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Do you have a problem feeling good about yourself no matter what you have or, don’t?
Is this you?
- When you think thoughts of having your desire, you always end up back in the same old negative place after a little while.
- Your fears keep coming back even when the current reality starts to turn into everything you have asked for.
- You always assume that things will go wrong at some point.
- No matter what you do or how much you manifest, you just don’t feel “right.”
There is a difference between feeling good about having your desire and feeling good about yourself.
If you don’t feel good about you, you run the risk of manifesting your desire but not keeping it in your life. Feeling poorly about yourself can prevent you from seeing yourself living your desire permanently, even if you can see yourself receiving it initially.
Let’s face it – self work is the part many attempt to skip, pushing themselves to believe their desire belongs to them instead of repeating affirmations about themselves in addition to their desire.
And why is that part important?
You are supposed to feel good about both yourself and your desire. If you don’t feel good about yourself without your desire, you won’t even after it manifests. This is the biggest reason your desire cannot fix your life or your awareness – only you can do that!
Many also attempt to skip over the self-work part due to the impatience to manifest their desire as soon as possible. However, they continue to feel poorly, blaming the lack of their desire for this state of mind when in reality, the state of mind itself is the problem.
Your decisions about your life come first. Your awareness comes first and your thoughts second. This is why you can face your negative thoughts and say, “No! I asked for what I want and that is what I must receive.”
You must start to rely on your conscious decisions and insist on them instead of your uninvited negative thoughts. This is the reason why you can say, “I asked for my desire and that is what I must receive.”
You can ignore those negative thoughts because only you consciously decide who you are and how you live your life. You decide what makes you happy. By ignoring these thoughts and saying yes to your conscious decisions and nothing else (or, less), you are respecting yourself. You are only accepting what you want.
What to do…?
After coming to realize that your awareness and conscious decisions come first and your thoughts second, you are to focus on every bit of positivity you feel about yourself. You are to tell yourself why you deserve your desire.
Then, you are to start to finally be happy without your desire. When you have a problem being happy, you are advised to examine why instead of think about your desire.
Are you trying to tell yourself that you want something but ignoring your true nature and needs in reality? You need to face those first.
If you know that there is a part of you which is unhappy no matter what, ask yourself why. Ask yourself what it is you honestly want.
If you want something that you don’t want to want, admit that you want it any way. At least in part, admit to yourself that you might want other things than your desire, even only occasionally. After facing those thoughts, you will get to know yourself and you might just change your mind, realizing your desire is enough after all.
Never chase the idea of living a specific life but think about the kind of life that makes you truly happy. If you want to manifest something just for show or just to prove your power to yourself, it’s not worth it. To manifest, you must feel good and if you are simply trying to fulfil your needs, you are not feeling good.
It is time to focus on living your life instead.
What is it that makes you happy? Do it. Put yourself first, not your desire. Putting yourself first equals feeling good so if you must resolve your lack of happiness with yourself and admit to yourself why it is there, do it.
Be important enough to yourself to do whatever it takes to make yourself feel better, even when it takes profound self honesty. Face yourself and remember that no matter what you find, you are worthy of love and can start to give it.
At various times, I mentioned being the person you admire. This concept entails self love, confidence, appreciation and possessing specific character traits you admire. For others, this concept means being perfectly satisfied with yourself, considering yourself perfectly fine, if not great, just the way you are already. Some want to improve upon their self image and others like their own already.
Those who want to improve upon their self image are advised to take actions that reflect being the person they wish to be. If you want to be more outgoing, think about the way you want to approach people and what you would want them to see in you. If you want to be more emotionally open, decide that you are courageous enough to engage in any emotion-filled conversation or that you are ready to start showing those you love how much they mean to you.
You get the idea.
And, you can use LoA to get there.
One of my friends wanted to relax around other people. This person was often concerned whether or not others were quick to judge and was afraid of looking silly; with that, my friend worried that everyone else was more interesting, attractive, intelligent and fascinating.
In truth, one is advised to take qualities they admire and apply them to oneself. Think about it – what is it that makes you interesting, fascinating, attractive… Which specific traits do you like about yourself and how could you develop those you want to add to the list?
Another friend of mine made a point of communicating with every person they were attracted to. This amounted to a quick exchange in some cases and a date in others but my friend eventually relaxed around their persons of interest greatly, especially after realizing the problem was self-imposed in the first place.
