrive to your specific person. Then, you have a choice to either continue to energetically pursue your end goal or decide that another person you’ve “picked up” along the way is your new choice, you true heart’s desire.

Has this ever happened to you?

Once faced with the choice, it is only positive if it truly comes from the heart. If you wake up one day and realize that the person you thought you wanted isn’t the one and never will be enough for you, you have made a decision from the heart. They will realize how you feel but that’s OK – this is life. On the other hand, if you opt for another because you think you could never have your specific person of choice, this is a decision made out of negativity or sadness and you risk attracting more of the same into other areas of your life. You have already settled and that decision in your subconscious will ensure even more settling in the future, unless you love or truly begin to appreciate what you have. However, if you know that this isn’t what you want, no amount of affirmations will convince you otherwise.

Have you ever settled for less simply because they were an easier choice? Compromised what you truly desired because you felt undeserving of it, fearing you would lose it soon after obtaining it…?

On the other hand, have you ever truly found better?

There is another way of receiving even more you asked for – receiving even more magic than you asked for in the specific desire you have manifested. When this happens, one feels deeply blessed.

Believe that you can have everything you wanted, and more.

You must be aware of how you feel right now. Thinking you’ll be happy “Once I get there” shows you still don’t believe you are there. If your sense of value is high, your actions will reflect it. You will be motivated to give a lot. You will be happy every day. You will refuse to feel any negativity towards your specific person/relationship, knowing you are receiving the life of your dreams with them because that is the only possibility.

Then, you will get everything you want and more.