Whatever you struggle with, never feel like you are less important or interesting than others. Everyone has struggled with something at some point and your personal struggles are not embarrassing. All of us excel at different things but deciding what you wish to excel at when it comes to your personality will take you to your desired awareness.
When evaluating our negative thoughts, their origins and current form, we may be tempted to blame our pasts, parents, exes or misfortunes for all our limiting beliefs.
The truth is, everything one allows into one’s belief system creates their reality. One’s past, parents, exes or misfortunes were merely the vehicles offering specific beliefs which are one’s choice to accept or reject.
Taking responsibility for your limiting beliefs which attracted your experiences is a great way to raise your vibration. No matter what it takes, you may choose to hold onto the negative feelings or break free from them. If you genuinely want to and know that you can, you will emerge on the other side a more positive individual than you ever knew you could be.
Just to be clear, I am not saying you have asked for your specific negative experiences to manifest in your life. I am not saying you deserved them. I know that fear can be paralyzing and I don’t blame you for being unable to escape it at certain times in your life. I am merely saying that where you are today is the only thing that matters right now. From here, you can create any kind of life you want. If you genuinely want to be happy, you can and will achieve your bliss. If you genuinely desire to overcome your troubles, you can.
I’ve experienced breakups, unemployment, living in a place I hated profoundly and insecurities. Once admitting that I’ve attracted these things into my life with my temporarily negative attitude, I was already on my way to fixing them.
Once I admitted to myself that I felt guilty about not genuinely wanting to be with a boyfriend, having second thoughts, that I picked fights with him because I wanted out and made mistakes (having not loved him enough), I could make peace with a break-up and move on.
Once I became grateful for being unemployed, having all the time in the world to spend with my friends, family and dogs, go to the gym and travel for pleasure as much as I wanted to, I would find employment according to my exact specifications. During this time, I always knew that the job was mine already, already on its way to me. I just knew. That was all I needed.
Once I became determined to find the good aspects of living in a specific place which I practically hated, I got the opportunity to move. I decided to make friends, tutor students, learn to play drums and join a choir. I was also Suddenly, I got to miss school for a while and during this absence, I found out my family was to move away. I was beyond grateful.
Any and every insecurity I’d ever experienced ended when I decided it would – that was how much I wanted to be confident and happy. I knew who I wanted to be and filled this idea with pure passion. This is why having the clearest possible idea of what you truly desire is vital to your success – knowing what you want and how you want to feel can only be experienced without resistance once it resonates with your heart.
Does this sound familiar?
Taking responsibility for your past comes down to making peace with it and leaving it behind instead of bringing it back into your reality. It comes down to being unburdened by it or simply taking all of its positive aspects into your present – nothing else. The “taking responsibility” part comes down to one decision and much positive recognition to follow.
Do you feel that a negative experience from your past is preventing you from being yourself?
If a negative experience you once went through was simply too painful to attach gratitude to, finding only one positive outcome it had will already raise your vibration. Maybe your negative experience made you stronger. Maybe it raised your awareness of specific issues in the world and motivated you to help others. Ultimately, will you break free from the prison of this negative experience and claim your happiness? Because you deserve it.
If you think you can’t, consider the benefits your present situation of being stuck brings.
None. You already knew this. Now, imagine how amazing you would feel if you overcame your negative experience – don’t you think you deserve that much happiness?
Recognizing one positive outcome that came out of your negative experience is enough. It might even be enough for you to entirely make peace with the said experience.
Once you’ve made peace with your past and taken responsibility for your thoughts, fears and actions, you can put all the passion in the world into your desire.
That is how I often create.
Everything I received rapidly, I’d put endless passion into. If I couldn’t see the way something would happen, I would decide that a miracle would occur. I rely on my decisions, trust the Universe and in turn, I have experienced more miracles in life than I could almost believe. I intentionally manifested a move to another continent at age fourteen. Every relationship I’ve ever been in was manifested intentionally, with a specific or a generic person at a specific time. I received double the fees I had asked for my work. Leaving the creation part up to the Universe feels right to me, which is not to say that I never took any specific steps towards a specific desire.
When you know it’s yours, you know what to do.
However, you won’t believe it could be yours until you’ve rid yourself of limiting beliefs. Taking the responsibility for them will allow you to receive your desires. There is no reason to hold onto those limiting beliefs – you already know that, too.
Making peace with one’s past rarely means making peace with others in it; it was who you were that caused your life to happen. Your decisions, your convictions, your reactions to others.
Making peace with your past self is the answer. With that you, the one you had to be in order to become who you are today.